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Marriage, wise decison or mistake for life?
Posted by friend4all • 10/19/07 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: care, human life, life, love, marriage, relationship, social culture, Social Life
Hello Friends,
I like to know what you all think about Marriage.
Do you think Marriage is wise decision or Marriage is mistake for life.
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Marrying my wife 2 years ago was the best thing I ever did....yes we dont always agree but we could never be without each other....I am not saying marriage is for everyone but for me it certainly was the right decision -
it depends on who you pick as a partner, but i would say wise.-
Ditto. I wouldn't want to end up lonely for life either though.
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I agree with what NaturalWoman said. You have to be very careful with your choice of partners. -
marrying because you love your husband/wife and want to live a happy life together is a good basis for marrying. It takes two strong individuals to make the marriage last and work! And having kids is not the FIX ALL... it will make a tense marriage even tenser.. again it goes back to strength in individuals to make a change for the better and preserve your marriage.
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think of it as planting a garden....if you arent prepared to tend it every day then maybe it isnt for you-
that's a great analogy. I like that.
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I have a great partnership, just not the kind that is validated by government paper Marriage just isn't important to us as nether of us are religious. -
Technically, (at least in Canada) .. it doesn't matter if you get legally married or not .. if you live 12 continuous months together, you are considered common law and get all the legal rights as if married or not.
www.cra-arc.gc.ca/tax/individuals/topics/income-tax/return/completing/perso...
And, you should note - this includes the time you may have been separated or one of those couples who have an "on and off again" relationship.
The term "12 continuous months" in this definition includes any period that you were separated for less than 90 days because of a breakdown in the relationship.
(So, if you break up - make it more than 3 months split and prove it!)-
IN the US it varies from state to state. Some states do not recognize common law marriages.
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The vast majority of states do not recognize common law marriage in the U.S.--there are about ten that recognize it currently and a handful of others that recognized common law marriages formed before a cut-off date (most of these fall in the 1990s).
Even where common law marriage is recognized, though, the requireemtns to form one are much more complex than those PetLvr set forth in Canada, and even more so than most people in the U.S. expect. Long-term cohabitation is generally NOT sufficient.
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Listen to Sam Kinison: MISTAKE FOR LIFE!! -
Wasn't Sam a newlywed when he died? -
very wise if you're into self development..best workshop ever..but expensive -
I married my computer. Its been giving me blue screens ever since.-
get a mac or a girlfriend
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Marriage: Wise if thought out first and worked on continuously. A mistake if done in haste and neglected often.
Marriage isn't for everybody and that's okay... -
It all depends on who you marry. If it is someone trustworthy and who loves you unconditionally, then it is a wise decision, but is one of those two attributes apply, it is a mistake for life or at least until you get a divorce, whichever one comes first.
"Suburbqueen" said it best in her reply to this discussion. -
Skip the typos.
I meant "...but if none of those two attributes apply..." in my previous comment. -
It works for me. -
Going great here
Will be married 35 years next year
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Wouldn't that depend entirely on the marriage?
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Then the question isn't if Marriage is good or not, but if your own choice of partner to marry is right or not, isn't it?!
I love being married. I also loved it when I was single. I think it's right if it's at the right stage of your life, and to the right person.-
Partly your choice of partner, but also, I think, your expectations and the investment you're prepared to make.
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Both if you don't know who you are. Both if you are not willing to put in the owrk necessary to make a marriage work. Both if you tink someone is going to rescue you from a boring awful life. Marriage ain't for the faint of heart and it ain't a game. Tread carefully
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Not sure yet... I'll know more next year -
it depends on who you marry. with my first husband, it was a big mistake. then, i found my forever husband...wise! it's not always easy or fun but, i wouldn't change a thing. -
Wise decision in my opinion!!! -
I think my first marriage was a mistake for life... but of course I think my current marriage is a wise decision
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interesting article on Psychology Today about Marriage and how it doesn't neccessarily makes you happier.
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it depends on who you marry. but as a general rule, why has the human race been doing it for 1000's and 1000's or years if it is a mistake? duh. -
If you met the right person, why not. I believe in meeting "the one". But I've not met anyone who resembles "the one" yet.
Just be damn sure of what you are going into and not rushing into it. Be very clear on what each partner is bringing into the union, especially the financial matters. -
It depends if you are prepared to work at it, recognise that people change at different rates and develop different interests as time goes by...
Make it work!
Hug more! www.gosmelltheflowers.com/blog -
it's wise if when your wife hits her 40's or so and starts to grow out of the box, you grow with her
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I believe this depends on the reason why you decided to get married and how well you handle your married life. Marriage can be bliss if you and your partner respect each other well and you constant communication with your spouse.
