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Marriage is the number one cause of divorce.
Posted by mephibosheth • 5/18/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: advice, couples, Dating, divorce, marriage, sex
So should I get married!
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Get married, but take precautions. Try being realistic. Not many intend nor expect divorce when getting married, so you are wise to consider that in spite of your perceptions now, something unexpected can happen down the line.
Marriage brings rewards and growth not available any other way.
Do you have common goals, besides getting married?
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I have to say that, that was so well put. -
I'd recommend it - I've done it three times.
Ben-
Yeah I'm also out for number three...go for it. If you are clever you could even make money out of it if it fails (you could easily learn from my mistakes, even if I don't)
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Life is a sexually transmitted disease.-
life is cause #1 for death!
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What does your heart say? -
Do you have a prospect, or it this more of a general question? I'd definitely recommend a committed, long-term relationship as a major life enhancer. Whether or not you get married is up to you. It does make the relatives stop asking when the wedding will be, so it's got that going for it. -
Do you want to prove the statistic wrong? -
Whats the number 1 cause of marriage-
Proposing? -
Weddings? -
The idea that if you divorce the sod later you can have half his assets and a monthly allowance -
So divorce really is the number 1 cause of marriage?
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Its a vicious circle, one leads to the other and vice versa
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Reminds me of a quote from Jo Brand "the first few weeks of marriage are great, after that it's just like having a twat living in your house"
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@crkian
Whats the number 1 cause of marriage?
Setting aside pregnancy, IMO the number 1 cause of marriage is lust combined with a sustained desire to have an exclusive intimate relationship with another person. -
women!
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Social expectation? Pregnancy? Relgion? Money?
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religion even
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Well, life is the #1 cause of death. Should we live? -
I am not going there again
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IMO poor selection when it comes to choice of a marriage partner is the primary cause of divorce.
If you have any qualms at all -- don't do it! -
My favorite Shakespeare quote comes to mind : "To be or not to be? That is the question." -
NONE AT ALL!!!! I agree timethief we should be totally submissive
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@mephibosheth
Good grief! I you have characterized either me or my comments here as being "submissive" then you are totally off-base.
IMO poor selection when it comes to choice of a marriage partner is the primary cause of divorce.
While we are at it, IMO the secondary cause of divorce is related to the primary one. It's presuming the other partner will change if asked or, assuming that you can change them.
Your question is: "Should i get married?"
I can't answer it. Only you can.
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chill I was kidding
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Okay So do you have a beau?
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A beau thats the name of my dog golden retriever
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Yes, get married!!
She would be very lucky, especially if you do all the cooking. -
Driving, or being in a moving car is the number one cause of car road carnage. Will you get into your car today? -
ARe you single offended?
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So you don't get married, and you don't get divorced, and you miss out on the joy of a life long friend and soul mate.
Get married, and stick with it for better or worse.
Robert
mulledvine.blogspot.com-
can live together without getting married and life long friend, no need for marriage.
Though females are ceremonial creatures and love the big hoe down, dress, cake, friend, gifts... arrggggg
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If, you are asking a group of people if you should get married right now... I'd say no..
but maybe your just tossing this question out in general.(not asking if you should get married really.)
If, your already thinking of
marriage = divorce
then my guess would be your not ready to be married.
I just feel it's not the right mind set to start with.
To me, it's like saying should I knock myself off today because one day I am going to die. Heck, NO! You may not die for a long time (you may never get divorce either, but I wouldn't jump into getting married already thinking of divorce.)
That's just my thoughts on it.. I am no expert but I am happily married.
Dora Renee' Wilkerson -
The statement "Marriage is the number one cause of divorce" reminds me of another humorous statistic: "50 percent of marriages today end in divorce. What's worse, 100 percent of divorces begin in marriage."
Is this really supposed to be a serious discussion? -
Yes, of course.
And 50% of marriages are happy.
So well,consider to marry after having lived a few years together... -
If you're living together for a few years, you might as well formalize/sanctify it by getting married. I don't believe that living together necessarily prepares a couple for marriage. Being married adds a seriousness and symbolism that doesn't happen when a couple is simply living together.
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Well, it sure prepares them to... living together...
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get married.. try it.
who knows.. whats going to happen.. i dont even know whats going to happen30 minutes from now.. cant play it safe my friend. take a risk.. plus really how risky is it.. your gonna marry someone you love ansd trust -
No 1 cause of divorce is not marriage...it is the wrong decision to be married tha leads to divorce: for money, sex, kids per se or running away from a bad experience. Since life is a journey, the truth will eventually be exposed and that can lead to divorce.
