Blog Catalog Discussion: Is Marriage really that bad ??

LolitaV on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

LolitaV — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 16:36:56 -0500

don't get married. get divorced.

thirdeyewitness on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

thirdeyewitness — Tue, 18 Aug 2009 16:34:04 -0500

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tunyalit on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

tunyalit — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 15:32:47 -0500

I really need to Marry

SweetJourney on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

SweetJourney — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 15:26:25 -0500

I think people will give comments depend on their experiences.
For those who are happy with their marriage, they will say marriage is great!. But for those who are unhappy with their marriage and even had bad experiences, they will hate it.

aleare on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

aleare — Sun, 05 Jul 2009 09:59:32 -0500

Marriage is the best! but to make it wonderful and happy, there's must be LOVE between you and your spouse. That's the secret.
I've married twice and divorced twice, so you can see I've learn something from them.

Cheers!

,·*’°§ aleare §°’*·,

ladylyf on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

ladylyf — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 18:35:17 -0600

Marriage is not bad, though im not married and i dont wanna get married. I wrote about it in a recent post http://ladylyf.wordpress.com/2009/01/23/marriage-from-…-a-single-girl/

Anok on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

Anok — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 18:32:24 -0600

Marriage is hard work.

For some people, hard work = "sucks balls".

But that's really their problem.

CrankyChick on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

CrankyChick — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 18:09:45 -0600

Whoever finds thier marriage bad needs to make some changes...

Stinkypaw on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

Stinkypaw — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 17:35:01 -0600

It's only as bas as you choose to make it...

windroot on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

windroot — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 17:31:31 -0600

We go through so many stages in our lives and being married is a complexification, no doubt about it. But as you get older you begin to appreciate having a partner to be there with you and for you. So IMHO, married or unmarried, having a partner is better than not having a partner.

drjay1966 on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

drjay1966 — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 17:05:29 -0600

Ummm...I think it depends on who you're married to....

psychosolodiver on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

psychosolodiver — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 16:59:39 -0600

It REALLY sucks!

They bitch and complain, nag and tray and change you into what they think you should be.

ophase on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

ophase — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 16:44:59 -0600

Hahaha :)
He's my kind of man anyway

ophase on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

ophase — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 16:35:50 -0600

Congradulations !!

ophase on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

ophase — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 16:34:53 -0600

You mean like that??

melindaville on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

melindaville — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 16:19:38 -0600

No! It's wonderful! I love being married--but I am married to the world's greatest guy (and he, of course, is married to the world's greatest gal!).

busylizzy on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

busylizzy — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 16:17:35 -0600

Yeah, team! (shaking my pompoms for your parents!!!)

Floormodel on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

Floormodel — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 16:20:58 -0600

I loved being married, unfortunately we were young and my husband didn't.
My parents have been married over sixty years now and I admire their ability to put each other ahead of themselves and to go through the good and the bad as a team, together.

busylizzy on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

busylizzy — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 16:12:08 -0600

Friday13 will make a good husband one day. Right now, focus on college! Once you've graduated and have get a job, weekends should be free (no more studying!)and you can get a social life.

busylizzy on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

busylizzy — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 16:08:35 -0600

I think Shaw wrote that before his wife went into menopause and started getting hot flashes!

busylizzy on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

busylizzy — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 16:08:01 -0600

Living together in the same household, raising the kids etc...it needs to be run like a business: everyone has to know what their responsibilities are, everyone has to be respectful of their "coworkers," there should be short term and long term goals and a plan to get there. If you are not a team player, you probably aren't going to be a very good husband or wife.

ophase on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

ophase — Fri, 23 Jan 2009 15:45:41 -0600

"Marriage is an alliance entered into by a man who can't sleep with the window shut, and a woman who can't sleep with the window open. "

G.Bernard Shaw

armywife65 on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

armywife65 — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 20:01:38 -0600

My first marriage was living hell. He could tell the sky was purple and I'd believe him.
My marriage now, is awesome. We speak each others thoughts, we don't fight and I really do mean that. We can sit in the same room all day and not say but 2 words to each other and it's ok. We enjoy being together all the time. We talk about our goals in life, we work on things together and have fun. We like the same things, well almost...He doesn't like to scrap book...lol.. but we like to go Hiking,Travel and spend time with our dogs.
We have what most people only wish or dream about. Communication is a big factor in a relationship. With out Communication you have no Relation.
I'm so glad he answered my Love@AOL ad that day when he did...=)

busylizzy on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

busylizzy — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 19:16:07 -0600

This coming June will be our 25th anniversary. Thank you, very much! I think both partners need to have the same expectations and agree on the definition of marriage. There are many different ideas on what each partner should do or be responsible for. As long as both parties are in agreement then there is a good chance for happiness and success. The old-fashioned husband/wife stereotypes from the 1960's and before got torn down in the 1970's when ladies started divorcing out of bad marriages and becoming independant. Time makes a marriage an evolving creature that must constantly redefine itself. Partners in a marriage need to be in touch with the ever-changing parameters of life and adjust their expectations, responsibilities and goals. In other words, they need to "regroup" now and then.

gearsofrock on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

gearsofrock — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 18:31:22 -0600

I love being married but I notice people like my mom that got to a older certain age and then went absolutely insane, making my dad's life miserable. I know my father isnt the only one in that hell and I pray that never happens to me. Marriage seems so simple to me: just do what the other person likes to do. If both people accept that simple task, then everything should be cool.

