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My Definition of A Perfect Man
Posted by AchEmpire • 8/02/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
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1. Has very striking good looks
2. Has passion/romance/affection
3. Has his own credit, money & assets
4. Will do anything to make his woman happy
5. Being brainy is ++
6. Net worth @ least $500,000 preferably in liquid cash accounts
7. Has curly or shoulder length hair
8. Has muscles
9. Height 5'8+
User Comments
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Wow what an awful list!
Buy several cats.-
crpitt- Then create you own list
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if you ask TT and juenelle somewhere a long time ago we made a massive list -
Why would I want to create a list? Will the magic fairies in never never land make it come true?
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@crpitt
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My list wasn't as long as the other individual who I won't bother to name.
Her list was extensive to the point of you need perfection.
My list was simple....nice ass, big _ick and a paper bag over his head.
That was more than enough for me
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Here's the link so you can see that long exhaustive list for yourself
www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/what-kind-of-manwoman-do-you-like
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BAHAHAHAHA!!!
well you thought i wasn't your match???
i score a 6/9 if you really think i'm not the least bit good looking-
siralmo- You're cute, feel better?
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lol! point 3 and 6... You would only consider a guy if he was rich? So much for "true love"... -
Rainhat- No need to address 3 & 6 if you don't qualify
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Qualify? What is this, a shopping list? Are you actually here golddigging or something...?
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hahaha!
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Holy crap. The fact that money constitutes two factors on your list and looks covers another four doesn't speak well for your interest in having a meaningful and equal relationship.-
legbamel- Money is a factor with any relationship. So what you're saying is if you were a doctor you would marry a maid? I think not, there is no relations their
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So you actually presume to tell people what they would go for in terms of relationships?
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I don't see why not. I don't think money should be a determining factor for any relationship, professional or personal. A garbage man can be a fantastic match for a neurosurgeon and vice versa. Being too snobby to talk to the "lower classes" simply limits your options and friendships. That's your loss.
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My thoughts exactly.
If Mr perfect walked up swept you off your feet, but then was suddenly broke - would you leave him? If so, that's not love! -
legbamel- Honestly can you prove this? Most relationships fail because of the finances not measuring equally together. If you can find me a doctor who is married to a maid then you've proven me wrong.
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Wrong, most relationships that fail due to finances do so because the two people have different attitudes about money, not different social standings.
IE: A spender and a saver will no doubt have disagreements - two people with two different long term financial goals will wind up in trouble if they can't compromise etc.
The AMOUNT of money, and their respective jobs have no bearing on the relationship's success, unless the two people are shallow enough to consider being a maid a problem. -
Anok- So you're telling me if you went out on a date you would expect to attract women doctors? Haven't you heard "Birds of a feather flock together"? I doubt these women are dating men lower than their levels
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I am a happily married woman - from a different social and economic background as my husband. I was expected to marry a doctor or lawyer - I married a heavily tattooed hooligan, instead - who happened to be my best friend of over 10 years, and now my husband for over 5 years.
In other words - I don't give a rats ass what they make or do (so long as it's ethical) - I married a person, not their job and bank account.
And I'm much happier for it! -
The hooligan is pretty hot too.
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Yeah he is. Rawr! (I'm telling him you said that )
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Cool
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I, too, have a completely different social background from hubby, and we've been together for 12 years and married for 3. He's the least shallow, most caring, generous, and romantic scary-looking long-haired biker guy in the world. He works hard, it doesn't bother either of us that I make more money than he does, and we never argue about it because we have very similar views on finances.
There are two real-world examples in opposition to your argument. I have a co-worker who used to be blue collar until his body couldn't take the work any more. He's moved to a desk job where he essentially consults on the work he used to do. His wife of fifteen years is a fund manager for an investment outfit. I'll bet our fellow BC members can find any number of examples proving that you are mistaken.
