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Is it okay to Disagree?
Posted by mister2mike • 5/18/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: disagree, fight
When you leave comments, do you always agree to the author? I disagree at times and I think it's okay. Do you disagree with me now?
Is it also okay to fight? In discussions like these some are just so notable in fighting leaving comments like "I'm just here to fight.." What's going on in their minds? What's lovely about fighting?
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Why not unless you have to go to Hell for disagreeing!-
Yeah!, you're right
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Disagreeing is not fighting. How boring it would be if we all agreed-
Agree! i think we would be so pathetic.
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I don't mind sharing my opinion.
I don't mind if my opinion clashes with any other person's opinion.
I don't mind jumping up to the plate with an argument if I feel strongly enough about something.
HOWEVER - I DO DRAW THE LINE WHEN IT COMES TO CALLING OUT SOMEONE using PERSONAL INSULTS.
I do not think you should belittle someone because of their beliefs.
You may state your belief - and if you have a logical argument to deal out - then support your opinion with facts or explain how you came to your opinion - or what your full opinion is.
But to cut down the other individual - name calling, etc. means you've lost the argument and you have no ammunition. in other words - you lost. So it's useless if that is all you have to resort to.-
wagerwitch,
very well said. We can disagree but let's limit to the opinion of the person instead of going and calling out names to destroy the person.
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Does disagreeing have to mean fight? I don't think so. I think some people can't handle being disagreed with and get defensive and nasty, and some can't disagree without being rude and nasty.
I see nothing wrong with agreeing to disagree or challenging an opinion as long as it is done with diplomacy.-
well said as well. Always with diplomacy
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I've never done that. If I'm against to what the author said, then I just leave and don't need to comment. I just don't wanna disappoint others.-
Unless the blog poster has asked for a specific opinion I am like you in that I don't feel compelled to offer a contrary opinion.
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@idealpinkrose what's your reason behind? because you just don't want to hurt? but what if you know better, isn't it selfishness not to share it?
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The OP started this thread because I asked him not to leave spammy comments on my blog that linked back to his.
I told him that in order to build blogging relationships with other people, you should leave thoughtful comments that reflect that you actually read the article and were interested in it. Saying nice blog-visited doesn't cut it.
His response was to get mad. Learn to take constructive criticism.
I never link drop on other people's blogs and if I have nothing to add to the conversation, either agreeing or disagreeing, I don't leave a comment at all. Nice blog, visited is bullsh*t.
I don't care if you leave negative comments on my blog disagreeing with me, just be prepared to get some comments back from me. I had a long exchange with someone in the comments of an article I did awhile back. He fundamentally disagreed with me on virtually all my points. I still published his comments, I just made sure to also respond to each and every one.
But when your comments are really little more than link dropping, also be prepared to receive some negative feedback.-
@Stillthinking
Thanks for joining in the conversation. Just like you, i too have preserved the negative comments in my blog coz I think it's okay. coz i think they're entitled to that.
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After a while, disagreeing with other people becomes a big bore. It's so easy and safe. The most fruitful kind of disagreeing is disagreeing with yourself. That's when you really start to learn something and grow.-
@nothingprofound
Wow, this one is unique and great! Sometimes, we do need to disagree with ourselves. With our actions, reactions and even thoughts. Nice One!
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If disagreement is for the sake of sharing ideas or views and is done in a professional way, it is OK for me. What matters is the way we disagree and its purpose.-
Correct! Disagreeing should be for the betterment of both parties.
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It's fine to disagree with someone. Conflicts are provoked or avoided depending usually on tact.
That being said, it's the internet. You need to grow a thick skin when random people are involved.-
@Minikin1 I agree with having thick faced here in the net. A lot and various responses can come our way. again, at the end of the day we want to see disagreements and feedback with diplomacy
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"I come not to bring peace, but to bring a sword"--Jesus-
@Agit8r
You know I'm a Christian and I agree with Jesus. Because His word would somtimes rebuke and correct the people to train us in righteousness.
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I think disagreement is fine. Opposing opinions never scare me, nor does bullying by people who can only hear their own voice and never anyone else's. I don't go all out fighting because I have better things to do and usually the people I befriend aren't the ones who refuse to admit other people can think for themselves.-
@Floormodel Great answer!
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"Out of the quarrel with others we make rhetoric; out of the quarrel with ourselves we make poetry." -Yeats
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again, nice one!
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If I write a topic that has controversy surrounding it then I usually make a poll. It's easier then leaving a comment and it gives me an idea on what kind of people are reading my blog.-
@manfactor so you're afraid of disagreements then? is having poll your way to get rid of such?
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so is this really about comments in general or a specific incident regarding someone objecting to your comments?
Be honest with us eh!-
@jafabrit In general
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So you want us to agree that you were okay to leave spammy comments? Wrong.-
or to say others shouldn't leave comments objecting to spammy comments?
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I think what he's really looking for is reassurance that he's right and I'm wrong.
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Also to imply that its a fight? Just ruddy bad manners on his part I say.
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I don't think he's trying to start a fight. I think he just doesn't understand how social networking on blogs works and resents being called out for it. I offered my criticism as an opportunity for him to improve his blog relationships, but he did not understand that it was to his benefit.
I wasn't trying to be mean. Anyway, it doesn't matter as he rarely visits any threads he starts. -
In any case,, it created the opportunity for so many trenchant comments on the subject of disagreement. So we turned it to good use.
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there's the problem. you start me personally and that's not what I want to do. this purely a general discussion.
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If you don't want to be disagreed upon, blogging is not for you.
...nor talking, socializing, mingling, loving.... living?
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agree
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I believe that disagreements are within the Scriptural teachings.. Paul and Barnabas found themselves in a great disagreement in Acts 15(2-7)and it also took the apostles and elders to debate the subject of circumcision to find the answer if it was necessary for Gentile believers to undergo... Isaiah also say "Come let us reason together..." Reasoning things out must at points be met with disagreement in order to come to a happy conclusion. The only time that I believe disagreeing is wrong- is when the parties involved allow it to escalate into anger, hatred, or resentment.. These are acts of the fleshly nature and do not have a place in the community of believers.. LOVE should always be the motivator!!!-
@dpep378 That's 100 AMEN to you! Love and care for the other person should be first and foremost the motivation!
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It would be really boring if people just agreed with me all the time.-
Yes ma'am. Whatever you say. Please no! Not that! Ok, well maybe that. -
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funny!
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I agree!-
uhmm i disagree?
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I disagree with everyone including myself.-
Same here. I get worried when I start agreeing with myself.
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with yourself is sometimes okay but saying disagreeing with everyone, i think is a differnt story. is that depending on the situation or just disagree
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I think it's always OK to disagree - as long as it's done in a respectful manner. You may be bringing new ideas to the table that the author has just never considered. Fighting, however, is totally different and in my opinion, not cool.-
Nice one. Positive and constructive disagreement is good.
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