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Interacial dating?? is it still an issue
Posted by Sharonydouglas • 11/02/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: Dating, race, racial issues, relationships, sex
the other day I came across a site dedicated to helping people date other from other races..
Is this encouraging people to have racial preferences? Shouldn't you just date who ever without even thinking about race?
what do you think
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I can't see why it should make any difference.-
you are right
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Why wouldn't race be a factor? You can have a preference in body type, job skills, even income...but not race? I mean of course being open to whomever may come a long that makes you feel love, but if you PREFER a certain race...who cares? It's your own business, and doesn't make you racist.-
That's fine...but there's no reason for anyone to object to someone being attracted to whomever they like.
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when you put it that way.. I guess race is just another physical attribute.
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Still, I seldom see a black girl dating a white man.
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it's definitely more common that a black man will date a white women than a black women date a white women
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Thats how I see it. I mean it's not as if we're talking about race preference for a job or a loan or housing. It's for our personal sexual and physical taste.
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physical test. gotcha
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Where I'm from it's pretty uncommon for people to date outside of their race but since i've moved to atlanta it seems to be more common and I think its ok
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Well I'm from California. It's a VERY diverse area and most people are open to dating whomever they please, but there are some people who have a preference. I personally prefer either Black American men or foreign men (of almost any background)... Thats my preference.
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I was the only white chick in my class for many years during school. I dated black men and was teased and ridiculed, but never gave a fcuk. I ended up marrying a white man and have noticed people don't look at me funny anymore.
And the white guy turned out to be the biggest Dick. Sad.-
I can relate.. I'm from Detroit..If I dated a white guy in Detroit, my family would've have disowned me... SERIOUSLY
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Unless your parents are both from Africa, there is already some level of interracial mix in your blood line, I guarantee it.
I am the result of interracial relationships. My sister's husband is white and no one in my family would ever object to it because it's not even an issue. -
My parents never had a problem with who I dated. It was everyone else that did.
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my dad in particular doesn't like white people because of an experience when he was a lot younger.. MY dad is pretty old..
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Hell, I'm not that old and there are times when I don't like white people.
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Yea, we've all had experiances with other races that COULD scar us, but letting it affect our entire opinion of an entire group of people...is racist.
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it's easy to say that when you are brought in a time that is so different from the time he is from. now a days people have woken up and realized that race does not define who you are
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In many towns it is still an issue.
Is this encouraging people to have racial preferences? Depends on the person
Shouldn't you just date who ever without even thinking about race? Yes but sadly that is not how it works. I am one of those who happens to find the vampire look very attractive (super pale, dark hair, light eyes) and that is a predominantly Caucasion occurance so since that is what attracts me, I go that way. I have never really had an attraction to anything but that with the exception of a slight deviation to blonds this year. BUT I have been called racist before because of that preference even though its not intended that way. Mostly by guys whom I turn down who are not of that look.
On a personal level I say go with what you are attracted to, on a communal level I say respect those who have different preferences without labeling them X,Y, or Z.-
I totally agree.. I don't think a racial preference in dating someone should make someone a racist.. you can't help who you are attracted to
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now comes the tricky question, how does one turn down someone who is not their type without getting that label?
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You say, "Your not really my type"
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good question.. wow.. sounds like another discussion
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see I tried that. Here is how it went down:
"hey girl, lemme talk to you"
"umm ok.... hi"
"what's a man gotta do to get your number?"
"I don't really give it out, company cell phone and all"
"you wanna do something, go to Fatz?"
"Aww thank you, I'm flattered but I'm gonna have to pass"
"why girl, come on now"
"I'm sorry, you seem nice but you're not really my type"
"why cause I'm black?"
"I just kinda go for the punk boys"
"what am I ugly?"
"no.. no it's not that it's just I am more into that scene"
"it's cause I'm black"
"umm what.. yeah I gotta go"
"racist ass bitch"
I get into those types of conversations a lot and it's like ummm... u oh? -
I've had similar conversations, Arsenic:
"Hi, I'm Brian."
"F**k off!"
"Okay. Have a good one." -
hahahahaha
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whoa.. intense.. he just sounds like a friggin idiot..
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lol brian
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@Sharon yeah but that's like the dating style in this town apparently. It happens at least once a week often just like that or very similar. At first I would just smile and say I was in a hurry but that get's the hostility card up a little faster than just stopping
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I believe you.. here in Atlanta, men act like beggers and stop you all the time with stupid pick up lines.. I think it's inevitable.. You might just have to live with being called a racist lol.
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I'm a Canadian by birth and I married an American. Try not to fall off your chairs in shock.
