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Is Silda Wall Spitzer being a supportive wife or a doormat to Eliot Spitzer?

Posted by Hazelnut01 • 3/14/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: Hillary Clinton, infidelity, new york, politics, prostitution, spitzer

I've been debating with myself over this one. Part of me wishes Silda would take her shoe off and give Eliot a good whack upside the head.

Or let him stand there by himself when making his resignation announcement.

Is she being a doormat? Is she spineless? Or is she being courageous and supportive?

Will she, like Hillary, be entering politics soon herself?

So many questions.

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3/14/08

DrowseyMonkey

I think she's in shock at the moment. She should kick his azz outta there no doubt about it. What's she keeping him around for? He's no prize that's for sure...and it would be a bad example for her 3 teenage daughters to let something like this happen and not leave. Her leaving doesn't break up the family ... he did that when he hired the hookers.

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1. 3/14/08
  
  Hazelnut01
  
  Apparently she was helping him fight the allegations at first until more info came to light. It's easy from my armchair to say that I'd leave him in a New York minute (tee hee) but when you're in that situation who knows. But really, I'd be so outta there.
  She had a good career as a lawyer before she gave it up to help him in his bid for governor.
  That's gotta hurt.
  Hazelnut
2. 3/14/08
  
  DrowseyMonkey
  
  Well, I've been cheated on (no hookers involved tho, lol) and left in a new york minute...why stick around, that pretty much says it all as far as I'm concerned ... no matter how hard you try or how adult you are ... there's no going back after something like that, eventho I know people who have. Why hang on to bad rubbish? LOL I don't understand why people make excuses for their significant other who cheats! Dump 'em. Life's much better without them.
3/14/08

kristilinauer

I honestly don't think she's making conscious decisions right now to be "spineless" or "a doormat" or "courageous" or "supportive". I think she's probably in a daze, simply going through the motions and just trying to make it through each day. It will probably be some time before she can think about everything that's happened with a clear mind and make the decision(s) that is right for her and her daughters.

I also think that political ambitions are probably the farthest thing from her mind right now. She probably just wants to crawl in a hole and disappear for a while.

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1. 3/14/08
  
  Hazelnut01
  
  Yeah, you could be right. It's sort of like he died and she's going through the motions of attending his funeral.
  For Hillary it worked out well for her to stay, but honestly, Spitzer seems pretty scuzzy,
  Hazelnut
3/14/08

cooper

Who knows really. The woman was a big time lawyer, fairly astute from all accounts, so it is quite likely she knew of it all along, though I wonder at these woman actually "standing by their men". I find it rather pathetic and would never do it \myself.

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1. 3/14/08
  
  Hazelnut01
  
  No, I couldn't do it either - stand by my man. That seems so l950's but I suppose you have to do the old Ann Landers test: am I better off with him or without him? Yes, she was a good lawyer, I'm sure she'd have no problem getting back onto THAT horse again.
  I'd prosecute his ass!
  Hazelnut
3/14/08

cooper

When do these woman become complicit enablers? I mean, as with many of these high profile politicians wives, Clinton included, when does staying in that situation for the power and the money, future power, or whatever, make them just as guilty.

So when does it become OK to ignore behavior, in the case of The Spritz illegal behavior, so as to ensure your position, become the right thing to do?

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3/14/08

Hazelnut01

We'll have to wait and see what Silda does in the future. As for Hillary I think she's getting the ultimate revenge over Bill, and has really milked the situation for all it's worth making her as corrupt, or moreso, than him.
Why is Bill always smiling though?
I read recently that if Hillary became president he would in fact, if not in reality, her VP.
Is this another kick at the can for him?
Hazelnut

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3/14/08

jackpayne

At least she won't be destitute. Her share of his half billion $ fortune will buy groceries.

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3/14/08

kdawg68

My heart breaks for her. I think she knows her situation and the needs of her children better than us so I personally give her carte blanche to do what she feels is best.

If I'm going to offer a judgement on anyone in the situation from a right/wrong perspective, it won't be her.

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3/14/08

globalgirl

It's already been said: she is probably in shock, humiliated, hurt and angry. I'd leave him yesterday. He is obviously not trustworthy and clearly made his decision when he spent thousands on harlots.

My counsel to her: Kick him out, shed your tears and forgive him, get an STD/AIDS test, and know that joy will come in the morning when you are free of your promiscuous husband.

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3/14/08

trlrtrash13

theaxisofstevil.com/2008/03/13/where-the-heck-are-all-of-the-feminists/

Lol at the "heart breaks for her" comment.

Your heart really breaks that easily?

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3/14/08

Anok

Well, as one who has endured a bit of the old philandering...I will say this - some relationships are worth working on and trying to save. Not everything can be tossed away like a Styrofoam cup, long forgotten and very much useless.

That said, of course, part of healing does include a serious butt-whuppin 'o' the guilty spouse I can't speak for this woman, she may still be in shock as other's have said, or she may be complacent...or she may be beating the ever living sin out him when no one is looking, getting her payback, as it were.

You just don't know

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3/15/08

Aprilfreelance

A politician's wife has a responsibility to her husband to show support in public. What she does in private and after he has left office is her decision, but while he is still a public leader she should stand with him. An affair is different from him beating her or being otherwise abusive. Many marriages can and do survive infidelity.

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1. 3/15/08
  
  globalgirl
  
  "A politician's wife has a responsibility to her husband to show support in public."
  
  Why?
  
  And, what is his responsibility towards his wife?!
2. 3/15/08
  
  Aprilfreelance
  
  Simple, because she is his wife. He is the head of her household as well as political leader. She made the choice when she married him to stand by him and support him. An affair does not negate her responsibility to her husband.
3. 3/15/08
  
  globalgirl
  
  I so don't agree. Scriptures are quite clear: adultery is grounds for divorce. I would not tolerate it.
  
  The husband made his choice to discard his vows when he agreed to be seduced and/or seduce another. Period.
3/15/08

clioandme

How do you know that she hasn't used that shoe . . . or something? We only know the public images.

Edit: Ditto Clinton.

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