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   9/19/09

   DailyBeerReview

   Hmm. One fight between guys ends before the day ends.

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      9/19/09

      ToughCookieMommy

      Lol, it's true you guys generally end these things fast. Then again, you guys are not as emotional as we are.
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   9/19/09

   cookingasshole

   your co-worker must not have many friends...

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      9/19/09

      trailofpen

      Agreed.
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      9/19/09

      ToughCookieMommy

      I don't think that that is a fair statement. She only meant that a friendship is not really a friendship anymore when it becomes one sided and not mutually respectful.
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   9/19/09

   MadameX

   I think it depends on the nature of the problem. Irritations can be worked past; major disconnects in values can't.

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      9/19/09

      ToughCookieMommy

      Unfortunately, the friendship that we were discussing has undergone a major disconnect...
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   9/19/09

   libdrone

   It seems to me it all depends on the friendship. I have friends I would move mountains to keep in my life and acquaintances who get dropped so freely and completely that I never notice they are gone. I don't think this is a question you can generalize about.

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   9/19/09

   timethief

   Essentially there are 3 approaches one can choose to take:
   eliminate (end the friendship);
   cope (grit your teeth and ignore the behavior);
   negotiate (state your discomfort with the behavior, request an appointment to discuss and try to resolve the issues amicably).
   Without hearing the positions of both people I will not make a recommendation.

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      9/19/09

      ToughCookieMommy

      This is really good advice. I like putting it in terms of these three options.
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   9/19/09

   trailofpen

   If I had that conversation with a co-worker, it would end with me giving them a look as if they were mentally inept, stupid, or just plain (get ready for the politically incorrect term) RETARDED!

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   9/19/09

   celebvideo

   I usually put way too much effort into it and always pay for it in the end

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      9/19/09

      ToughCookieMommy

      Yeah, I am a person who will try to mend the friendship many times and I think it is bad for me in the end.