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If You Were 33 Would You Date A 60 Year Old Doctor?
Posted by AchEmpire • 10/08/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: older men
Hi, I'm back!
Basically would you date someone 2 or 3 times your age if they offered you all you seeked?
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yes my hubby is 14 years older than me. and it is not money that brought us together because when we met we were both broke and divorced.-
amybyrd21 - Good for you, hope it continues to work out. I'm curious but what brought you & him together?
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A mutual friend introduced us. We started to talk and it just went from there. We have alot in common. We made alot of people unhappy on both sides of this but we didnt care at all.
Theo nly thing we disagree on is music and he keeps his away from me and I keep mine away from him -
amybyrd21 - Well good for you, I continue to wish you the best for your 14 year + strong marriage.
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What if all you "seeked" was someone your own age?-
Agit8r - Hi you are not making sense to me at all? You can't control love or destiny.
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you asked "would you date someone 2 or 3 times your age if they offered you all you [sought]?"
and I was saying that if one sought someone their own age, then the question presented a paradox.
have fun playing doctor
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No. I was in a business where I dealt with a lot of older men, and a 27 year age gap is just too much.
I would probably draw the line at a guy about 15 years older than me.-
aspotofblog - Hi I don't think the 27 year age gap is too much. If the love making is great and he is measured quality right then age is no difference.
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aspotofblog - Ok and so am I, so we both have "the experience"
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age is not an issue, as long as there's spark.-
feedyourwallet - Why are you pulling money into this?
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@achempire
Believe me, if you were in the business I was in, you'd know what I mean. I'm speaking from very intimate experience here.
Also, on a another level, I think a 60 yr old man would be too controlling of a younger woman. -
@ AE...
Yea, I don't know if she realizes what you mean.
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Welcome back...
Personally, no. I don't think I would have much in common with a 60 year old man. Even when I'm 33, which I'm not, I don't think that someone that much more my senior would be able to understand me very well. But who knows, if it's right, it's right.-
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lotusb - Hi I respect your tone, but with me older men suit me better. They know how to relate to me on a business, emotional and physical level.
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Well then it makes sense for your personality. I'm 25 and I'm a very creative, liberal, free thinking person. So I tend to relate better to men closer to my age who have a certain amount of energy and less of a materialistic view on life.
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lotusb - You said:
Well then it makes sense for your personality
So I tend to relate better to men closer to my age who have a certain amount of energy and less of a materialistic view on life.
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Well you shared your reasons for relating better to men who are a lot older, therefore I shared my reasons for relating to men who are closer to my own age.
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lotusb - No I'm curious why you mentioned you "know my personality" and mentioned materialistic view on life?
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Well you said you date men who are older because they relate to you more on a business level as well as other levels specific to your needs. So that's what the personality thing was. I said materialistic view on life because for me personally the level of materialism in one's life is a big deal for me. I don't date men that are chasing some lifestyle with a big house and expensive car. I'm a little more bohemian than that. So I tend to relate more to men who are as such as well.
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lotusb - Chasing a lifestyle is one thing, but earning that life style isn't called chasing. It's called hard work and dedication. For me I know real men when I see them.
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"Chasing" is just a term. I am not attracted to wealth. I am not attracted by the corporate lifestyle and such. This is just my personal opinion, which I thought your post asked for. Every woman has her own perception of what constitutes a "real man". For me, a real man is someone who displays a compassionate opinion of the world, and distences himself from dominence and capitalist endevors. Your opinion of a man, may be different. I know men who work VERY HARD on their craft and their passions with no intent at all for recognition, fame or money. I repect that.
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lotusb - It's not about the instant recognition for me, it's about how you strived to get that recognition. Some of us strive beyond striving and continue to do such. I'm one of them.
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I absolutely understand. I am not arguing that. But there are people in the world who see "sucess" as something unrelated to recognition, money or material possessions. For example, I gave up a job in San Francisco that paid almost $80K so I would have more time to write.
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lotusb - I understand your point, but at the sametime don't punish people who you think are "materialistic" because your "blinded" by they actions and you know little about them.
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Ach: All I'm saying is that I date in accordance to my personal preferences. You should date people who have the same outlook on life. I don't think that's punshing anyone, and I certainly don't judge.
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lotusb - For me it seems your "blinded" by their materialistic stuff, and not really analyzing the fatal truth behind the true meaning of as you put it "their materialistic stuff"
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ACH:
Don't misquote people with quotations...I never uttered the phrase "their materialistic stuff".
Let me toss you a hypothtical. Lets say I prefer not to get beat by men. So in order to pursue that ideal of what a relationship should look like, I avoid men with anger problems or criminal history. Does that mean I'm blinded to who these men I avoid may be, or just imply that I am following my own ideals and preference for men?
