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   6/27/09

   SweetViolet

   My neighbour's teens are out of control but she gets off on being the helpless victim.
   
   What she doesn't seem to realize is that those of us who have to live next door to her brats are being victimized as well.
   
   We're not their parents...what do WE do?

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   1. 

      6/27/09

      Theresa111

      Suggest they get summer jobs. Sounds as if they are bored.
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      6/27/09

      SweetViolet

      School is year-round here with breaks every few months. Kids don't get jobs until they are 18...they can't even get driving licenses until they are 18.
      
      When the weather is warm (it is now winter here) they come home from school on Friday afternoon and start a party that lasts...non stop...until Sunday afternoon. Their mother just ignores them. Their next door neighbour calls the police almost weekly (we are their back fence neighbours). They trespass on our property, trample our plantings, hide in our bushes and drink and smoke dope, then throw broken bottles into our lawn. They have broken into our house. Nobody who has the ability/authority to control them will do so.
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      6/27/09

      Theresa111

      Sounds like they need an ass whipping.
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      6/27/09

      SweetViolet

      Yah...starting with that useless sack of skin that calls herself their mother.
2. 

   6/28/09

   cltalbert

   Teens are having a hard time finding summer jobs now. Jobs that teenagers usually have over the summer are now taken by adults my age who have been laid off and need something that will help them feed their families. It's sad.

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   6/28/09

   Stillthinking

   For every out of control teen, there is probably a history of poor parenting and abuse. If your teen is out of control, the parents are at fault. Everyone needs to go into therapy together and learn to function as a family. Parents and teens need an attitude adjustment.

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      6/28/09

      cltalbert

      It is not always the parents' fault. Sometimes teenagers are suffering from a mental illness such as depression, or they may be bipolar or they are just hanging around with the wrong group of kids. Peer pressure can cause teenagers to misbehave and rebel against their parents. Not every out of control teenager has been abused.
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      6/28/09

      SweetViolet

      The ones that are driving my neighbourhood crazy might benefit from some abuse...
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      6/28/09

      MadameX

      That kind of thinking is similar to the "why wasn't someone watching him?" reaction that always seems to be the first thing out of our mouths when a young child is killed in some sort of horrible accident--if we can quickly blame the parents, we can reassure ourselves that this kind of thing could never happen to us. It might be comforting, but it's nonsense. Bad parenting can lead to out-of-control teens, just like careless parenting can lead to toddlers having accidents--but they're hardly the only possible causes.
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      6/28/09

      Stillthinking

      I said both parents and teens need an attitude adjustment and should attend therapy. What's wrong with that? Therapy helps! Communication helps!
      
      In my experience (I am 32 and had an overbearing, abusive parent) teens who act out are doing so because they have dysfunctional relationships with their family. If its because they're involved with the wrong peers, what compelled them to choose those peers? If they're suffering from mental illness (I had severe depression and bulimia), attending therapy with the parents is one part of the treatment. I didn't get see a therapist for treatment until my late twenties and wish I had gone years and years earlier.
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   6/28/09

   crpitt

   Is the link you posted just a post that links to another article?

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