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Posted by GFG • 7/28/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic

Is it okay for married couples choosing not to have babies?

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7/28/08

crkian

Thats a daft question. Its upto anyone married or not weather they have a babie or not

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1. 7/28/08
  
  GFG
  
  I know it's up to them to decide .. but do you think it's against nature to get married and yet not having babies? I hear lots of couples "choosing" not to have babies because to them their career and freedom is more important
  
  wow i learn a new word today "daft"
2. 7/28/08
  
  crkian
  
  i dont think anyone gets married just to have a baby
3. 7/28/08
  
  GFG
  
  That is true.. I mean specifically at Couples who exclaims proudly that they ARE not going to have babies... as a matter of factly
4. 7/28/08
  
  crkian
  
  is it in marriage vows that you agree to love honor and obey so long as you both produce babies
5. 7/28/08
  
  GFG
6. 7/28/08
  
  dHomemaker
  
  it could be the couple's preference not to have one.. but i just don't see the point. Sowee.. :-)
7/28/08

ttiger

this is their choice!
it's absolutely no one business

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7/28/08

wigwam2theorem

Some people (I'm not one of them) would argue the reverse -given the population situation on the planet, couples should NOT be having children.

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7/28/08

acousticguitarist

Some couples definitely shouldn't bev allowed to have children

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1. 7/29/08
  
  ttiger
  
  ever watch the movie idiocracy?
  www.youtube.com/watch?v=pyVNlvzzSFA
7/28/08

tweakwindows

I personally feel it's better to choose have babies

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1. 7/28/08
  
  GFG
  
  Why?
7/29/08

timethief

Of course it is. My partner and I were both older kids in very large families. We raised our younger siblings. We chose not to have our own kids. However, we are top donors to all kids projects in our community. We are 4H and pony club, environmental club, fencing club and fishing and conservation club youth leaders. We volunteer to be chaperons. We offer respite care to single parents and we have been caregivers to the kids of battered women who returned to the work force. We are also the favorite aunt and uncle of all our nieces and nephews and if anything happens to their parents we will be their legal guardians. We could never have given hours of volunteer service and expertise, not to mention the money to these kid's organizations if we had chosen to have kids of our own.

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1. 7/29/08
  
  GFG
  
  isn't having kids the greatest contribution any person can give to society? and selectively choosing NOT to have kids without valid reasons (e.g. Medical etc) is being selfish? Just my 2 cents
2. 7/29/08
  
  timethief
  
  In my opinion the last thing our over populated planet that is stressed out from the exploitative demands of those who refuse to live simple basic and healthy lifestyles needs is more people. Get a grip. Reproducing requires zero brain power. Contribution what contribution? Humans take from this planet. We take, take, take until we destroy, and what we take we squander. In between we kill each other over asinine things like religious beliefs. I did have a very strong medical reason but that's beside the point. We did not want children period.
7/29/08

DrowseyMonkey

I agree with crkain ... it's a daft question, lol. I'm childless by choice and I think more people should think about that decision more seriously and not have kids just because someone tells them to or because they feel like they're suppose to. Many questions should go into that decision because it's the most important decision anyone can make ... to raise another human being. Huge responsibility not to be taken lightly.

As for being selfish, I think it's way more selfish to have kids because "you" want them. Having kids is not about "you" it's about the human being you're creating and bringing into the world.

People should look at their lives seriously, understand who they are and make a conscious decision on whether or not they'd make a good parent, whether or not they want to be one ... and after that ... then make the decision. That's not being selfish, that's being responsible.

I know lots of fantastic parents ... and I think what makes them great parents is because they really want to be parents. And that's wonderful.

I don't regret my decision at all. It was made with a lot of care and thought and it was the right decision for me. Plus, I love being an aunt and love all the kiddies in my life.

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