Another example, just so you can get this into your head...
Lets say a woman prefers to date OTHER WOMEN. So she goes about preferring that the people she date have vaginas and breasts and are in fact WOMEN. Does that mean she's negetively judgeing men? Or does it mean she's simply dating in accordance to her preferences.
Your OP was asking if other people would date a 60-year old doctor. There fore I said "NO" because I tend to date men closer in age for specific reasons. I never said I've never dated men older...I never said I don't KNOW older men. All I said was I tend to date men closer to my age because of my preferences for the kind of man I like to spend time with.
You prefer older men, AWESOME. I prefer men in the 25-30 age range. How that makes me "blind" is beyond me.
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No way I would go out with someone twice my age. I already have a father, thank you. And at my age going out with someone twice my age would mean dating a mummy.
I also agree with aspotofblog that a much older guy would be more controlling. Also I think older guys date women their daughter's age because they have less world experience and make fewer demands on them.-
savvy2 - Not all older men are mummies, and not all older men are controlling.
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No, but that's because I'm not a gold digger.-
dbowles1017 - Wow, Hi and I'm not a "Gold Digger" it's not my fault I attract good quality men who are 2+ times my age. You have to remember I have my own money, he's is just extra.
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Ok Anna Nicole. I believe you.
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@ ACH I would kind of like to know why you had to mention that this 60 year old man is a doctor... I mean why throw that in? Why is his profession relative?
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lotusb - See your letting my actions "blind" you, that's why you're analyzing the doctor part and not the question. Would you date someone 2 or 3 times your age.
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I'm simply further analyzing the way the question was stated. I found it interesting that you mentioned his profession. If I posed the question, "Would you date a 27 year old Italaian guy" I'd assume people would react to both the reference to his age AND his ethnicity since both items were included in the question. Far from blind.
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lotusb- You said
I found it interesting that you mentioned his profession.
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The "Why" portin is displayed in the rest of my comment.
"If I posed the question, "Would you date a 27 year old Italaian guy" I'd assume people would react to both the reference to his age AND his ethnicity since both items were included in the question. Far from blind."
Did you not read the entire thing? -
lotusb - Yes I read your whole comment, but I disected what I felt I wanted to address you with.
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You make no sense.
Seriously...you contridict yourself more than anyone I've met on BC.
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I don't think there's anything wrong with it at all. Older men have more experience, in everything.-
hatingtherain - Great with your response. It seems you & aspotofblog
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lotusb - So bascially you're saying you date men with the intentions of getting married and having kids with? Alot of us are seeking the "Mr Right" that's why dating occurs.
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I personally don't belive in marriage all that much. But I date with the intent to have a fulfilling and lasting relationship with someone. I wouldn't date someone that wasn't my "type".
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R u thinking the long haul here? In 10 or 20 years his mojo might sink. Will ur sex drive follow suit or will u be inclined to cheat? What about children? Will dad be to old to play football or too tired to dress silly for a tea party? I'm soRry but if a 60yr old man has enough in common with a 33yr old womany, I think its safe to pity that womans level of excitement in life-
RoscoeAntHillz - Excuse me? Do you kow what "Intellectual Exchange" is? I said date not marry or have kids with.
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Lol...
I suppose dating never leads to marriage or relationships.
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again, i asked "are you thinking the long haul here?"
whats the point in dating other than getting to know a person, enjoyin thier company etc to figure out if u want them for the long haul?
and from the looks of your previous comebacks to other comments, im not the one who needs to be schooled on "intellectual exchange"
please advise of instances when you dont at least THINK of what the long haul might be like when dating....
who wants to waste thier time with someone that couldnt even be a contender in the long run? thats what a vibrator and casual encounters are for, not dating......-
RoscoeAntHillz - you said:
who wants to waste thier time with someone that couldnt even be a contender in the long run?
Why are you addressing death? Because of the age gap, well what if she dies before him? I don't think about loosing someone I'm in love with. Your suppose to enjoy the moment as long as it lasts. If death causes it to end, then at least you will have learned how to be loved the right way.
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Personally I dont think I would be attracted to someone that much older than me.
But if Ive learned something in life is to never say never, life has its way of throwing you surpises.-
stellak - Glad you said life has a way of throwing you surprises. Add journey's to that.
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death? huh?
"contender in the long run" meaning someone you would become serious with
im saying whats the point in dating someone if they arent a possibility in your long term plan......
your comeback to my comment before was that you werent talking about marriage and kids......im saying dating can become that......
do u actually read the comments or do a fast skim through? just curious....-
RoscoeAntHillz - I read your comments, but I dissect what I feel should be addressed that measures against the original question, which indeed you restructured for your own personal beliefs.
