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Is there such a thing as a SOUL MATE?
Posted by monsieursunset • 3/11/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: family, husband, love, Personal, relationships, Romance, sex, wife
Do soul mates exist? Is it just a fantasy or a reality? Have you found yours? How do you know a soul mate when you meet them? What happens when the mate goes from the soul?
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your laptop? -
besides a laptop!
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but you said in my other discussion that you were becoming very close?
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Some people use this definition: the romantic belief that every person soul has a single counterpart and true happiness and fulfillment can only be found by meeting and joining with that one and only one soul mate ... www.is-this-it.com/pages/GlossaryS.htm
Well, to accept that definition one has to believe they are incomplete and need to find that one and only one person to complete them. Nonsense!
Others use this definition: Soul mate is a term sometimes used to designate someone with whom one has a feeling of deep and natural affinity, friendship, love, intimacy, sexuality, spirituality and/or compatibility. ... en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Soul-mate
I don't believe that I or anyone else has one and only one possible soul mate as proposed by the first definition. It's my position that holding onto that “one and only one soul-mate” belief means that we can overlook the other possible partners we could form mutually supportive, and loving long term relationships with.
I believe each of us can have many soul mates who meet the criteria in the second definition I have posted above. I have experienced the fact there are other possible soul mates (refer to the second definition I posted above) that I could have successfully partnered with in this life, aside from the man that I married.
FWIW I blogged about this here:
Love the one you're with
thistimethisspace.com/2009/02/10/love-the-one-youre-with/ -
have you met your soul mate?
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I was listening to one of the morning call-in radio shows where the topic of relationships was being discussed.
It never seems to fail that in a public forum, where identities are masked and people feel a certain safety in expressing themselves, when the subject of what people are looking for in a relationship comes up, ultimately - whether stated directly or indirectly - it always boils down to one thing: unconditional love.
Most of the time, when people are expressing their views on relationship, it begins with a preamble of conditions they feel are necessary, or that are lacking in their current situations. In other words, perhaps without realizing, the love they are offering or want to offer is highly conditional based on many different expectations of what the mate or intended mate will need to do or be to fulfill their needs.
Can we really expect to receive unconditional love when all we have to offer is temporary affection based on a set of conditions and needs that are constantly changing as life evolves? Can this circle ever really be completed?
Most of us have been touched with unconditional love in our families and in some friendships, so it is natural that we yearn for it in the most intimate of our relationships, whatever form they may take. Yet, in this particular context of an intimate relationship, it seems for most unattainable.
The root of this dilemma goes much deeper, where most of us are fearful to look. But, perhaps, it would be helpful if we first recognize that there is a dilemma; that many of us are struggling with this dilemma, and that only the individual - no one else - will be able to resolve it if they truly hope ever to experience unconditional love in a relationship.-
very deep! Core
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Yes, i have one. -
I believe soulmates do exist--but there are likely many for each person. In other words--soulmates exist--but there is more than 1 true soulmate per person.
The trick is to hold out until you meet one of yours!
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very true mtyler77, very true indeed.
ill be keeping hold of mine.
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simple answer...no.-
why no Sahar?
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Soul mates exist in love stories. In real life ,well,it is very difficult to find,honestly and sadly.
What we should do now is, forget about soul mates and be happy with the mates we have.That is the way of living a happy life. -
Nope, predestined soul mates don't exist. But chemistry and compatibility in a relationship are another story entirely, can exist initially and must be maintained over time.-
we didnt say predestined was required as part of a definition of soul mates. do they have to be redestined? Can't they just exist???
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Good grief NO. "Soul mate" is one of those naff, romantic concepts that implies your soul and the beloved's soul knew each other in an earlier life and wanted to be together again. NEVER!!!
Of the 6 billion people on earth, there may be only 100,000 you could marry and expect to be happy with. A task in life is to find one (or more) of those 100,000 people. -
If I did not believe in a soulmate, I would not be writing to him...
letters2soulmate.wordpress.com/
I am interested in hearing your thoughts- a letter to your soulmate. Click on "your soulmate, your letter" on the letters2soulmate blog and share your story. -
I understand the problem with the idea of finding your soulmate to the rational mind. It involves a set of ridiculous coincidences that only happen in bad movies and luck that would set the Irish back 200 years.
Yet as the old saying goes, "if you don't open your mouth, you won't get fed."
As "CoreAssets" says, we're all looking for unconditional love in a world where in reality, it rarely happens and if it does, we're not really prepared to give it back. BUT...if you don't dream it, it will never happen. It would have been hard to build a plane if you didn't think you could fly. Similarly, you can't build a relationship on trust and love if you believe neither will last.
So, do I understand that the vast and overwhelming majority of people will offer temporary affection based on the current set of circumstances that is constantly changing (to paraphrase CoreAssets).....Yes. Does it matter if what I'm trying to get to is real honest love from a soulmate?
Well, the first couple of times people tried to fly, they crashed. One day I'll see the sky from the top.
I have to believe that.-
so for you, unconditional love is a prerequisite for a soul mate?
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i don't believe in soul mates...i believe in working hard at a relationship, otherwise it won't last--regardless of how infatuated you were at the beginning-
no sarcasm in that reply, just sense!
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my comment is a question that came to mind reading these other replies.
do soul mates have to have a mutual awareness of being soul mates?-
well floormodel, thats an interesting question. what do others think? I guess if you know it's your soulmate you must have an awareness of such??
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ok but can a person think they've found their soul mate and yet that "soul mate" doesn't feel the same? need it be mutual?
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Floormodel - a very interesting question. Does it need to be mutual? perhaps its not your true soul mate unless both see it the same way? otherwise is it just a lust or a form of infatuation or perhaps just unrequited love? I for one, believe it ahs to be mutual. What do others think?
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Of course it needs to be mutual! I think you can have a couple of soul mates at a given time; it's just the intensity that varies. And you'll feel that connection, which you've never felt before. -
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i think the bast way to describe soulmates would be, you are inseprable and never get bored of each other how some do after a few hours including clostness affection, no matter what life throws at you if you are close enough you both will work it out in the end no matter how bad it seems. there is a good saying here love does not walk away, people do true love never dies even though you feel like hating the other sometimes the good thing is you both bounce back together and it can make you stronger each time not weaker even though it may feel that way.-
That is very good in deed!
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I don't believe in soul mates, but I do believe in paper mate (those pens are great). -
Marrying mine on 28 May
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Absolutely! -
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Yes, I believe they do exist...the question is how many of us find our soulmates? People like Dana Reeves and Chris Reeves - I believe they were soulmates. -
As with most of life's aspects, i think it's a gamble. to find one, you'd have to rummage the clothesline to get the right tee. For me, a soulmate is made not found.
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