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How do you say, "I love you"?
Posted by footiam • 1/08/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: love
Do you just say it or have difficulty saying it or do you express it in other ways?
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i have difficulty saying it for real unless im sure, but i say it to friends easy but is never serious-
We will always be unsure and it will always be difficult.
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Its not my Hobby !
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i don't have trouble saying it or expressing it, all my good friends know i love them dearly and i tell them always.
After my eldest son died i realised how important it is to love people and have them know beyond a doubt that you love them. I have lots of female friends.-
I'm with you. I will always be glad that the last words my late husband and I exchanged were to say "I love you." Literally...he was in the hospital, I told him I loved him, he told me he loved me, I went home and he was dead an hour later. -
hey thanks for telling us... and lots of blog catalog people love you too
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I'm with y'all.
(So sorry to hear about your hubby, SweetViolet.) -
I don't have any difficulty saying "I love you" either.
♥ you redpanda, sweetviolet & LGramlich
I have learned that the word love has little meaning unless and until it's manifested. In other words, I have learned that love is an action word.
Love is:
dana = authentic generosity (charitable giving of the self and sharing of possessions, donation);
metta = selfless love and good will toward all beings (loving kindness)
karuna = compassion (respect, acceptance, forgiveness);
mudita = altruistic joy filled with peace and contentment (appreciative joy at the success and good fortune of others);
sila = self discipline -abstaining from physical and vocal actions that cause harm to oneself and others;
uppekka = equanimity (an inclusive state of open mind free of attachment, aversion, bigotry, craving, ignorance and intolerance).
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I think words distinguish us from animals--so it's important to use them whenever we can. -
I have no problem saying it when I feel it.But I dont like it when I am in a relationship and it becomes something like an obligation to say everyday.I mean Ill say it when I really mean it. -
It's hard to say the words but that's what everyone's waiting to hear. Say the words before it will be too late. -
i like to see it more than hear it
hence i show it more than i say it -
I love secretly.
Why must I compare thee to a star,
when thou shinest brighter than any star I’ve gazed?
How can I relate thee to a prickly rose,
when thine eyes shalt never wilt a mans heart?
I shall not express my love for thee
with metaphors, similes or words direction.
Nor shall any amount of kisses and hugs suffice.
My affection for thee is formless and without me.
I shall never pluck thee from the earth’s soil,
for then all this tension would end, and spoil. -
@Arnous81
i agree with you. i don't mine saying 'i love you' any time in my relationship but it gets hard if i felt obliged to say it when clearly i was pretty mad and saying the three letter words just will make me even more mad about something.-
Exactly.It's best to keep its meaning cherished.
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Three misused words...
“I love you” rolls off ones tongue to another’s heart
“I love you,” Three wordsoverly misused in lies and lust losing their power.
“I love you too,” the emotionless instinctive response to the abused "I love you."
Without true feelings “I love you” are meaningless words carelessly thrown about.
Respect these words “I love you” and “I love you too”
Speak only when true.-
travis,
please help me understand: speak only when "true", will you?
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Actions speak louder than words. In it's purest sense love is a verb not a noun... not something you "have" for someone, but rather something you do. I find the words "I love you" are nice to hear, but when you are truly loved do become redundant..-
I agree.
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and if s/he does not anything for me - i´ll still love the person for just being the person as s/he is. i believe and favourize (?) the claim "action speaks louder than words". but: to measure love i would not really choose either of the two. feelings speak, too. letters, art, silence speaks, presence speaks, a view, a smile, a tear. * e.g. a disabled person in a wheelchair cannot do so much...but s/he can still be alot without doing anything.
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OMG...it´s not easy with the love ;-) is love truely capable of carrying everything we demand from her? is love not very precious, a very vulnerable "being / thing"? should we think about treating the love like a seldom flower?
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why do we all want to know if the person we are with loves us?
do we ask ourselfes also "if, why and when we" love?
can you just be a friend, a person with guts, character and lots of humor? i´d be satisfied with that.