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Good luck with that list! I just want a guy that loves me and that is hard enough to find. -
Is this the Tyra Banks post? Ohh sorry. Wrong thread ;-)-
[snicker]
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I wonder what the man in the list would want?
1. Good looks, supermodel level.
2. Age 25 or younger.
3. Great in bed, not a ho and still tight in the right places.
4. Ability to breed, if he has not bred already.
5. Signing of a prenuptial agreement.
and so on
Do you qualify?-
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yeah them prenups are a bitch, aint they? -
crpitt- Are you trying to reveal yourself in your own list?
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Yes I am a super model and tight in all the right places! spot on.
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I can vouch for that
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Lmao
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Go on... Please?
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That list is truly awful.
I can tell you that the man who satisfies all your criteria is also most likely a total Alpha male A-hole who treats women like garbage.
I know men who make a third of what you require and they're already arrogant jack asses who will only date the most vapid, model types.
What I find more disturbing is that it reveals a seriously narcissistic and materialistic streak in you. I have known brilliant, kind and handsome men who make less than 50K a year, but are adored by everyone they come into contact with.
Humility is a virtue. Being able to love someone who is humble, self-less and kind will be much better for you in the long run. Finally, the ability of laugh at yourself is more valuable than anything that money can buy.-
I think it's extra funny that anyone would want such a wealthy partner as one of the criteria, when those who have said wealth will have a prenup agreement, and so she will never have any access to all that money, anyway
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Well, I think part of her requirements come from being someone with a lot of trust issues. From her blog, she is clearly a successful professional and she wants to be with someone who is not out to take advantage of her own wealth and success.
Unfortunately, I have very little respect for people who make money their only goals in life. What is more interesting? Meeting someone who only talks about their investment portfolio, or meeting someone with passion for life and a strong interest in other people?
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Shouldn't we be grateful? I mean, she's never going to find this guy, and even if she did, he probably wouldn't want her...so she's removing herself from the gene pool! As a species our collective IQ just jumped up!
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Epicharis- You don't know what I will find or what I have dated already.
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HAhaha! Excellent point...
zing!
@Ache, I think you just answered my question... -
Oh, so you're a doctor with a net worth of over $500k, too?
Somehow I don't believe that to be true... -
59 eh?
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Ooh! Backpaddle! She changed her post!
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It is too late for back-paddling heh.
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Rainhat -I didn't back peddle. I changed it because it would of stirred up more stuff. Yes I'm dating a doctor who is 59 and works @ MD Anderson Cancer Center in Texas. I met him in jury duty 2/5/09. I've been dating him since 2/5/09. I will be meeting him 8/13/09. He got attracted by my brains/looks/intellectual exchange. I never said I had a net worth of $500,000 in liquid.
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Oh, so if your dream man (that you haven't met yet, but have been dating since February?) doesn't have a net worth of $500k (one of your requirements) you will dump him, right?
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So you're saying that he has more money than you? Well, I guess then your relationship is going to fail, since your finances aren't measuring equally together. Sorry.
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Exactly rainhat.
Why should she get away with not marrying below her, but he can marry below him? Hmmm... -
Anok- What's your point with:
Oh, so if your dream man (that you haven't met yet, but have been dating since February?) doesn't have a net worth of $500k (one of your requirements) you will dump him, right?
As long as he has equal levels with me & fits the other catgories then I'm ok -
I think that's ok, because in Disney it's usually the girl who is dirt poor and she marries the prince...oh wait...except in Aladdin...but that's ok, because he becomes a Prince in the end before they get married, Yeah, that's ho it works...poor girls marry rich men, rich girls can marry poor men when they become rich.
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I'm curious. Does this doctor have a lot of muscles and curly or shoulder length hair?
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The $500k level is one of your requirements. You stated You MUST have that in order for you to be compatible - so logic says that if he does not have that much money, then no matter how awesome and right for you he is, it's not gonna work, and you should dump him.
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I think I found a picture of her boyfriend...
