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How to tell if he's cheating on you!
Posted by CelebrityIcePop • 3/27/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: cheating, love, MEN, relationships, women
How to tell if a man is cheating on you?
What are the signs?
Have you caught someone out for cheating, how did you know?
I have written a blog on cheating here and how to tell if he's cheating on you, I would like to hear your stories and thoughts and this topic.
creativeblogger.org/2009/03/27/how-to-tell-if-a-man-is-cheating-on-you/
Please leave comments here and on the blog, thanks!
User Comments
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come now, must be someone out there going nuts wondering?
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A friend who was cheated on told me that the things she noticed were the following.
The biggest give away is when the phone rings but when you answer, there is no one there and this happens repeatedly.
Smelling of a perfume that's not yours.
Suddenly making excuses to go out in the evening because he has just joined this or that Gym or some other club.
Being unusually attentive, when before he was almost indifferent. Sure sign of a guilty conscience.
He avoids kissing on the mouth.-
My friend Kim found out when she was reconciling the credit card and found a charge for something from a jeweller...a ruby heart pendant...and Valentine's Day came and went and she didn't receive it as a gift. A few weeks later a co-worker of her husband's came by the house and she was wearing...yup, a ruby heart pendant.
My friend Chris found out when he started needing time for "getting my head together" after being contacted by a woman who had dumped him 15 years earlier. When he took an entire weekend to go halfway down the state of Calif, she knew something was up. The worst thing is that this slimeball not only left his wife and 2 boys for the tramp, one of the boys is autistic and he left her to deal with it all alone, including earning a living.
But it's not all men...my brother found out his wife was cheating when she stopped going to church (a fundamentalist group, no less), stopped home schooling the kids (sent them to school), stopped doing the housework or cooking, and started using foul language when he asked her what was going on. She moved out and moved in with her paramour (another woman) and demanded half of the kids college fund as part of her divorce settlement, which she got and promptly spent. It's been 10 years and those kids still haven't forgiven her.
There are lots of ways to tell, but they are as individual as the spouses involved and the relationships.
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my first clue was when I walked around the bleachers at a Three Dog Night concert we'd gone to and saw him making out with his friend's girl-o-the-month.
I didn't need a second clue.
after we divorced he married her within a week of our decree, he's been miserable since. I've been just fine
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Smart lady! So many women would try to "save the relationship" but in my opinion, a relationship like that doesn't need saving, it needs termination.
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without trust our marriage was poison. it hurt but I had to face it and move on for my sons. This was over 20 years ago. We get along now but I cannot and will not respect him even to this day.
the most important part: I still like Three Dog Night
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Check his phone records. Look multiple calls to and from strange numbers. Also, make sure he doesn't have a second phone that you don't know about.
This is the most telling sign. Why? Because a guy has to make contact with that person somehow right? It's not like they use ESP or something. -
Just assume he is, and you're probably right. -
Check phone records. And ask a love psychic. =P -
No its a matter of soul searching... instead of bogging yourself ... down.. sqweaze your head in knowing what went wrong... and ask.. why..??? -
If you know him you will notice the signs
1. working late and ateending frequent meetings all of a sudden
2. Gives excuses not to go out with you and the kids
3. Receiving frequent phone call
4. shows less interest in sex
5. prefer to eat out most of the time.
A few signs that I can think of -
I used to go out with the hubby who often drank a lot.
I never have really drank a lot - I have that hangover gene that just knocks me over the next day - even when it's just a little alcohol, so while I will tie one on once in a blue moon, it's rare that I drink.
Anyhow I used to be the Designated Driver, And I loved to go dancing, anyhow we used to go to friend's houses after dancing and one night I just decided I had to leave, cause everyone was drunk, but I was stone cold sober, and it was BORING...
Anyhow - I left - and around 6 am he hadn't come home yet - I called and one girl answered the phone and said "he's in the bathroom." (In the background I heard someone yell "with _______" and someone else say "haven't they been in there for like an hour or so?")
And well - it didn't take a rocket scientist to figure some things out...