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Not long ago, when I mentioned that I'd seen the Jonas Brothers in concert twice, one of my daughter's friends said, "And that's how we know you love us, mom." Everyone laughed, but it's kind of true. I don't have any trouble saying the words, but the words don't mean much to me. I'm more about having hot chocolate waiting when my daughter comes through the door on a cold day, sewing Halloween costumes, cleaning off the other person's car on my way out on a snowy morning... -
我爱你 in Chinese -
I don't have trouble saying, "I love you," but my grizzled Marine boyfriend does. Most of the time he lets loose while in the middle of lovemaking. The rest of the time I can count on the fingers of one hand. -
Though I am very direct but I am also a die-hard romantic so this is what I wrote for her:
13thrandom.blogspot.com/2009/01/random-poem-excerpt-from-poem-without.html -
I never say I love you first, usually the guy has to say it before I say it. It's better if they say it during sex, that way I can say "I love you" even if I dont love them yet and just hope he's too busy to have heard me say it. Instead of saying "I love you", I usually show by being there for them and surprising them with things.
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It is nice to be surprised with things! Yes, I would feel loved!
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Because the person I love has his own blog, I'm not screaming for attention & I have my own life.
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I have an easier time saying it to friends then a boyfriend for the first time. If I really love him and I know the feeling is mutual it is easier for me to say. But I will not tell a boyfriend "I love you" unless I really do. -
I start by opening my mouth, I end by closing my mouth. The words that are uttered in between are (usually) 'ik hou van je'. That's all there is to it... -
Well there was this disgusting guy in my class who once wrote I Love You, with his own blood, on a piece of paper. -
Hold her after, for at least 2 minutes..that says 'I love you.' -
"Do you accept Visa?" -
Yeah. I do...but I don't do man love dude.
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say with you heart.... -
Confession: I used to use these words a lot, and was always pretty enthusiastic about the people and things I loved. Then I moved to the city and got hardened up. Saying 'I love you' just depends on a person's perspective, I suppose.
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Using the words too often makes it lose its shine...
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I don't say it.
For one I've never had a reason to, I've never been in love I don't think, so it would seem pointless to use it. -
My husband and I say 'I love you' to each other at least once a day--usually several. We have been together since fall of 2000 and we are more in love than ever before.
But saying I love you is only one aspect--I also try to show my husband how much I love him by being understanding when he travels about 30% of the time or when he works late into the night (he owns his own company). I try to be his partner, to think about what his needs are whenever I am faced with a decision. -
I tell my wife, children and grandkids I love You but if I really want my wife to know I love her I clean house, do the laundry, or do the ironing.-
You are a good husband!
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I say it to family. Never in relationships (because, hey, it wouldn't be true). It's easy to say, for me, if I mean it. I won't say it otherwise.-
Sometimes, it's not easy to say it to family too!
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"I LOVE YOU" these are three difficult word in the world. Difficult to say and mean it. and if done both, perfectly and meant it truly. u'd surely be the happiest person on earth!! Dont trust me!! TRY IT OUT urself!!
** that implies to person's who's been wanting to say those three words for ages, to that person over there!! but is just shocked at how! things turn out! when that person, is near you and ur tongue-tied.
-----AS OF HOW TO SAY I LOVE YOU-----
if you cant talk, give 'em a rose.
if you cant afford a rose, write it down, or email 'em.
if you cant read.!! !! then you wont understand a thing! i wrote here!
But i knw you can read!!! so the best idea-----> SPEAK YOUR HEART. Its too late already! he/she might be waiting for ur call...
all the best! TAKE CARE -
Everyone needs it to be said in a different way and no one way is fit for all. People are different and all feel appreciated in different ways, and that is how you tell someone you truly love them... You tell them in the way they need you to tell them even if it is a way that is difficult for you. Some people appreciate most quality time, or words of endearment, others physical touch, or even gifts. Everyone needs to know they are loved. They key is like I said you tell them how they need it when where most go wrong is they tell how is most naturally comfortable to them. A personal example is me and my own wife. I am a physical touch person and just because I'm a guy doesn't mean this has to go down the gutter. I am the guy who likes to hold hands, give back rubs, yada yada... My wife on the other hand likes things to be done for her e.g. doing the dishes so she doesn't have to, etc. These ways say more to the both of us than just merely saying the words, "I love you." -
Hello,
I never say it first. I say it after hearing it. if I feel it, for sure:))
Edwars -
The fist is always the hardest (took years for somebody, and took a lifetime for someone else). after that first "i love you" came out, then it should be easy to repeat it even up to thousands in a day. -
I say it with all my heart! -
The whole trick to saying it, is that the current situation might not require it to be so direct.