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gasp!!!!!! Lol my daddy was an Irish immigrant and my mommy was Pennsylvania dutch!! The shame!
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FUNNY... My mom is from arkansas and my dad is from michigan.. the controversy
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She wasn't by any chance Brunhilde O'Shaughnessy, was she?
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sorry.. lol she wasn't but you were so close
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I've never had any chocolate before... I need to work on that.-
lol.. chocolate is good for you
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Lotus keeps teasing me. And not giving in. Blame her.
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Oh baby.....
DB, you know your asking for it now. -
lol... everyone should just date someone they wouldn't normally date and blog about it
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I know lotus... I know ;p
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LMAO @ the OP -
I don't know why that's funny...
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My husband says that chocolate is really good!
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I think people should date who ever they like without thinking about their race. The first thing I seen in a person is their character.-
It you like a person you should date them
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Well, I like you, and as much as I would like to, I don't think I should date you since I am already married.
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lol well thats definitely a good reason not to date someone
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Oh, and my wife and I are different races.
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Every relationship I have been in (minus 1) has been interracial. I love it. I fully support it. I think it helps bridge the gap and kills certain smaller aspects of racism by realizing that in the end we're all just people of different shades. I think race is something of the mind. Just something people made up to differentiate themselves on terms of status and the trend has had a lasting impact.
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I totally agree with you! When the world will be full of kids issued from interacial relationship, this will be the end of racism. -
It needs to happen faster. It's ridiculous that some people are still racists. My issue especially is that at most times, people label you based on some kind of minority model. It's like its okay to be racist openly to the average guy, but not if they are a celebrity or a doctor, because they're not (pick race) "like that"
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Yes, it is absolutely ridiculous, and I have the same issue! I hate to be judged on the color of my skin and most of all, I hate the fact that this is still an issue in the 21th century. But I guess that some old prejudices are very hard to remove from one's head.
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Don't really see it as an issue. Have a multi-ethnic family myself. -
My girlfriend is from mixed Indian/Iranian descent, with a bit of Chinese thrown in for good measure. I'm not. All I noticed about how she looks is that she's really, really hot.
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she sounds hot
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If it really made any difference then all humans would look exactly the same. Ditto ditto ditto ditto ditto ditto ditto ditto ditto ditto .... Boring! Embrace one another and look for the beauty that comes from within. No, it should never make any difference. -
Some blacks have problems with blacks dating whites. Some whites have a problem with whites dating blacks. I would rather focus on what does God think of racial marriages. From all I can read in the Bible Jesus broke down the racial barriers but we people keep putting them back up.-
religion is usually a good place to turn to with issues like this
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I dunno. I live in Cali, so it's pretty much anything goes. All there is is hot and not. -
One day in the FAR future, we ALL will look alike...no more racism.
TO THE FUTURE! -
I think race shouldn't be a factor. The problem with that is the rest of the world makes it a problem. So I say think long and hard before you do to make sure you are ready to be judged. It SUX,but it's life. -
I am a 100%, Red-Blooded, White, American Male...with the Black Wife born and raised in Haiti to prove it!
If interracial dating and relationships intrigues you... www.interracial-love.com -
@ Sharonydouglas
If you're blogging about it, I want to read it!
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Hi,
Don't know if it is a uk thing but I am black married to a white man with two children.
I have had relationships with white, black and chinese and it didn't bother me ....obviously!
What I do find interesting is when we are out and about and bump into other mixed race couples. Especially where the woman is black there is a 'nod' ad if to say, yes, we're in the same club and the urge/need to connect.
Some men then make comments on how much they like rice and peas as though that will improve their cool status!
I didn't marry my husband for a statement, I married him because I love him and though 99.9% of the 'reaction' we have had is positive, it always amuses me when I sometimes meet other couples -
It would be great it people weren't so hung up on it. I was so disgusted when I read about that judge who refused to marry an interracial couple in the news. They sued him, as well they SHOULD, and I am glad they forced him to resign recently.
I've dated two men from different races and religions. It makes me sick that someone could look at us and use it as a reason to say, "I refuse to marry you because your children will suffer for it."
Um, no dumbass. Our children would suffer because of closed-minded backward cavemen like YOU. -
We are all one race- the human race. My husband and I are a different color, but that is nothing but beautiful. :o) -
Evidently it is here in the good 'ol South;
www.msnbc.msn.com/id/33609707/ns/us_news-race_and_ethnicity/ -
race should not be a factor. I was in a interracial relationship once and it was great. but after sometime it did not workout due to the distance between us.
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