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Honesty Equals Loneliness
Posted by earthlingorgeous • 5/21/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Ugh I'm being sentimental lately... here's my post earthlyexplorations.blogspot.com/2008/05/honesty-equals-loneliness.html:P (shameless blog promotion?) No honestly I want your opinion....
Why is being honest so rare these days?
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Hmmmm... thanks Robert try this? earthlyexplorations.blogspot.com/2008/05/honesty-equals-loneliness.html
But really is honesty a long forgotten realm? -
Here you go sweety, emoticons are fun but you can't put them at the end of your url
earthlyexplorations.blogspot.com/2008/05/honesty-equals-loneliness.html
@Rob, I was calling Gorgeous "Sweety", not you
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lol MIKE! hahaha yeah I noticed that too
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Honesty doesn't equal loneliness. I am very honest.
Oh wait. . . .Maybe you're right.
Nah, people love me for my honesty -
Oh, almost forgot to mention. That is a little hard to read with the text color almost perfectly matching the background.
Sorry, EG, you wanted Honest -
I appreciate your honesty Mike ♥
Yeah, I read your blog and your remarks in there , particularly about your underwear and the fat girl hahahahaha... honesty can be hilarious sometimes refreshing! -
Just a note: That post was not about a "fat girl", it was what she was wearing and her amazingly high self-esteem. I applauded her for her self-image in that post.
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Posted in wrong place.
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In a time of universal deceit, telling the truth is a revolutionary act.
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so let's all forget about honesty and wait until we are all buried with lies and the lies becomes the truth?
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um, no.
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Ha. Fitting for George Orwell to say that one. -
haha sorry I am just being sarcastic? frustrated? why there are too many unhonest people these days?
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People seems to value their own comfort over truth these days.
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so that concludes my presumption... honesty is equals loneliness... when your brutally honest people evade you because you offend?
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Unless of course, you take comfort in the truth, and telling the truth.
I have a passion for coming closer to the truth. A lot of my efforts involve simply taking out the garbage.
I for one, am not lonely in my honesty, It is liberating as you say, and it is a beautiful romance of being true and coming closer to truth. -
and find like-minded souls ... of course, it tests how willing you are to be brutally honest to -
Exactly. Also, the truth is only brutal to those that do not want to hear it.
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yeah I agree with that... the truth stings to those who don't want to hear it
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I think many are afraid of being honest becuase there are so many out there that are so easily offended these days. We are in this state of having to respect differences, If one speaks out honestly, there is always someone that throws out the "that's offensive flag." Or "your truth is different then mine." etc...
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hmmmm... I think if we all were used to being honest and take whatever is said (if bad) as constructive, I think honesty is the best way to go it's liberating and you don't have to live with all the lies or "white lies"
you don't hurt people with the truth but you make them realize. -
exactly, if one is always honest, it is easy. and I agree, it is liberating. Not to mention, "If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything" - Mark Twain
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Like morgantj said, many people are so easily offended, triggered.
Sometimes, honesty is act of courage. You have to be willing to be shouted down or, perhaps even worse, be prepared to disappoint someone you are entwined with in some way. Perhaps, we are so attached to people's approval, affection, admiration, usefulness ... that it is seductive to not rock the boat. Being equanimous to the outcome, honesty naturally follows. -
yup Morgantj you don't have to remember anything and if you are not hiding anything you will not be afraid of the truth
@linmei yeah we always seek aproval compromising the truth, it will take a million years to change this attitude... or never at all... acceptance is one of the basic needs in the heirarchy -
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Ah yes, "attachments," the cause of much suffering. -
but when you are too detached they will call you an Ice Queen waaaaaah I've been called that way
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Morgan I ♥ you!
Yes, you are right. The truth hurts, and people want comfort, not challenges.
Sometimes, and in some ways that is OK, but that lifestyle has intruded on every aspect of life, relationships, honesty and free speech. -
Being honest/forthright and being offensive/rude are two different things, but I think many get them confused.
www.hodu.com/just-rude.shtml
I have never found being honest equaled loneliness, but there have been times where it has attracted contempt especially as a mother of a marine (an example is when I stated I was against the IRaq war from the get go and during the height of patriotic frenzy).
