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How to get a second date
Posted by ModelElaine • 2/20/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: date, Dating, dating for women, first date, second date
Many women may be screwing themselves out of a second date by behaving in a certain way on the first date, and I am not talking about the obvious Don't burp, Dress nice, Brush your teeth, Don't look at other men, etc. What do you think about these tips on how to make sure you are called for a second date internet-dating-guru.blogspot.com/2008/02/how-to-get-second-date-advice-for...
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what was the reason to bump a thread nobody cared about for 15 hours?-
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Seems that way...
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15 hours ago most people in the US were asleep that's why
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Then why not wait to post your thread? We're not trying to be mean...it's just that repeated bumps are frowned upon.
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Well when all you do is create threads to self promote it kind of annoys people and they stop checking out your threads...
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Elaine - You make me laugh sometimes...I wouldn't go out with any woman that would eat a 5 course meal.-
Not even if it was five courses of fruit salad?
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pandas know their limitations
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Unless she cooked it?
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Elaine, I did read the article, and as I am both married, and have never dated online, nor dated any man with any real amount of money - take my opinion for what it's worth....
I found the tips to be degrading. They may work....but the whole process from letting the man talk, and not looking at the menu when you want to....it's degrading.
I understand that men seem to be getting conned in this internet dating scam here...but that is the risk they are taking. (Not saying it's right to scam a free dinner - but thats the risk). If they really are wary, they can ask to go dutch.
But requiring a woman to be so...submissive just to get a second date? Nah. If the man likes her, he likes her. If she's a scammer, she's a scammer. If he doesn't like her, he doesn't, and no amount of good behavior will change that.
The one thing I found to be interesting is the lack of voice about whether or not the woman actually wants a second date, or the fact that the woman can be forthcoming, offer to pay her own way, or just ask the man for a second date if she likes him.
That kind of honesty will also put the man at ease if he's still worried about her being "one of those women".-
Thank you for your opinion. Very interesting viewpoint. I appreciate you reading and giving your feedback.
As far as whether she wants a second date, that goes without saying that if she doesn't want a second date, she should not woryy. I personally will not take an invitation for dinner if that's the case. If I see a guy at the bar and can tell right away I am not interested, I will not sit with him for two hours. -
True, but I think perhaps the article (unless I misunderstand your site?) should really about making dating happen, in a real way. Make sure that the desired effects that is to say, a successful date when you think you are interested, needs to come from both sides, no?
Perhaps a male counterpart on the site would be good - get the male/female duality thing going on.
I'm not slamming your site. I'm just sayin'.
I'm also married, so I have no clue what the dating world is even like any more. So feel free to ignore my advice, as it could be dead wrong, LOL! -
This article is written to women who have an interested man and don't want to blow it off. A long time ago I received a follow up e-mail from a guy I had a date with a day before. He said something to that affect: "I think that picking the most expensive restaurant in town.... yada, yada could scare a man away. I am financially ok to pay the cost of this meal, but some men may not be, blah, blah, blah... Of course that doesn't take away from the fact that you are beautiful and I would enjoy seeing you again in different circumstances, etc." That was a lesson.
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I'm not sure that the tips are degrading.
1. Good idea. If the guy offers dinner, at least it is sort of assuring that you aren't a gold digger. It doesn't seem like you were only after a free fancy dinner.
2. Meeting at the bar is also a good idea. It gives both the guy and the girl the opportunity to size each other up. You get a full-body view of the other person. It makes sense. If you don't like the guy, at least it is easier to slip away from the bar than from a table that was already booked etc. and the same goes for the guy - it's easier to make some lame excuse and disappear from the bar. Not nice, but practical.
3. That's just being polite. Great tip.
4. Makes sense. Guys like to feel in control. If you leave it up to him when to move to the table, it creates a good impression.
5. You supposedly meet for the first time. It's a good idea not to make it about the food. You need to get to know one another.
6. Not too sure about this one. If you really are interested in the guy, let him talk. However, if he really is interested in you, he would want you to talk about yourself too. If you come across as evasive about yourself, it might look suspicious. Just see where the conversation goes, but I agree don't dominate conversation.
7. Great tip.
8. You could eat what you really like and offer to split the bill. I would feel really bad if I had a dinner date, the lady only ate an entrée, she opens her purse and I see a stack of granola bars.
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A 2nd date? I can't get a first one to save my life. Women are way tooo picky.-
I am not picky. Would you date me? I only have three requirements
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if you are sure of how you screwed up the first date..dont repeat it.. you will get a second date!-
She's probably a granny now
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Don't ever count on a 2nd date. Just get thru the 1st...if you both had fun and there were fireworks then just know the 2nd date is coming-
great thinking about 2nd while being on 1st...can i get some tips??
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