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Is it fair for ones church to prohibit its members to marry those from other churches?
Posted by jbmasigan • 1/13/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: Church, love, marriage
If Jesus wants us to love one another, why is it that most of us is prohibited by our religion if not the society to marry a person from another church or religion?
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only a moron would be silly enough to allow someone else to control them like that-
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If any religious organisation, either common or back yard crazy loopy sect wants to take away your decision making, it is none other than a cult.
In a cult, you give away your power and allow the controlling faction to make choices. A choice like choosing a life partner is too big to let someone else make that choice fore you, there is NO guarantee that the person e.g a minister, priest, guru, pundit is of sound mind, good character and reasonable intelligence just because they're in a religious suit. I have heard of some situations where people in religious organisations do some very wrong things, so based on that alone would be a good reason to say. Hey, I'm going to own my life and make what I consider to be intelligent decisions.
However, if a person cannot think for themselves and has a lack of intelligence due to genetic reasons or because of an abnormal upbringing, it might be a good idea to get help from VARIOUS sources to make a decision.
Any normal human being with basic intelligence should be able to make an intelligent decision without out the biased opinions of others.
Woops: I did a slight edit of 20 typos
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No, but then every branch of religion has rules about how one should pray, live their life, worship etc, Nobody MAKES them go to that particular religious institution and nobody MAKES them follow rules that would deny them the right to marry who they want. Personal choice. -
Alot of churches are still that way.
When my parents got married, mom had to convert to Catholic. Then, the priest wouldn't let me aunt be the maid of honor because she wasn't Catholic. Dad found a different Catholic church in the same town and the new priest was fine with everything.
My husband was asked to be part of a wedding party for a Mormon wedding - only he wasn't allowed in the temple during the actual ceremony because he himself hadn't been married in the Mormon church. Hubby declined the offer - he couldn't see paying tons of money to rent a tux and not even be able to watch the ceremony. -
What does fair have to do with anything? Very few (if any) churches are concerned with fairness...they are patriarchal institutions that operate in a paternalistic, autocratic fashion. They tell you what you are supposed to think, believe, and do, regardless of how you feel. It isn't fair...it isn't SUPPOSED to be!
Don't like it? Find a new church.
Better yet, drop religion entirely and think for yourself!-
i agree some churches are like that
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similarly my friend coudn't marry his girlfriend because his church and his family will condemn him
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Fair? No. Their right? Yes.
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Of course, most churches not only would prohibit me from marrying at all, but often wouldn't allow me as a member. Period. Intersexed people who go through "transition" don't have rights in most churches, and most church leaders would prefer to execute us if they had opportunity. -
Religion plays a huge part of many people's lives; often, it helps to dictate many of the decisions people make. If your significant other has some fundamentals differences to their approach to some of the doctrines, practices, and teachings of your church, that could cause some serious problems within the home.
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A person presumably chooses his church based on his/her beliefs. If he doesn't believe in the teachings of the church, he shouldn't be a member. If he does, then he's not being "prohibited" from doing anything--he's following his beliefs.
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