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Hey! Thats my boyfriend!
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AchE, you do know that Cinderella is a fairy tale, right?
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According to her theories, Cinderella doesn't qualify to marry the prince, because she's too far down on the socio-economic scale of things for him.
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Rigth, so she is more like Jazmin then? jajajajaja
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I think I also take issue with this because there are so many men out there in professions who are brilliant, engaging, and handsome, but may have callings rather than big money making professions.
What about men who are artists, teachers, community organizers,musicians activists? Some of the most amazing and most educated men I have ever met are architects. I am an architect and I can tell you that it is extremely rare for an architect to make more than 6 figures a year.
I would much rather be with someone who makes very little money because he has a calling than someone who makes a lot of money, but has no soul.-
But Still, all those brilliant, handsome, caring, yet poor men who make differences in their communities and the lives of others are crap! Pure crap, and below us!
Thou shalt not date poor people! -
Right on Anok!
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dbowles1017- ?
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Stillthinking, melindaville, Anok
You all keep pointing out the $500,000 in liquid. I never revealed how much income he has to make. There is a catch to why I didn't. Yes he can be a teacher or a doctor & have $500,000 in a liquid account & only make $15,000/yr or $500,000/yr as long as he fits 1-9 -
I don't understand having such a mercenary attitude towards men.
My qualifications for the perfect man:
Compassionate
Ethical
Idealistic
Humorous
Passionate
Adventuresome
Cultured
Curious
Loving
Romantic
Considerate
I take issue with you requiring a financial statement at all.
If you knew anything about how finances work for the majority of people in this country, you would know that no one making 15,000 a year is never going to have 500,000 liquid.
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You have very little experience in the real world, don't you? Someone making below poverty level wages will not have $500k in savings for very long, if they were able to accumulate that much in the first place -
Anok- You ever read "Millionaire Next Door"? Then do so @ astore.amazon.com/acohaprll-20
Don't let poverty income trick you. The wealthest people hide there money. Yes you can be a teacher who has $500,000 in a liquid account. -
Why make it a requirement at all?
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Uh-huh.
I suppose the foreclosure rates that are rampant here means that all of these next door millionaires are just tossing their homes out the window to keep that cash on hand, right?
Sounds like YOU'RE fooled by people living in big fancy homes on meager salaries - AKA huge debt.
Welcome to the real world! -
I would scratch community organizer off the list. There's a reason why we spend 35 grand a year per head on the homeless and too many of them aren't in shelters.
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My honest opinion of your list?
You're going to be single for a loooooong time!-
She's dating a 59 year old doctor who meets all requirements.
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Ok. My second prediction is that she is going to have a loveless relationship based only on superficial things.
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My dream man is: (AKA Mr Anok)
Intelligent
Compassionate
Compatible
Funny (sometimes )
Handsome
Unique
Passionate
Hot tempered
Opinionated
Insane
Wild
Fantastic in bed
A great father
Creative
"Out there"
A chatty Cathy
POOR
And I wouldn't have him any other way.-
I only have 20 bucks to my name. Will you go out with me, and pay for dinner?
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I don't think the Mr would like that very much at all!
But you can come here, and we will cook you dinner.
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My requirements for a man:
Honest
Trustworthy
Has humor
Has integrity
Has intelligence
Has the ability to understand my faults AND my past without judging me
Some common interests
Some differences (need to keep things interesting)
Loves me unconditionally
I don't give a rats ass about money--I honestly don't. I have the ability to make my own money and I do. My husband happens to be fairly comfortable but this was certainly not a criterion for a man.-
melindaville- Yes I have the ability to make my own mone too. That's why I created my company, but at sametime the man needs to measure up to me or it won't work.
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My man has to measure up too--I also have a list. But money isn't part of it. If my husband didn't have his company--IF he were making his money as a jazz pianist (which he is) and I had to pay the substantial part of our bills, it would make ZERO difference to me.
