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   8/05/09

   lotusb

   We don't know if their marriage is perfect or fairytale. All we know is what we see. People used to admire my parent's marriage and life as well. Beautiful couple, big house, happiness, success. But it was far from that. The only example you should follow is the one you decide for yourself.

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      8/05/09

      AchEmpire

      lotusb - Thanks for your advice, but I'm still using Michelle & Barack as a good example for the rock foundation of how a marriage grows from the roots. They both strived to make the other equal. Many marriages don't stand by that tune, they leave when stuff gets difficult. Michelle stuck with Barack & like she said on dateline, he's abilities to want to succeed even from all the stuff he went through, attracted her even more to him.
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      8/05/09

      lotusb

      I just mean, you don't personally know them, so you don't really know whats up. I mean would Michelle go on Dateline and say, "My husband? Yea he's alright...I mean things are ok between us. He puts me down a lot and cheats with other women, but hey...he's the friggin President!" Of course not...anyone in the public eye is going to put thier best first...and although I really hope what you see is what you get...you just never know.
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   8/05/09

   MadameX

   Do you think they have pre-nups and post-nups? This is a serious question--I'm not challenging you, but questioning that the teamwork and sacrifice you seem to admire here grows out of the self-protective "what's mine is mine" philosophy that you espoused in the other thread. I'm not sure that you can have it both ways.

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      8/05/09

      AchEmpire

      MadameX- I noted what I look up to as a marriage, & that's Michelle & Barack Obama. Well for me anyways
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      8/05/09

      MadameX

      So do you see Michelle and Barack Obama as people who applied the financial test to one another and then brought in attorneys to protect them from one another before forming a limited partnership?
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      8/05/09

      AchEmpire

      MadameX - What they did & continue to do with their financial affairs & attributions is none of my business. I'm intrigued how they grew together as a team/couple before they got married & made sacrifices for each other.
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   8/05/09

   crpitt

   My Definition:
   
   A couple meet, the girl gets pregnant and gives birth to a girl before they get married! They proceed to get married and have two more girls. Then the wife has a brain tumour and spends the next 25 years in and out of hospital for long periods of time. They are still happy, still love each other.
   
   Husband went straight to local chemical plant from school at 16, went to night school for further qualifications and has progressed well.
   
   Wife was training to be a nurse but illness and the kids prevented her from finishing that training.
   
   They will be married for 30 years next year, have three great (ish) kids and two beautiful grandchildren.
   
   Nothing perfect there.

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      8/05/09

      lotusb

      Mine would be:
      
      Two people meet with the soul purpose of having two amazing little girls. Their love is haunting and eventually drives them apart. They both marry other people and have amazingly fulfilling lives. Their daughters grow up to be beautiful courageous creative women who love their parents very much.
      
      Nothing perfect there either.
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      8/05/09

      AchEmpire

      crpitt - Nice definition & I continue to wish them the best.
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      8/05/09

      AchEmpire

      lotusb - Your definition is nice also, best of luck.