And it could be misinterpreted, as we find other ways to express it and what we feel. -
I take my bra off-
LOL...that's some serious love right there! =)
I say it and I back it up with action...
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its really difficult to say^^...what if she thinks Im crazy..or rejected me? its really embarassing..==..I cant imagine it..==" -
We can get drunk together
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You would not believe a drunkard!
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I say "Mahal Kita" if im not drunk
I say "Mahal Na Mahal Kita" when i'm drunk -
With a kazoo and semaphore flags.
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"I wuvs you bunnykins, does bunnuywunnykins wuv her Mr Flopsywopsy too-ewooooey do do kins."-
And after the object of your affection violently vomits all over the place...?
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How would a stuffed rabbit in lingerie vomit? You've made your self look foolish now, just get your coat and leave and we will say no more about it.
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Believe me, no one is more keen to stop discussing your romantic practices than I.
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Sometimes if Mrs Bunnykin's lingerie is "dirty" I will wear my lingerie instead and she becomes Mr flopswo....... Oh sorry I thought you said "Please call me a bitch, pull my hair and tell me more because I'm nearly there"
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I sing a song then after that she's mine. bwahahaha!!-
That's a god idea!
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I don't know in US but in french this is very strong so you only tell it to your lover not friends except for humor.-
Love should be reserved for someone really special, I suppose.
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Took me about 23 years to say that to someone. But i am so glad that i did!!! -
I've never said I love to anyone, I have a really hard time saying it. I tend to show my love instead of saying it. -
I Love You
© By Anonymous
Have you ever felt,
Like you were holding a fragile heart,
That could break any second,
And then it shatters,
And you don't know how to fix it?
Then your world goes wild,
With everything spinning but you,
You stand still and stare at the moment,
Not knowing what to say,
Not even paying attention anymore.
You want to say something to help the moment,
But tears are saying enough.
I want to hold the pieces of your broken heart,
And put it back to one.
I hold you close,
Hoping you can forgive me,
For hurting you so badly,
I tell you I love you,
And it's far from a lie.
I cry on your chest,
Apologizing again and again
You finally pull me away and lift my face up towards yours,
I look into your eyes,
Wanting to turn away,
But I'm forced by love to keep looking.
And you say the three words I longed to hear::
I love you.
You wipe away the tears,
Leaning forward to place a kiss upon my lips,
And you pull me away,
Holding me close as you can,
You tell me once more at the same time I tell you::
I love you.-
Saying it with a poem? Sounds like a great idea!
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I say I love you by sending something sweet to my loved one, like sendegifts.blogspot.com/search/label/love%20e-cards-
Too much sweet is bad for health. Not for the loved ones!
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So far...i never had an opportunity to use that word...Suppose at some time if i need to say, then i will tell that when she is in inside a temple. Why because that time only she won't wear any slippers...Ha ha ha ....
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It is hard to say I love you to family members but i say that in letters.I also find it hard to say I love you to the one I love...it is more naked than being naked.-
Celtic MF
'Tis but thy name that is my enemy;
Thou art thyself, though not a Montague.
What's Montague? it is nor hand, nor foot,
Nor arm, nor face, nor any other part
Belonging to a man. O, be some other name!
What's in a name? that which we call a rose
By any other name would smell as sweet;
So Romeo would, were he not Romeo call'd,
Retain that dear perfection which he owes
Without that title. Romeo, doff thy name,
And for that name which is no part of thee
Take all myself.
Meaning:
What matters is what something "is",
not what it is called. -
Wow that's deep..but really oh so true.
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well i have'nt said it to any body else except for my life.. and say it like 'i love my life and my life is my love'........ -
I just want to say.. I love you!! -
i've never said it directly,but more to show that i care for the people i love.cause for me love is not only go by saying but proving it.i prefer to say i care a lot,and i hope they get the meaning. -
I just say it. But that is the easy part. The harder and more important part is showing it through my actions.
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