Be ready for marriage, be prepared for separation at death or unforseen circumstances, be assured that divorce is not for you if you are already asking this question.
I was nervous when I got married but later I learnt delivering a baby is more nerve-wrecking. I am on my own, no one can help carry the baby but me! No one can deliver the baby except me!
But in marriage, whether you choose to have kids or not, you still have each other. -
i do not know. we dont allow divorce in our country. but is it possible to be divorced without getting married first? it confuses me... -
Amen Jewish Angle!!
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Hahaha! Amen to that. -
Selfishness is the cause of divorce... -
Examine your reasons for getting married. It is advised, "That one should not enter into it lightly." Think about it. Attend a pre-marriage course with whomever would fit that bill and be ready to commit. Do not try to change a person but be willing to change by your commitment to working at this relationship. It takes work and perseverance, especially in today's world. Be certain you and your mate are willing to respect your marriage vows. I mean ... what good is it to get married in front of church, friends and family, speak vows and then give up and quit when the going gets tough. I can assure you that the going will get tough at times. Cheers! -
@Theresa111
Well said. I agree with your advice on pre-marriage counseling. Poor initial selection, unrealistic expectations and lack of cooperation result in divorce. I do believe that it takes time to form and assess whether or not the basic ingredients for a long term or lifetime commitment exist within in a relationship, and that’s what co-habitation is for. If it does exist then I believe it’s advisable to attend pre-marital counseling and to formalize that relationship by creating a prenuptial contract, prior to tying the knot. FWIW I blogged about Good Ingredients for Lasting Relationships here thistimethisspace.com/2008/09/18/lifelong-commitment-contracts/ -
Marriage is an expensive break-up.. -
You should. You should marry a person who would never break the relationship.You should divorce the thought of divorce. -
fielsvd
"i do not know. we dont allow divorce in our country. but is it possible to be divorced without getting married first? it confuses me..."
Without a doubt!
beingandquirckiness.blogspot.com/2009/01/divorce.html -
That is like saying life is the number one reason for death. -
Marriage is a beautiful thing if you both go into it looking to give to the other person (understanding that's what love really is). But if either one is looking to the other person to make them happy be ready for a world of dissapointment, strife and mind games.
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I divorced my wife twenty-five years ago. I met her when we were in the seventh grade. She followed me home from school one day and well... we decided to keep her...lol
Anyways about three years ago I started dating her again, we have been living together now for 2 1/2 years. I think we may have grown up a bit. -
If you're ready to face the sequences, go get married.
Ask about love, sex and relationships
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Marriage is the number on cause of divorce...
Yup I fully agree -
rash decisions are the #1 cause of divorce. The decision to cheat, blow money on something stupid, raise a hand, raise a voice, etc. -
marrying for the wrong reasons is the number one cause of divorce -
Theorizing is all very well but I love to be invited to weddings and looks like I'm never going to get any invitations (and that's not due to my mean personality but because nobody bothers to marry!) -
LOL. I think the title is a bit awkward. How can someone be divorced without being married. -
love each other & dont betrayed your spouse -
This is like saying living is the leading cause of murder -
Live with the person first for at least 6 months before you say i do.
Dating and living together are two separate worlds LOL -
who says that -
Marriage is NOT the number one cause of divorce... its selfishness.
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Beyondpinkblog.com opinion about causes of divorce.
1. Got married for wrong reasons. This includes...for money, because you waited to long in the first place, for looks only, for convenience, or thinking you can help or fix the other person... I could go on.
2. Selfishness. People get so caught up in the material, consumerism world that they forget what truly matters in life.
3. Placing too much emphasis on work. Kind of ties to number 2. Money makes the world go round yes, but if marriage is important to one's life...money is just a means to get by comfortably enough to live life for the right reasons.
4. Mom, Dad, or Both get too wrapped up in the kids. I see many parents who throw every second of their life into their kids. It creates a lot of pressure on everyone and the marriage is strained. I love my kids and I give them a lot of me. But I also secure time for my marriage.
5. Parents creating out of control kids. Another stress point on marriage.
6. Greed not just with money but in flesh.
7. Being boring with each other and too lazy to work on things....
Oh I could go on and now I think I have myself another post. Coming up on my 13th wedding anniversary this week. We are completely happy and crazy in love with 2 kids.
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