I turned off the lights and waited to see what was going on - heard the cab pull up so I looked out the window when the cab arrived an hour and a half later and saw him get out - stumble then turn around and someone else's arms wrapped his neck and well it looked like he was sucking face for about 5 minutes.
So I went to bed and laid there for a few moments.
I figure - give him the benefit of the doubt.
When he creeped into bed, trying not to disturb me... When it was the usual that if he came home he pestered the crap out of me for sex - because he was drunk and horny... When he creeped in and tried to be silent... and instantly started snoring, I was in shock.
I could smell "sex" on him... it was gross in a way that was just "ICK" to me.
So I made some coffee and went about my day.
The next day... when he got up, I asked him what happened when I left.
He said "oh nothing, just played some games and sat around and talked to a whole bunch of people."
I said - well "KATHY" told me you were in the bathroom for a long time.
"Oh yeah... uhm... I was with this girl who was getting sick".
"oh," I said.
He went to work.
I thought about things or a bit... and decided to play it cool - to see what would come of it.
Later I asked him if he had EVER fooled around. He got a funny look and lied.
I waited a couple days and then confronted him.
He finally admitted it - and then I got pissed.
I also decided I would find a way to get even some day.
And I did... But not on purpose. LOL!
I think each man is different. Not all men cheat - but those that do actually have signs.
Some might make phone calls - some might have emails... some might buy things. Some might smell...
But when they stop pestering you for sex - when they commonly do it - then that is the most important indicator.
It's hard to forgive them - I tried - but the problem is - you always have it in the back of your mind.
And when you do - it's such a negative thing - that it affects you in everything you do.
I honestly think that if he could have gotten away with it - and hadn't been so drunk - he would have never admitted it.
So that always made me wonder if he maybe had done it before...
Doesn't matter now - but that was then... And now - I have one - who just thinks that cheating is awful - he had an ex do it to him - and he hated the way it made him feel. We both think that if you're going to cheat - then you shouldn't be with someone.
So - not everyone cheats - and not every man cheats.
I believe that with all my heart. -
This reminds me of a joke...
Nancy recieves a phone call from her daughter, who is sobbing.
"what's" the matter dear?" Asks Nancy
"Jeffrey is cheating on me!" the daughter blubbers
"Well dear, are you sure?"
"Of course! I was doing his laundry... and I found lipstick stains!"
"You ought not to jump to conclusions, maybe he just hugged his sister in the street or something"
"Mother! They were on his jockey shorts!"-
rOFLMAO!
That's funny! -
In related news, did you hear that GM will be discontinuing the "Hummer" brand?
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Thread Killer... Thread, Thread Killah!
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If you're wondering if he's cheating, that's your first clue! A woman's intuition never fails!-
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That's unfair, she shouldn't base her suspection on the fact that she suspects.... -
Generally speaking, women believe that a woman intuition is never wrong. I believe there is no such thing as woman’s intuition... if there is wouldn't women be able to use their intuition to predict that from the very beginning that the guy is not a good guy, or make the right decisions about her career , money, hair, makeup or what stocks will do better than others. If women had “female intuition" wouldn’t they be the happiest people on earth, because their “intuition” would lead them in the right direction all the time..... Or does a woman's intuition only work for one purpose and that is to know whether or not a man is cheating?
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DO MEN REALLY CHEAT OR THE AGE OLD QUESITONS, WHY DO MEN "CHEAT"?
An essay
I decided to write this essay on the subject of men cheating in defense of men. I’m not taking the side of the men because I am a man. I honestly hope to shed new light on male prowess sexual behavior; a subject that was born the day men and women fell in love. In my writings and in my one on one consultation, I don’t pretend to wear rose colored glasses. I call the way I see it. If you are looking to hear what you want to hear as opposed to what you need to hear, this essay is not for you.... to get the full essay
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Anthony -
If Oprah says he's cheating, he must be!
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I wonder if having a damaged 'tool' is eveidence of cheating, espcially when the chap is uncertain as to how it came to be in that sorry state?
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Men only cheat when there is a reason to cheat.
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