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My adoptive son is missing.

Posted by 1brncowco • 4/14/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: desperate, emotional, lost, missing, parenting, runaway, son, wreck

My adoptive son has been missing since 8:35 am ct. All the right people know he is missing, but nobody can seem to find him. I live in a small city in center Missouri. Eddie has only recently came into my family's life. His mom had skipped town to live with a guy she had met a week prior. Leaving 6 or her 8 kids homeless. My family took in Eddie Sept. 26th, 2008. I call him my adoptive son, but he really isn't. He's just some homeless kid I found on the street, who was hungry and needed a home. Eddie is a beautiful child. He is sickening gifted at basketball. He weighs 206 pds and is 6'2. He looks a lot like Shaq. Everyone always teases him about being Shaq's little brother. He loves it you know.

But yesterday after school, a teacher tried to slightly nudge Eddie back into the bus line, but instead of going back into line, he hit her and pushes her down. The teacher, Mrs. H is only 5'0 and is the size of a toothpick. She didn't come to school today. She was too afraid. He also told her to shut her mouth and to F off. Two weeks ago, my Eddie found out his momma isn't coming back for him. That was ok with me, I have grown to really love him. But I never told him, I was glad she wasn't coming back. I told him, I was here for him now. My Eddie went to having all F's in his classes to B's. He is really a good boy, with the BIGGEST heart. I'm worried for him. I'm afraid.

When Eddie went to school, needless to say they kicked him out of school and arrested him. Eddie wouldn't get into my car, he bolted and ran. I haven't seen him since. I've looked everywhere.

My stomach is flip flopping. I am beginning to have a steady flow of tears now and my husband is too angry at Eddie to care. But he is just a boy, you know. He is just a kid in trouble. I'm just sick to my stomach. I simply don't know what to do. Thank you for allowing me to vent. I'm beside myself with worry. I never ran away from home. I have no idea what to think or where to go from here. Oh, I'm just sick about this. I'm physically sick over this. The world is a scary place for a lost boy to be messing with. I'm really afraid.

Any advice?

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4/14/09

Stillthinking

I'm so sorry your son is missing. I don't have any advice to give you, just sympathy.

Have you tried checking his social networking accounts? Is he on Myspace or Facebook?

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1. 4/14/09
  
  1brncowco
  
  Yeah, no. The ironic thing is I wouldn't let him have an account. I grew up in the 1980's when missing children were as common as peas and carrots. So I wouldn't let either of my boys have an account. I've been asked that question several times now. I wish I would've now, you know. Then I could do something instead of waiting. I'm so sick about this. Thank you for your comment. I'm so sick about this. It really hurts you know. Its scary.
2. 4/14/09
  
  Stillthinking
  
  I hate to say this, but not allowing him to have Facebook or Myspace doesn't mean he doesn't ACTUALLY have those accounts.
  
  I would just do a search online just in case.
4/14/09

melindaville

I'm so sorry for your suffering. I wish you all the best.

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4/14/09

Friday13

Wherever he is, he's hopefully thinking things through.

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4/14/09

1brncowco

Friday, that's what my husband keeps saying. But he didn't have a jacket, and its been in the lower 40's all day. He hasn't ate anything. He only had a dollar in his pocket.

Thanks everyone. When I do find him, oh he's in big trouble! After I let go from hugging him. He is such a good boy. He's had a rough childhood.

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4/14/09

dannyvice

How about creating a quick blog and posting a few pictures along with his name, age, weight, eye color...etc etc...

Then you can drop the blog link here and people can keep a lookout.

A photo is 100 times more effective than even the best written description.

Unfortunately I don't believe the circumstances will allow for an Amber Alert. Police probably suspect he's fleeing - and it's my understanding from your description of the assault that they might be right.

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4/14/09

Arcticulates

I hope he gives you a call to let you know he's okay.. I also hope that he somehow finds it in his heart to apologize to the person he cursed and knocked down. That isn't nice behavior at all. He may need some serious counseling so he won't grow into an abusive adult. I hope he is okay.. and will let you know. (suggestion) You are too close to the situation... let your husband handle it.. Sometimes it takes a mature man to handle a young man's issues..

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4/14/09

jflower36

Call local teen runaway shelters. Stay in touch with local police regarding any information they are able to get. Offer a reward for information on his whereabouts (it doesn't have to be a lot of money). Talk with his friends and find out if they can give you any information. Even if they already previously told you they don't know, find out if they know anyone else who can help you. Check with his biological mother (you may not believe he would be with her but I've seen this pattern over and over again as a social worker). I wouldn't suggest calling his mom ...I would suggest showing up on her doorstep (or involve a social worker or police in doing this). If you call she will probably not tell you if he is with her. Find out if he has other relatives that may have taken him in.

If he was homeless before, check out the same places he used to hang out in, if you have that information. Most likely he will call you at some point. If he isn't willing at that point to say where he is, try to get him to commit to calling you again on a specific time/day. I'm sorry you are going through this. I know it's very hard.

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4/14/09

kat822

Why isn't this at the top of the board, I am sorry about this and that you are torn apart with worry, please update us and let us know what is going on please, you are in my thoughts

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4/14/09

1brncowco

Hello everyone!!! Great news!!!!! They found my son sitting by a lake in some subdivision!! He's okay!! My god he is okay! Thank you, all of you for your kindness and support! I didn't know where to turn there for awhile. I went back out looking, but it was one of my neighbors who found him about 6 miles down the road, sitting by a lake. Thank you, thank you thank you. I don't know how to shut down this thread, but my boy has been found. Gosh, I just can't tell ya how happy that makes me feel. Gosh, thank you. thank you. thank you. I've gotta run. but thank you.

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  Friday13
  
  Yay!
2. 4/14/09
  
  Shiley
  
  Yay! I was panicing for you.
4/14/09

chicky401

phew I am glad to hear he is safe and home

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4/14/09

Arcticulates

Awesome!

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4/14/09

busylizzy

Glad he's back. Glad you had someone to talk to through all this.

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4/14/09

jflower36

I'm really happy for you! I've dealt with a lot of teens that runaway. The social worker in me has to tell you to talk with him about what to do next time. Hopefully there won't be a next time, but there is a good chance there will be. Kids who have been through a lot don't often know how to handle their feelings and it is easier to run away than to stay and deal with those feelings. He needs counseling....and a safety plan to fall back on.

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4/14/09

kat822

So glad to hear that

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4/15/09

1brncowco

I can't thank you all enough for being there for me. Wow! I'm so glad he is back home and safe. When a child goes missing, it is an indescribable feeling. I was so exhaust by it all, I didn't get up until noon. It's terrible to have a child missing or lost. But thank you all for helping me through it. Julie

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