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2 or 3x my age would make her either the oldest person living or deceased. So I don't think the possibility really exists. But if you're happy, that's all that counts.-
nothingprofound - Ha Ha, in your case it would be 2 or 3 times below your age.
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2 or 3x below my age? In a heartbeat.
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nothingprofound - So you're saying you would date a 33 year old or whatever your age is 2 or 3 times below that?
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Without a second's thought.
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nothingprofound - Interesting of you to be attracted to women 2 or 3 times below your senior. Alot of people are commenting saying they don't think such relationship is healthy because of the huge age gap
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I don't put much stock in what "other people" say.
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I don't think anyone said their against it as a concept, people simply said they are against it PERSONALLY. When someone says "personally" it means as it pertains to their own opinions and feelings.
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so for men it would be the opposite scenario? That would be like.... EWWWWWWWWWWWWW
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hey, we like what we like
and u know what, if a 60yr old man gets you going,
then by all means do what makes you happy.....
personally, I like my men below 35, unruly and full of life.
unconnected to the worldly possessions, and a lover of nakedness.....
bohemian and proud, artistic and tortured.....
oh and he must be a craftsman in the art of orgasms! i need at LEAST 3 a day.......or im cranky.....
i somehow dont see someone 2-3 times my age offering that but hey you asked for personal preferences and thats mine.....-
RoscoeAntHillz - Hi well with my experience the doctor I'm currently dating is great in bed and he's 60. He and I waited after 90 days to sleep together, and we've been dating since 2/5/09. We have alot in common and it's more than just sleeping together. He advises me also on stuff. So he wears many hats, which is great.
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Roscoe-there are plenty of us old guys around from the 60s who fit that description to a T.
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Everything except the tortured.
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i didnt restructure anything at all. and you didnt dissect, you misread it.....
you asked if we would date someone 2-3 times older if he offered all we seeked, and i basically said i cant understand a woman who would have anything in common with someone that much older.....-
RoscoeAntHillz - Well it is possible a younger woman can have alot in common with a 60 year old man.
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well if you are happy with him then it doesnt matter what we all say, right?
why did you post? are u second guessing or did you genuinely want our opinions?-
RoscoeAntHillz - What makes you think the post is about me? It's just a general question, I didn't say I and him I said someone
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Didn't u say:
"I'm currently dating is great in bed and he's 60."
Um..HELLO?
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I'm 31 and my husband is 41. We get along great, but he looks a lot younger than his age and is a lot more fun and adventurous than your average 41 year old. Yet, I can't imagine being with a 60 year old. When he looks like your grandfather, that's too old for me. I would find it odd to see a couple with such a large age difference, but if they're happy, good for them.-
calais50 - Alot of older men don't look like your average grandfather if they take good care of themselves.
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lotus you beat me to it!
"Hi well with my experience the doctor I'm currently dating is great in bed and he's 60. He and I waited after 90 days to sleep together, and we've been dating since 2/5/09. We have alot in common and it's more than just sleeping together. He advises me also on stuff. So he wears many hats, which is great."
ummmmm ach, that was YOUR comment. do u not remember?
geez for all your "smart" comebacks, you sure are trippin up.....
maybe the 60 yr old doc can advise you on how to be consistent......-
LMAO!!!!!
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RoscoeAntHillz - You may conlude however you like. Yes I did say that, but like I said I didn't address question that way. I said would you date someone 2 or 3 times older than you.
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yes, you asked that and i responded....
then you decided to "dissect" my answer, and I decided to respond again....
ok so now that we have recapped the chain of events.....-
RoscoeAntHillz - Ok I get and understand your response.
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I'm 32 and no I would not date someone that much older than me! That is a HUGE difference. What would we have in common?? Plus at 60 yrs old he has a lot less time here on earth than most 33 yr olds would!! My husband is 8 months younger than me.-
crazedmama - So you're really basing it on the time left he could possibly have with you, then the "Intellectual Exchange" you are currently enjoying with him?
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I most definately would because many older men are much more attentive, charming and experienced in life. But sadly chances are that you'll tire of him after a few years - or he may find your energy too tiring!
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Cleobytheseao - Not all cases the older man finds the younger woman's negery too tiring.
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I am 33 and wouldn't date anyone of the age 60, even though my husband is 12 years older than I am... Even that's a bit of a stretch sometimes. (Not really because of him, but the fact that his parents are almost the same age as my grand parents, and his older brother is about the same age as my parents, and that just makes everything a bit weird...)
