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How different are you from your children?
Posted by HelloAnnie • 6/22/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: kid, parenting
Every now and then, people tend to speak about your child and then sort of compare them to you as the parent.
- Oh she sounds like you.
- He seems to enjoy cereal like her father.
How about you? Do you inherit any traits from your parents?
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My oldest son (8 years old) is very much like me. Sadly.-
How is that sad? Are you thinking ahead of yourself that he might take on a path in life that you may not like?
My daughter is now 8 too. She's with me all the time, very attached but also independent. She's nothing like me though. When it comes to fashion and taste for arts, she's incredibly creative. She knows how to dress up better than I do. She even chose my shoes for me! I am just terrible at that. I worry less I see the difference. But others who know us, say she is just like me. And I don't know which part. -
"How is that sad? Are you thinking ahead of yourself that he might take on a path in life that you may not like?"
My life path is fine and happy, and I don't fear him following my path (though I hope he avoids some of the mistakes along the way).
It's my personality traits that he's displaying that makes me sad ;-) -
I don't know if this helps to change the way you feel.
I was taught that whatever we feel as parents as individuals, will send messages to our children that they will in time learn to have the same feeling.
What I am trying to do now is to allow nature takes its course, and allow the environment to style my daughter's personality the way she feels happy with. Hopefully, she will learn to develop her personality traits through dealing with her environment.
My parents never show physical love towards us as kids. I, on the other hand, love to express it to my kid and want her to learn to express herself in anyway she can....and she is incredibly vocal and outspoken. I am quite happy that at least I have not passed on the personality traits which I do not like about my parents to her, by me doing something about it.
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My oldest is nothing like me, he is laid back, overly sensitive and will cry at a moments notice. He is an artsy introvert
My youngest is my clone.-
It is interesting that you feel your youngest is your clone.
I remember when I was pregnant, all I had was my husband cus we were living overseas. So every night, I simply stared at his face. The thought kept coming to me, "If there's anyone in the world that I want my child to look like, I would choose my husband." Maybe it's just superstition, but I have heard stories of how pregnant women can influence how the baby grow. When my baby was finally produced to me at the hospital, I thought, that couldn't be my baby! She looked exactly like him! I am tan and she is fair. As she grows, we can see she has my skin tone, easily tan when she goes in the sun. On that one, i think she is my clone. Maybe other physical features, but certainly the olive tan is from me. -
It is almost creepy how alike Nicky and I are. He has my attitude, my tempermant, he knows what I am going to tell him to do before I say it, it's weird. He is all about dogs and dancing, etc. He is just mini me. Physically both of my boys took everything (with the exception of their light hair) from me. Eyes, nose, lips, cheeks.. my oldest though has his dad's elf ear
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I am a lot like my mom (caring and loyal unless you tick me off). My own children are like me in the fact that we are picky eaters and love all things fun and corny. Our personalities are very different, but it keeps things interesting.-
@MissSuzie, you sound like a very fun person and the family will be so lonely without you with them.
My child has a very contagious laughter like my hubby. I am very much like my mum when it comes to physical built, I stay slim and do not put on weight easily. But I get really into housework which I am beginning to learn to avoid doing.....cus it can always wait.
I am not a picky eater though, but one of us in the family is. So my child is beginning to develop that habit of choosing food. I am working on it everyday to make sure she does not reject food based on its look, especially greens.
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Tremendously. I exist they don't
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I don't understand. I gather you are not married? I read your profile, you are a college student. Who is 'they'? Your parents? Sorry I need to ask.
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my children.
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You exist "in Act", whereas your children exist "in potency"
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lol, hi @harveyavatar, glad to see you my friend. @dbowles1017 is getting me all curious, I searched for an about me page on his blogs and I couldn't find any.
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There is an about me page. It simply says, I'm a college student, I do what college students do. Just more awesome.
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I'm much taller than him.-
It's too early for me to tell if my child will be taller than me. But I am certainly taller than mum.
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My daughter has the same rebellious, iconoclastic spirit as her Dad. Congenitally incapable of following any rules. On the other hand, she's much more anxious about life and materialistic than I am, since she wants everything money and success can buy and I want nothing.-
I don't know how to respond to that. "Congenitally incapable of following any rules." yet materialistic....she may soon learn that she can't have what she wants unless she can follow some rules.
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yeah! my are like that too.-
Ditto response with @nothingprofound
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I have come to the frightening conclusion I am slowly turning into my parents. As my son gets older, I have to really watch myself -
By the time a child is 10 years old, the brain is always the size of a human adult. It will take them a few more years to adjust to a new person as hormone patterns start to change as well. Personality traits are acquired and therefor it is a subconsioucs activity.
I suppose I am suggesting that you don't have to wait for your child to get older to receive different responses from you. Best wishes.
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She looks like me, shares the same dance moves, likes the same music, finds toilet humour amusing, and is also smart like me.
Unfortunately she has her mothers temper and stubborness. -
@San1982 I am so glad to hear that you understand you from your daughter. It is not always that easy to learn about oneself from your own child, because we tend to be more ready to do things for them and therefore want them to grow to become somebody else than ourselves.
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I have six children and they are all remarkably similar to me in many ways. Four of the six share physical similarities all six (even the 1.5 year old) have my same dry, smart a$$ sense of humor.
Most of them love to read as do I and are pretty quiet and reserved as I am.-
Well, we are different species, by I always tell them, kids, if your mother wasn't such a goat we wouldn't be in this mess.
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I'm as far removed and different from my children as one can get, since I don't have any children of my own and never will, for medical reasons!
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