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In Search of the Perfect Engagement Ring

Posted by jesstarr • 11/26/07 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: engagement, lifestyle, love, marriage, relationship, shopping

About two months ago, I was at a dinner party thrown by a very dear friend for me. At the party, I met this loving couple. She wanted to get engaged and he hadn't popped the question. Of course the topic of dinner conversation was them and someone asked if she wanted to pick out her engagement ring or if she wanted him to select one without consulting her. We went around the table and talked about what we each preferred and shared stories on how some of us got engaged.

As I'm preparing a guide on diamonds for this holiday season and Valentine's Day, the question hit me again. Would you prefer to select your own engagement ring or would you want the guy to pick one out without consulting you?

For the guys... Would you prefer to pick out the ring yourself or have your woman pick?

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11/26/07

mtchick

I know I'm in the minority, but I couldn't care less about the ring...it's what it represents that is important to me, so I didn't care which one of us picked it out or what it looked like.

But I'm different than most people.

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11/26/07

suburbqueen

My hubby insisted that I pick out the ring, but it wouldn't have mattered to me either way. All I cared about was that he loved me and we were going to spend our lives together...the ring wasn't as important.

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11/26/07

dharmagypsy7

I am picking out my ring. I am the one who's wearing it and have to look at it. But of course my boyfriend gets an input too.. if he doesn't like it then I look for another one. We have very similar taste so it hasn't been too difficult. I think I found mine but it changes every week. The only problem is trying to find a conflict free diamond that's also Eco-friendly.

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11/26/07

rippinkitten

My husband attempted to shop on his own but got overwhelmed. He asked me to go with him to "look" and I ended up finding a set that I liked and nudged him in the right direction. He did the rest on his own.

I don't think it's so bad to help pick the right ring out.

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1/25/08

cluelesscat

My boyfriend tends to get overwhelmed when shopping for me, but at the same time I know that he would want to surprise me, so I would drop hints about what I like, such as shape and the preferred metal (and carat weight!), but I would leave the rest up to him. We both like surprises, but this way I (hopefully) won't end up with something I would never wear, and he would still get to surprise me to a certain degree.

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1/25/08

legbamel

I was terrifically lucky. My husband knows my tastes (and how short my fingers are) and surprised me with a gorgeous ring that looks like it was designed for my hand. On someone else it may look too delicate (the wedding band is maybe 2mm wide), but it's perfect for me.

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1/25/08

DOUGGOFFdotCOM

I picked my wife's out. The hardest part was hiding the money as we had a joint bank account.

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1 day ago

JewelsDesigns

If the rings are that important to you, you should both pick them out.

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