What I have difficulty with are emotional liars, people who don't have the guts to admit they don't like something or find they are having a problem with something and start to harbor resentments. Trouble is they don't have the communication skills to talk about it and take the cowards way out and just fester. -
Anok, I am not brutally honest but when the occassion calls for it I am, I don't want my right to be stepped on and if I have to be bitchy about it so be it, they can live with their lives and be "friendly" to everyone but not me.
Jafarbit, yeah emotional liars are real cowards.
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Watch House MD...you'll see the relationship between honesty and loneliness-
hahaha yeah he is brutally honest and people avoid him
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I love house!
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yeah satire rocks! you always find yourself saying "that is so true"
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Gorgeous...I'm not afraid to be alone. I'm afraid to forget a mistruth. I also lived with lies and telling lies at one point in my life, and frankly, the rush of freedom and release of stress from being accountable and responsible was far more refreshing.
I'm not perfect. I live with that. I figure that if I can, then others should. We're asking politicians to live without indiscretion, and everyone to say things that don't hurt ANYONE's feelings. I'd rather hear your rant, and then have discourse for understanding, and if there's a need for apology, or retraction, then that's accountability based on truth. That's my role in life now. I have only one person to control, but I have many to mold. Realizing the difference will make the truth more valuable to people around us.
Consider one drop in a pool of water, and watch the ripples spread to all areas it can find. That in an ocean can be considered a wave.-
Alone is different from lonely, I too am not afraid to be alone than to live with pretences, lies and secrets.
I agree with you some people lie because they don't want to be responsible and accountable, they are cowards.
I like things out in the open than keep it to yourself or else it will come out in another way, like maybe acne or skin disease, illness etc. or it may come out as an explosion.:p -
Or it could just kill you without warning...like cancer. And wouldn't we all have less to hide if clothes weren't such a part of society? Hard to lie when you know it's all hanging out.
That's not a plug for nakedness, but it does make you think...
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hahahaha being honest and being a nudist is different hahaha
Kill me without warning, this is already a warning
But if people were used without clothes I think rape wouldn't be an issue as you will be warned as soon as you see the attention! hahaha!-
That is a valid arguement...gives a whole new meaning to Seeing them coming.
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'Seeing them coming' hi hi hi hi hi
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hahaha dark angel
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As a woman, I see that men don't want honesty. They want to hear that they are the best thing since the creation of world. So if you get close enough to express some needs of your own, they are gone!-
I don't think men are that bad. Just as many women aren't open and honest in their relationships, either. I think its still a matter of connecting with the one person you can trust...then building the honesty and trust further through mutual attempts.
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I guess honesty starts when you have build trust... when there is not trust everything will be filtered out...
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Gorgeous ? Is that you on the cover of the Vogue Magazine?
"Honesty is the best policy." There is good reason for this motto. It is true. You can be honest and leave out some things. One doesn't always have to be so frank in putting what one wishes to say, "Out There."
Every person experiences loneliness. It is how we deal with this time alone, which molds our character. One can be lonely in a huge crowd. It's what's in your head that matters. "Be here now." In the present.-
hi theresa yup that's me
And yeah about leaving out some things that is what I meant by filtering what you have to say.
And yeah it's all in the head, insecurity, frustration, loneliness, if you don't think too much or worry too much about your image to the world it doesn't really matter.
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Crap..honesty is not rare
Honesty = loneliness ...self indulgent garbage
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@T :-)
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well, acousticguitarist I applaud you if there are lots of people around you who are sincerely honest and doesn't filter stuff...
when I say being honest = loneliness, they seem to think you are arrogant and detached when in fact you are just telling the truth. -
I only see honest people everywhere
change your friends fast
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I go out of my way to be honest. The result? Never had a girlfriend, but I've had plenty of D&D campaigns.-
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Fill me in please. What does D&D mean? Thanks.