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Depends who you're marrying! So far, mine has been as everyone's; really sucky some days and really fabulous others. -
good/right decision for me. it made us stick to each other more. sweeter as the years go by... -
There are some VERY stupid marriages made every day... (About 50% says the statistics
) but if you are not marrying for THE SAKE of marrying, it can be a very good thing. People should be very very careful when choosing the partner though, and be prepared to never to marry rather than marry the wrong person.-
If more people thought that way, there would be FAR fewer divorces!
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It would be a mistake for me personally because I am selfish..."Who told you that you could have a key to MY house?"...jk
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Kind of a ridiculous question--for some people it's a mistake, for others it's a wise decision...though, as Sebastyne points out, a lot of people get married for stupid reasons, such as because they have really good sex. Then, I suspect that a lot of people who stay abstinent get married just so they can start having sex. Either way, it should be based on more than what happens in the bedroom. -
It's been the best five years of my life. Or is it six? -
i'm still single but i do believe that building happy marriages isn’t done overnight, nor is it easy. however, with the right approach towards marriage, it can be a happy and successful relationship. so i wld say, marriage is a wise decision if the couple truly love & care for each other and that they know and apply keys to a healthy and happy marriage like what are stated here www.contentconnection.com/The-Keys-To-A-Healthy-And-Happy-Marriage/a547_1 -
both............. It is amazing and awful all at the same time, however don't pass up the opportunity if you find the right person or your life could be worse.!!! -
I think too many people live in matrimonial hell for years and years when they should amicably divorce. I'm a very happy, easy to get along with person, but I have my limits. If I were married, and my marriage started feeling like a noose around my neck with no hope of improvement, I would get a divorce. Being married to the wrong person shouldn't be a LIFELONG mistake. -
I love a good necropost.
I'll just add my words of wisdom: It depends -
I would rather that we stay together but just without the label of husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend. I'd say partner but I think the government already gave that label to the gays and lesbians.
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what if she doesn't feel that way?
What if she would rather have the label? The promise? What if her feelings of security and comfort are vested in a promise of fidelity from you? -
Great point and yet another Dilemma!
What valid reason can I have? I've had many when the topic comes up as has every other guy but it all ends up the same.
It's costly - We can do it in a court, It can be small or don't worry my parents would be paying.
Divorce is messy - WHY WOULD WE GET DIVORCED?
I never said we will, It's just that if it does... - Whatever.
Well I just don't agree that marriage is no guarantee to happiness and you never know what could happen - So you're saying you would get to a point that you arn't happy.
I never said that - Then you don't trust me then.
AH END OF STORY. It's a never ending deathtrap where either one gives in or leaves. Seems like my only luck to this would be meeting someone who is like-minded which I can tell you never ends up the way it begins. People change and so do their minds.
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My husband and I have been together, common-law, for almost 16 years and are getting married in 2011, I think it's a good decision for us.-
Cool! Why 2011? Is there a special significance to that year?
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In my opinion, it all depends on how well you know the person you are marrying. My personal expierence with marriage wasn't too good, because it ended in divorce. The times we were together were good, but the military kills it. That's another thing, where you are in life affects it as well. -
I've been married, I've been divorced, I've been widowed.
Married is best, divorced is worst. Like Sebastyne, above, I think too many people get married for entirely the wrong reasons...and that's why they end up divorced. The institution is not the problem, it's the people who are in it. -
ITS ONLY AN UNDERSTANDING, WHO UNDERSTANDS BETTER LIVES SUCCESSFULLLY -
Marriage is stupid!
I would never do it again!
The woman has three words on her mind as she's walking down the isle...
I'll (Ilse)
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Well, it's a good thing that you aren't planning to do it again, if you feel that way.
I'm glad I did.
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It's hard to answer that question because it depends from several factors...
love, money, honesty, time, family....ufff!!! But, there is beautiful things also...someone can help me to list them? -
For me, it was one of the most destructive mistakes I ever made in my life. -
Best decision you'll ever make as long as it's the right person. -
That would depend on who you're going to marry, don't you think? No one can say if it's a good decision or a bad one. I guess it all depends on you and who you're going to marry. For me it's the best thing that's ever happened in my life. It's also a second chance for me, my first husband died at 27 and I never thought I'd find another person to love and share my life with. So yes I think marriage is a good thing in the right circumstance. -
In today's culture marriage is like the roll of the dice, but, it is still by far the best way to raise kids. -
In my few years in life, one of the best decisions i ve made so far was to get married to my sweetheart. Marriage has it's own challenges, but it's been blissful most times. The tought that you're there for each other, to catch each other when one trips is truly comforting. Marriage is the wise decision, not just co habiting without commitment.
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