If he loses his company in this economy (which could happen), I would not leave him because he lost his money. We'll survive--I have a great education and a wonderful job. Money just isn't part of the equation for MY definition of love. For you, it is--and that's okay--I just disagree with your criteria (for ME!). -
Hehehehe "he's gotta measure up"
What if YOU don't "measure up"!
I think I know why divorce rates are so high here now, too many expectations! -
Awww Melinda. I din't know your husband is a musician and a jazz pianist at that. That's wonderful to know -
@CMF--he's am *amazing* musician. He could easily do it professionally. We've always joked that if his company goes south, he can find work in piano bars!
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You are unlikely to find such a combination of attributes, as the ones who did have that set rode off in golden chariots pulled by unicorns.
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greencurmudgeon- You said:
You are unlikely to find such a combination of attributes, as the ones who did have that set rode off in golden chariots pulled by unicorns.
Are you trying to call me fairytalish? -
No, he was trying to say you are entirely logical and reasonable in your pursuit of such a paragon.
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AchEmpire -
Heaven forfend. Let's just say that you have such high standards that they stretch beyond the boundaries that mere mortals can achieve. -
@Still- Elves aren't real....
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@DB
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@DB
Do you want to tell her about Santa Claus, or shall I? -
Ok, new thread...
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Tell her what about Santa Claus? That he is a jolly good fellow that gives me presents?
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@DB
Yes. Certainly. -
greencurmudgeon- You said:
Heaven forfend. Let's just say that you have such high standards that they stretch beyond the boundaries that mere mortals can achieve.
So you're saying Tiger Woods is fake? Sounds like he fits those standards. Yes men out there have those standards, they just have to be found -
@Ach
Tiger Woods is married. And trying to pit the vast majority of mankind against a particular celebrity is folly. -
*giggles* she said, "Heaven forfend"
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greencurmudgeon- Never said I was using Tiger Woods as the foundation for seeking men. I was giving you an example of they do exist, celebrity or not.
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@Ach
If you don't realise that judging someone against that particular standard is shutting yourself off from a vast swathe of decent and kind human beings, then you are tasteless and crude. -
@GC: If she was juding people against that standard for her FRIENDS you would be right, but people have the right to whatever standard they wish for when finding a SPOUSE or even BOYFRIEND/GIRLFRIEND. If she doesn't find him, that's her responsibillity. If she does find him, all the power to her.
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A perfect man is a dead man -- all bound, neatly tied, and buried under my floorboards.-
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What db says!
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Yes, but does he have 500+ grand in liquid assets? -
If he is dead his assets will be frozen-SOLID! jajajajajajaja
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I don't understand this "I've been dating him since 2/5/09. I will be meeting him 8/13/09"
You have been dating him since February but will only meet him on August?
Just out of curiosity, do you know for sure the guy is single?-
Deray28- My comment meant dating since 2/5/09, & will see each other on 8/13/09 again. Yes he's divorced, why would he give me his address where his home is? Married men don't do that, I know where he works & have already had dinner with him 6 times @ his house.
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Why waste time making a list of qualities of your perfect guy, when chances are youll end up with someone completely different. Sometimes someone completely unexpected can make you happy, thats the cool thing about love.-
stella- It's just a list, I don't have it recorded in courthouse. Don't take the list so seriously
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"Don't take the list so seriously"
Irony overload
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I'm wondering if the author of this post has considered that there is more to life than sex/dating. o_0-
Agit8r- The arthur is me, why not just say my name? Yes there is more than life tnan just sex/dating, but what's hot you discuss
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"Arthur"???
She's a man, baby! -
AchE, are you typing with your nose?
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Agit8r- You're not making sense, with the baby comment.
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He made perfect sense, AchE. I don't understand how, if English is your first language, and you are among the 5% of intelligent women, that you find simple English so hard to comprehend?
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You referred to yourself as "the arthur", generally a male name, unless you meant that you are Bea Arthur, in which case I think you're dead.