I would definitely worry about our age difference if he wasn't so fit. That is to say a 60-year old wouldn't be able to offer me everything I seek, but they would definitely come with one plus: Very likely his parents would be dead. (I deny ever saying that. )-
Sebastyne - Hi you and I are the same age, but we think very different about this. Older men seem to relate to me better on a business/emotional/physical level.
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Nope.-
NatetheGrate - Well if love or the journey surprises you, then you can't just say no.
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snappysparrow - Interesting you agree and would.
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Thinking ahead....no. Thinking in the present. Different story.
Cheers! JJ -
I am not sure how much liquid assets a 60 year old can produce?-
crpitt - My great friend crpitt, how funny you're pulling a old thread I did a long time ago into this one.
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What goes around generally comes around.
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so to speak
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At least you got it
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I wonder how that whole 3-month-probationary-period played out...
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It never lasted that long, as soon as he showed the wonga it was on.
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Achempire asked the wrong question, she could have said, "am dating a 60 yr old guy what do you think?"-
dexed - Ha Ha, don't use reverse psychology on me. You're suppose to ask your self would you date someone 2 or 3 times older than you? It's not about me.
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What are you offering to him?-
Theresa111 - I don't get your question. The thread is asking would you date someone 2 or 3 times older than you.
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Well ... You mentioned he could provide you with whatever you wanted, I was thinking that when you date, it is then a relationship, so I was wondering if he is offering you all this great stuff then what would you bring to the relationship? In order for something to work, even if he is much older, and distinguished, he will need balance, too. I meant no harm in my question, just a means of thinking out whatever decision one might make.
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I'm going to go out on a limb here and be the one to say this ...
To be honest Ach, I refuse to respond to your threads, you always seem to have an ulterior motive. You ask a question and then disect everyone's answers to death... You really need to understand that when YOU throw a question out there to other's in the community, your going to get THEIR opinions, not a mirror image of what you WANT to hear/read.
It's like you start these discussions just so you can tell everyone how your way is the only way ... If you cannot be adult enough to accept that other's do not think as you do then maybe you should stop asking what they think .. Because, you clearly don't really care ...
Bettie-
It is fun though
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bettieblogger - Longtime no see Bettie. I congratulate you on saying as you wish with me, but I don't have an "ulterior motive"
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Well said Bettie...however I'm going to go out on a limb here and say...I think it fell on deaf ears.
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You got what you wished for Claire, jajajaja
I made popcorn, you want some? -
Deray28 - I'm not getting your response, but i will assume you agree with the post.
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Oh no, don't assume that AchE because I don't agree with the post. I wasn't answering to you, I was talking to crpitt.
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I would love some popcorn
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if I were a 33 yr old female.. let me see... no .. because that's a general question. But who's preventing me from accidentally meeting such a man who is really attractive-
crazyTsu - Interesting response
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nope! unless i like fell in love with him or something, like a really really rare.. no actualy.. no.-
cazywaz - Well if destiny lead you to someone 2 or 3 times your age then you would have to just deal with it, if love over powered all
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only if they came with one of these
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The Red Panda makes me laugh out loud.
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There's nothing wrong. I would like to have suga momma -
Depends...Does she have a lot of cash?Hehe just joshin around...No i wouldnt marry someone twice my age because when i am 30 she would be 60...When i am 60 she would be...-
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Precisely!Or if not she would be bed-ridden...Then what the hell am I supposed to do?Plus she wouldnt be able to bear my kids at the age of 60 and if we adopt, by the time the child is 15 she would be 75!!
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runningshoes - You can't control destiny and love and journey
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"All that you seek" You mean stuff......cars, houses.....clothes?
If that's what you're into I see no problem with dating someone that much older. But, I wouldn't be into it and most guys AND women I know wouldn't either. Age is just an arbitrary thing, but a 30 year difference is a big difference.
I mean Hugh Hefner is an extreme example of this. He's a lucky man in a sense, but I just don't see how his 19 year old girlfriends are lucky. What goes on behind clothes doors gives me the "willies."-
bringbackpluto - Seek doesn't mean "stuff' as you mention.
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As long as two people are happy, age shouldn't matter. Same as gender, economic status, weight, religion, political affilitaions....you get the idea.
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i bet there's nothing wrong with it as long as his decent. -
So, this is a 60 year old man with half a million dollars in liquid assets?-
Don't be so shallow! Disgusting.
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Why are you attacking me.
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Stillthinking - Hi, how funny you're bringing a old thread I did a long time ago into this one?
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Oh Ach, we missed you and your utter sincerity. That surgeon did a really good job.
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Stillthinking - Well I missed you too! & your ways of telling me to the point stuff
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No problem. Now life expectancy is more than 80 years. After all life begins after 40.-
medspot - Good you agree.
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This is an exellent way to get response :-)-
nomoneyscam - & yours is what?
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