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How do you deal with your psycho ex (husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, ect.)
Posted by destroyerdivine • 5/11/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: children, custody, disagreements, divorce, ex-spouse
I have an ex-wife who is not exactly all there. No matter what I do to try to meet her half way, things will work out for the short term, but we'll end up squabbling over something stupid later. Her issue is trying to gain custody of the children by any means necessary, even though she has neither the means or the will to place their interests first is her goal. Thus, why the courts ruled that I, being the father, even while in the military, is viewed as the more responsible party, the kids are with me and my new wife.
What are some of the things you do with your "ex" to keep the peace?
Some helpful advice would be appreciated if you have some.
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remarry them? -
I am with you totally on this one. My only suggestion is to KNOW what she will do; she is predictable. If you know what's coming, you can stop her from sucking you into the vicious cycle she desires to stay in. Each time might be a different scenario, but her goal is the same. My situation is a bit different than yours, but ultimately WE have to be the ones to not let them take us there. You know what the truth is, and you know you are the peacemaker. Talk about the kids only, when she stirs the pot, possibly end the conversation until she has her wits about her...
I don't think there is any right answer, but as me and mine, it sounds like your ex is on a page WAY far from the one you're on. Your priorities are in the right place; hang in there! -
ultimately WE have to be the ones to not let them take us there. You know what the truth is, and you know you are the peacemaker. Talk about the kids only, when she stirs the pot, possibly end the conversation until she has her wits about her...
Excellent advice. Ending a relationship is not always easy and though most people hope for a friendly ending at most what most people achieve is civility afterwards. Your scheming manipulative ex thrives in a relationship wherein after the relationship has broken down she still acts as if she is with you. Sadly, this is very common.
You need to be strong in resolve not to allow yourself to be manipulated by this woman. You need to speak only of the children when you are with her and nothing else. You may also need the support of a professional or a group. Best wishes to you and your kids. -
Have him neutered. -
Two lovers can sit silently with each other, and the silence can become the merger. Really only lovers can sit silently.Wives and husbands cannot sit silently, because silence becomes boredom. So they go on talking about something or other. Even nonsense, rubbish, rot they go on talking just to avoid the other. Their talk is to avoid the other, because if there is no talk the other’s presence will be felt and the other’s presence is boredom.Lovers never like to chatter. Whenever lovers are together they will remain silent, because in silence, merging is possible.
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Seek to understand how she sees the situation...in HER eyes - YOU destroyed her world - taken the kids - beautiful new wife - everything she thought would be hers....Understanding this will enable YOU to let it go! Her journey is now hers - choices have consequences and YES they will affect your family also - BUT you still get to choose yourself how you will react - be age appropriate honest with your kids and remember to never ever let them hear you or your new wife speak negative about the woman that will always be their Mum...keep holding your family together - YOU will triumph! -
Nothing I can really suggest - when the two of you can't work with each other
You really must try to work with her THIS ONCE, because it's about the kids
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