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How do we know when to keep fighting for something or let go?

Posted by lordiwanttobewhole • 6/03/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic

When should we bow out of what we are pursuing; when the momentum feels lost?

How do we know we have given it our ALL ?

What about fighting til the bitter end?

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6/03/08

shagnast2100

the minute your stop believing in what you do is the minute it fails. stay true to what you believe and you'll know exactly when that time is. I have found this to be true in most aspects of my life.

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6/03/08

ekim941

Interesting question. The only thing that comes to mind for me is to choose your battles wisely. Then, you know up front if you should fight to the bitter end.

Is this aimed at Hillary Clinton?

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6/03/08

thenibblers

I find in general;

As long as I am still asking that question I should keep fighting. The time to end usually always reveals itself!

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6/03/08

lordiwanttobewhole

This is something I've recently been pondering. i explained a situation in my life to someone and said "maybe its just meant to be" "maybe, my life is supposed to be like this because I've been trying for a very long time to fix this situation"

Their reply was for me to keep trying, try something different, don't give up!!!!!

Now, i don't want to go into many details but this is a very important issue in my life; i don't want to give up, but i feel defeated.

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1. 6/03/08
  
  ekim941
  
  I think you just answered your own question.
2. 6/05/08
  
  MadameX
  
  Sometimes keeping the faith and maintaining hope and even effort aren't the same thing as "fighting". Sometimes letting go IS what opens the door to what you were after in the first place. It's hard, sometimes, for things to flow naturally when we're pushing too hard. If you try a hundred keys and the door doesn't open, it might be because it isn't locked...or because that particular door doesn't lead where you think it does, and you need to look behind you.
6/03/08

lordiwanttobewhole

Did I? so i just try another route?

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1. 6/03/08
  
  ekim941
  
  If one strategy is obviously not working, you may want to rethink it.
  
  You said you don't want to give up.
2. 6/04/08
  
  newward
  
  When I hit a standstill and am not sure what I want to do I ask myself a couple of questions:
  
  1) What is in my best interest?
  2) What is the outcome that I desire?
  3) What is my intention (the WHY) behind that outcome?
  
  Let’s say that you want $10,000. Is it because you want the money or because you want what the money can buy? i.e.: a new car. Your intended result is not actually about the money at all – but something more. I hope that makes sense.
  
  Sometimes it's not about stamina or will to fight. Something’s are simply about "This is what I want to happen" and it may not be your job to make it all happen. The HOW can be left up to the "universe" (or whatever your belief is there).
  
  Make a list – this is what I can do, this is what I leave up to the universe to take care of... and trust that you will receive that which is for your highest good.
  
  I also tell myself that if I do not receive what I want - it's because the universe has something better in store for me.
  
  Hope this helps
6/03/08

AmyOops

Listen to your heart. you are the only one who knows what goes on behind closed doors. And I dont belive in the what goes around comes around, or whats meant to be, or you dont get more than you can handle.

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1. 6/03/08
  
  lordiwanttobewhole
  
  I think thats where i was going wrong, I felt that maybe it wasn't 'fate' or 'meant to be' or my 'destiny' and i felt i should bow out.
  
  I get confused about fate
6/03/08

DrowseyMonkey

Why would you want to end up at the "bitter" end, as you say. It's better to step back and get some perspective to determine what you really want. Of course, sometimes we don't get what we want ... but why keep fighting until things get bitter. Know when to let it go ... and be peaceful with that decision.

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6/03/08

searchingwithin

It depends on what it is, and how much it means to me, but all in all, I am not one to give up, until the meaning is gone, or I am given absolutely, positively not other choice.

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6/03/08

shawie9877

You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are ... and that's alright. (They are entitled to their own views and opinions.) You learn the importance of loving and championing yourself and in the process, a sense of new found confidence is born of self-approval.

You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to you (or didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really count on is the unexpected. You learn that people don't always say what they mean or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you and that it's not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to take care of yourself and in the process, a sense of safety & security is born of self-reliance.

You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as they are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and in the process, a sense of peace & contentment is born of forgiveness.

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1. 6/03/08
  
  timethief
  
  @shawie9877
  Amen
  Thanks so much for your comment above.
  IMO it's an outstanding one.
6/03/08

dotartdude

Here's the Prayer of Serenity:

"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and (the) wisdom to know the difference."

Beyond this being a prayer, I refer to this because of the question of figuring out what you have control over and what you don't.

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6/03/08

BennyGreenberg

a Ya-ttitude-ism:
Make A decision, any decision and get on with your positive life. Don’t just sit there and fear the results. You have faith in yourself and in your actions and abilities and one of the beautiful things about faith is that fear cannot stand it! So as you continue to allow your faith to grow your fear will diminish until the point your faith removes all fear.

Of course there will be times that you decide and it was wrong – so what! Pick yourself up and get back to it! Errors are part of the game – there is no perfect plan and often you will be on Plan D before you make it all come together and Plan R when you are all said and done – but – keep it going and make it happen for you!

B

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1. 6/03/08
  
  kat822
  
  You go Benny always some good advise
2. 6/04/08
  
  BennyGreenberg
  
  and your on top... gotta love that
6/03/08

libelula

There is a point, IMO, where the universe at large either stops putting the "Yes" signs in our path or starts putting very obvious "No" signs there...sometimes it is all a test, sometimes it's time to fold em...

Either way, if obstacles start being an issue and it seems we have no control, the only thing you can really do is find a peaceful space or moment and rely on intuition...

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6/03/08

maria0305

I'm trying to answer that now regarding my marriage. I'll get back to you. *lol*

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6/03/08

kat822

Hey Maria good luck with the marriage, you know who to look up when you are single wink wink lol

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6/04/08

lordiwanttobewhole

I don't think the word 'surrender' always has to be a bad word!

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1. 6/05/08
  
  MadameX
  
  That depends, I think, entirely on to what or whom you are surrendering.
6/05/08

DVS

Quit if you have just asked yourself the question in the title...because you've lost already.

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