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Oh dear this has made me laugh so much, I thought yesterday couldn't be topped.
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I used to have a list of things I liked in guys yo. But it limited the love atmosphere, life is much better when you give your self the ultimate ability to love everyone for any reason.
But I do randomly fantasize about what kinda of guys I would never date.
But for some reason I later in my life actually been with those people O_o.
It wasn't that bad...*laughs*
Now I have a boyfriend, but sadly he is the thing I dreaded most to date. He is richer than me...
I wanted to be the leader financially. -
AchEmpire casts no shadow.-
Please go buy me something...make sure it's expensive, you need to keep me happy! -
How about some pistachios?
Or, possibly a toaster? -
How about some Glamour Shoes?
A new pair each week... -
Deadrooster
Are you impying I'm not fat enough for you? I could work on that you know.
Just want to keep u happy baby!! -
DeadRooster- What do you mean I cast no shadow?
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It's like a quiz. What mythical creature casts no shadow?
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OKAY, MY PERFECT MAN:
1 Poops with the bathroom door closed.
2 Farts in the opposite direction I'm in.
3 Doesn't complain too much that I walk slow and am always late thus
4 getting him late since we go together.
5 works hard like me and pays the bills cuz i am not good with $$,
6 takes care of the kids better than I do
7 is always there for me
8 is great in bed
9 don't care what i REALLY look like because he is too in love with me to see anything
10/1 will not cheat or degrade me in anyway and respects me as an equal
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April. Personally I think if you have those particular desires - then go for it girl.
You put out a list - and if that is what you expect - then you go for it.
Whether "WE" think your list is obnoxious or rude or wrong - is really no concern - now is it?
You have your standards and others have theirs.
Will you find that list set up? I'm not sure.
Are you worth that list set up? I'm not sure.
But YOU feel you are worth it - therefor - go for it.
I think that if you set up goals - and post them - you should not take it personally if OTHER PEOPLE do not agree with your goals.
If you don't want people to disagree with you - then don't post things that will bother you if people disagree with them.-
wagerwitch- Thanks for your advice
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"6. Net worth @ least $500,000 preferably in liquid cash accounts"
Those $ would be worthless down the line. Maybe you want to change that to physical gold and silver in a vault.-
harveyavatar- The net worth is what he to begin with. That doesn't include the on-going standards I didn't mention
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I think the "liquid assets" part bothered me the most. What if he owns a home worth two million and had investments in local economic development that would not mature for another ten years but were potentially worth another two? Not having the ready cash to jet off to Rome for dinner once a week would disqualify him? It seems so mercenary.
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legbamel- You said:
I think the "liquid assets" part bothered me the most. What if he owns a home worth two million and had investments in local economic development that would not mature for another ten years but were potentially worth another two? Not having the ready cash to jet off to Rome for dinner once a week would disqualify him? It seems so mercenary.
The purpose of having the reading liquid in his account would inform me if he was in a financial disaster he would be able to cover it quickly if he couldn't sell his house or cd's or other non-liquid investments. Have you ever heard of the financial equation used to determine your assets? See below
yearly income x age/10=amount needed to in assets
So if I'm 59 & make $150,000/year equation would be:
$150,000 x 59/10=$885,000, so $885,000 is needed in assets to satisfy this equation for the 59yr old. See "Millionaire Next Door" book, it explains this equation.
In my case for the man I pursue he would need his $885,000 to have at least $500,000 worth in liquid because like Warren Buffet said not having cash on hand will hurt you if something arises unexpectedly if it's measured against your assets that are non-liquid. The "Millionaire Next Door" explains just having anying assets worth the equation, but with me I raised the bar by requiring the liquid up front.
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Good luck with this. I hope you'll update us again in six months when Prince Charming turns into the Duke of Disillusionment. -
Darn those pills are now useless! -
I am the man you looking for..-
not that kind of "liquid assets"
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