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How to comfort a crying person?
Posted by jazzy2103 • 9/26/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
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Was just wondering. the other day a friend of mine was crying and I had NO idea what to do!
It was a girl..But i mean in general
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Depends if it's a guy or a girl.-
I mean in general.Boy or girl becaus eI come across crying people now again both different genders and personalities
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If it's a guy, you make fun of him.
If it's a girl you offer an ear and a shoulder. -
recently...they don't want it
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who's they?
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a "non-touchy-feely friend" then again, am the same way
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If they don't want to talk about it then you leave them alone.
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I can't do that! they are sad and I want them to be less sad if not happy
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If they don't want to talk to you about, you should respect their opinion. Now if they lock themselves in their house for 2 weeks, you can intrude.
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there is something about a guy with red horns, giving advise..... -
xD
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It means you should listen.
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Depends upon the person and why they're crying. There's one good rule though: "Listen."-
Often enough....they don't talk. I just stare at them =_=
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Sometimes it's best just to be with them then. Listen to actions and behaviors as well as words.
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All you can do is offer to listen. If they choose not to talk, then a hug might help. Dude-dude might be a little weird, but not necessarily. Eventually you will get the story and help the person through their problem. -
Well that won't help. Just tell em tomorrow is another day,and it will all be better when it quits hurting -
"There, there. Maybe Santa does exist."-
haha.nice one. i'll try that
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If it's a guy I usually say, "Hey man, theres tons of fish in the sea."
If it's a girl, I'll lend them a shoulder and say, "It'll be alright."
If it's someone who wants to be left alone I just say, "Take care, call me before you do anything crazy alright?"
If it's someone who tells me they are going to commit suicide I tell them, "Go ahead. We'll just have your funeral and go on with our lives. If you are that weak, then go ahead, I won't even mourn for you."-
Wouldn't that psh them even more over the edge?
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You ever met someone who was addicted to the idea of suicide? Some people just have a sick self indulgent fantasy that people will mourn them for the rest of their lives, like suicide is some crazy way to get the attention they've been lacking or something.
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@trail
You'd say something like that to a suicidal person? Are you joking?-
I am not joking at all, not one bit!!! I used to feel sympathy for those people, but now I just get angry. Suicide is such a stupid idea, I just want to punch them in the stomach or something.
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I find just saying gently, "Is there anything I can do to help?" seems to be the best approach. -
I TOTALLY agree with BeamingBalance's suggestion. I was sifting through the comments to see if anyone had suggested... The worst thing to do is to use cliches though, "Everything happens for a reason", "Lots of fish in the sea", or "He or she's in a better place"----no... The best is just a simple, "Is there anything I can do to help?"
It helps defuse if there is hidden anger, as well as release the pressure off the person, knowing there is someone who cares.-
"What do you think? I just got dumped! Waaah WAAAHH."
"Don't worry. There's plenty of fish in the sea."
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The only thing you can do is ask what you can do. Some people don't like to be alone when they're upset, others can't stand to be around people. Some people need to talk about it, others feel worse rehashing it. The best response when anyone is in trouble is to ask what they need rather than trying to guess. -
Just say I feel ya and give em a hug....
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Patting their head or shoulder and saying softly "there there"-
What, like they're a child or something?
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Yup that's good to
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Go to the store, buy a couple pints of ice-cream.. and bring them to your sad friend and sit down and eat ice-cream (or frozen yogurt or sherbet) together.. This seems to always work, it seems to relax the saddened person and they are more prone to open up and once they do they feel better. And then you can start talking telling your own experiences if you have any, or just talk about nothing. It is amazing how Ice cream fixes some of the biggest heart wrenching booboo's... for any age!-
Lol, if you were my friend, I think I'd be sad every other day. I also think I'd be obese and diabetic.
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lol!
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haha Great IDea!
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Yea,I could definately go for strawberry cheesecake from baskin robbins
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my choice would be Rocky Road! Ahhhh! Yes!
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Well I might just beg tash to go get some and have a madea day tomorrow. I need to laugh at somthing besides myself for a sec,haha
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For girls: Sometimes it is the case that they have a burden recounting what happened so to get them to talk try to guess what may be the case. What were their recent plans? Did they go anywhere? About to do something? Expecting something to happen? How about a boyfriend?
If you allude to the problem then the floodgates of tears might open and once "caught" they will be confident enough to tell you their feelings
For guys: Give general platitudes and ask if you can help in anyway and they are free to give you a buzz anytime
I once met a guy who was disappointed in love. I told him - thats good - have 10 disappointments and you can come out a man! And that brought him out in a flash -
Great suggestions
Am inspired to write an article on this!
Thanks jazzy for starting this thread -
Accompany, listen, and ready to help. -
Just be there! -
If it was me crying, all I need is someone to be there. Maybe give me a hug or something depending on my mood. You don't actually have to say anything as long as you're there awkwardly hearing me sob hehe -
Just be there and listen if they want to talk. DON'T tell them to shut up or that they're being annoying or anything,( have had that happen recently and it's not fun to have to face when you're already in a bad place) just be understanding and help them as much as you think you can. -
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Just be there for them. There's only so much you can say to change how they feel. -
I have found that duct taping their mouths closed and shoving them in the trunk of your car works wonders.
And this works for both guys and girls.-
LOL: As bespoke The Terminator: "Anger is more useful than despair"
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or, as my parents would say; "I'll give you something to cry ABOUT!"
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