Bingkee on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

Bingkee — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 18:29:35 -0600

I love being married than being single. It's because I have someone who loves me much, accepts me and is always there for me. The troubles that come with marriage are inevitable but it's up to the couple to go through it out, willing to sacrifice each other's selfishness and pride. It's the troubles that test the couple to draw on each other. I don't need to "work to make my marriage work" because afterall I found the right man to be married with. But I believe a good marriage is a blessing from God.
Each day that we're married , it keeps us to hold on to our marriage knowing that each of us has strengths and weaknesses that complement each other.
Sebastyne is right--what is work---is finding the right person. And after finding him/her , it becomes effortless.

Jeunelle on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

Jeunelle — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 18:26:58 -0600

You can find the right person at the time but people also change and their needs change with them over the years and they may no longer want to be married too. So yes it's work all around.

I am not against marriage, just the silly people who marry for silly reasons.

creemos on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

creemos — Tue, 30 Dec 2008 17:35:42 -0600

This side of glory... YES!

Sebastyne on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

Sebastyne — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 18:10:52 -0600

I quite honestly enjoy being married. Sometimes my husband doesn't do things the way I want him to, but I don't do things the way he would want me to either. That's nothing to cry about, we're still individuals even though we share a life. My philosophy is; sit back, relax and see where it takes us...

I don't understand where all this "work to make it work" comes from... Apparently you're supposed to work from day one or things go sour. I haven't worked one little bit to keep this marriage going, but it's only getting better. I've got a friend by my side the whole time, and if doing nice things for him counts as work, I must be in the wrong line of business!

What does require work, in my opinion, is finding the right person. That can be gruelling work! It may take you some years, but after finding the right person, the rest comes fairly effortlessly I think.

LynneaUrania on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

LynneaUrania — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 17:56:47 -0600

For me the twist was different because I wasn't living as a woman most of the time then. I requested the divorce because my spouse had been estranged by a minister and had withdrawn from me for several years already. People had been advising me to divorce for years up till that time.

What made it particularly bitter was the realization that she had used me for a jail break. She wanted to get away from her family. Then after some years, I was the villain and she could say nothing but good about her family. All the while, she and her family swayed the daughter against me. She's an adult now. She still does not speak peaceably to me, even after the death of my spouse.

Could marriage work in my case? I rather doubt it. It takes a special person to handle an intersexed individual in a marriage. And since I did transition from a male to a female role, seeing that life as a male was clearly failing and transition was necessary for survival, the only marriage that would be legally accepted would be a lesbian one (following the precedent of Littleton vs. Prague). That's difficult for me to accept because after the last marriage, I'm not inclined to trust another woman on that level.

What that leaves me with is either a domestic partnership or a common law union.

And since I have this much fluidity with respect to sex and gender roles, I have come to be more fluid with arrangements as well as expectations. And because I tolerated my wife's affairs, I learned to be a lot more open to multiple arrangements of commitment.

LGramlich on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

LGramlich — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 15:16:36 -0600

Nothing in our relationship changed when we got married, actually. That's how I knew it was a good decision. We're both just as happy as we were before.

Jeunelle on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

Jeunelle — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 14:42:02 -0600

@Bayho...I think people make it seem worse then it really is.
Please tell that to the thousands of women who are murdered by their husbands in the world today. I would say that something is deadly wrong and some do make it worse than it really is.
Husbands who murder their wives and unborn child is growing in record numbers worldwide.

freeatlast on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

freeatlast — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 14:08:34 -0600

I remember reading this a couple years ago... that women are MUCH more likely to initiate divorce... and I think it speaks VOLUMES in Favor of the independence and intelligence of modern women.

Bayho on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

Bayho — Mon, 29 Dec 2008 13:48:18 -0600

nah i dont think itd that bad.. im not marired tho haha.. but i think people make it seem worse then it really is. just to make fun of asll the sterotpyes haha ya know. lol. but yeah i dont think its bad.

armywife65 on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

armywife65 — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 23:12:07 -0600

depends on who you married

Arcticulates on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

Arcticulates — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 18:27:05 -0600

I love being married. I have been married for 27 years! We have had our good times and our really bad times. But when you make a committment to someone it doesn't mean it is going to be easy all the time. Sometimes it takes everything you got to stay and work things out when it gets bad but it is always worth it later...

But if this relationship was physically abusive I would be gone in a flash.. There is no excuses for physical abuse ever!

Jeunelle on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

Jeunelle — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 14:53:51 -0600

The face of hell....classic :)

voodooKobra on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

voodooKobra — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 14:42:31 -0600

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m_VURr6jnWQ

What do you think?

Jeunelle on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

Jeunelle — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 14:39:31 -0600

Indeed :)

MadMadMargo on 'Is Marriage really that bad ??'

MadMadMargo — Sat, 27 Dec 2008 14:22:11 -0600

A momentary lapse in judgement.