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Dungeons and Dragons
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Isn't that an addictive and scary game?
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It's fun, if that's what you're asking.
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lol theresa Doom3 is scary but fun I like!
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@earthlingorgeous
Unfortunately, there is so little contrast between the rust colored background on your blog and the font that I cannot read it
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Timetief sorry for that I guess not everyone has 20/20 vision
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why is honesty so rare these days? because society is losing it. values are like ropes of sand. great lyrics by the way. i love billy.
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yeah Home Haven I think society is losing it, and it's scary.
I love Billy too nice balads great for sentimental moments haha especially Just the way you are
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I love being honest. The people I hang out with think it's hilarious when I speak my mind. Obviously you need to be careful what/how you say things, but all in all, honesty is ideal for people who want friends that are positive and realistic. Also chicks dig it.-
LOL!
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Yes, I have found that too. My friends think my honesty is funny too. Obviously because so few people are, it is out of the norm. The good think is after people get to know you and know you are an honest person, they know they can trust you.
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I am alway honest, but there is a thing called tact and diplomacy. Sometimes just being quiet is best, but at times, that can also be dishonest.-
exactly!
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I always lie. Paradox! Paradox! Wow.-
What?! You never stand up, go walking...
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hahaha Daniel!
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I like it that most or all BlogCatalog members are so nice and positive about this topic. It is really refreshing to know that there are lots of people in this forum who are polite and appreciate to talk about honesty and loneliness without being nasty about it like they do in many other forum sites out there. Congratulations to all!-
I guess livingstrong everyone out here has the same question in mind and are looking for answers?
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I like to think that as bloggers, we're already a little more enlightened than most IM users or chat roomers. Bloggers tend to want to find ways to say things with flare and character, and I hope that we all have it in the back of our mind that it is important to back all statements with fact.
I realize many bloggers are creative types, but they too have the enlightenment to work for truth in discussion, even if they are working with fantasy as creative ideas.
This is why I enjoy talking to bloggers. -
Hmmmm... I have to agree with you some haha... bloggers are thinkers chatters are chatters haha
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Loved the post. I love Billy Joel as well. Honesty is probably the most important virtue to me. If you can't believe what someone is saying, why even communicate with them.
No, that's not true. I was lying.
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lol Robert... well it's good to be here in BC everyone speaks their mind... some get offended some offend but still the honesty is there and it makes you realize you are not alone ... but alone and lonely are different ugh lol.. thinking out loud again
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I agree, gorgeous. This is a great place to be.
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yeah and great place to meet people and honestly I am learning about culture difference of the East and West
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You have a great looking blog. I read the post...interesting. Not everybody wants to hear the truth. And to speak the truth you must be honest.
I'm not sure that being lonely and being honest must go together. It makes it a little more difficult for sure.
My favorite Billy Joel song is New York State Of Mind...I was born there-
I thought it was the other way around. To be honest, you must speak the truth or be true.
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thanks hfrank...
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Honesty is the quality of being truthful. Therefore, one who is honest, had to of been truthful first to gain the title, "honest." One is not considered "honest" unless they have been truthful first. So being true comes first.
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ack no I didn't mean to report... I want to reply yikes
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You put me on the hit list! Thanks allot!
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waaaaah morganti no not mean to do that I mean to reply sorry! how can we undo that?
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Don't worry about it, they'll see it was an accident. What were you going to say?
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thanks morgan, I was going to reply on which comes first being truthful or being honest, well you have to have the virtue of honesty to say the truth and when you say the truth you are honest so it's a loop really like asking who comes first the chicken or the egg.
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I don't think there is a loop in this one. We don't consider one "honest" until we know they have told the truth first. Even a liar can tell the truth sometimes, but we only say they were honest after they told the truth.
I don't think honesty is an "ability," ie. one who is honest, has the ability to tell the truth. Because everyone is "capable" of being honest, but having the capability, doesn't mean that they will be or are honest.
Now, one who tells the truth, we call them honest. Because they already have told the truth.
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