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Name me one personality trait you can't stand?
Posted by Jojostruys • 6/08/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: personality traits, selfishness
Selfishness is something which is really unattractive....
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liars - definately liars-
That's a character trait, not personality. Any personality can have honor. -
Liars and pretentious people...
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Insensitiveness -
arrogance -
Those who think they know better just because they are older-
agree to the above
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Agreed, this is a big one for me -
Ahh, you kids don't know what the hell you're talking about! -
Ah...it's not a matter of being smarter. It's having been around longer. Say life is a movie. An hour and a half long. A 20 year old has been watching for 20 minutes. Barely finished his/her popcorn. Not even yet taken a break to go to the bathroom. But ME - HA! - I've been in my seat for over an hour. 70 minutes to be exact.
It not that I am smarter than you, the 20-year-old. But I'll bet another bag of popcorn that I know more what the movie is about!
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See this is exactly what I mean. Sure there are things in life I'm sure you know more about but that doesn't mean you have all the answers. Besides what if I'm watching a different movie than you. Then whatever you know means jack.
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We are watching the same movie. LIFE. Being born. Leaning to socialize with our peers. Dealing with downs. Carving a new life style. Differentiating ourselves from our parents' generation. Seizing on to how we are special. Unique. We'll show 'em. We're open to the new. They're locked in their old stupid beliefs. Giving us the same 'ol same ol. Etc., and etc., and etc. Calling it wisdom. And they don't know sheet!
Like I say. Been there done that. Already sit through the part of the movie you're watching now. Thank you for re-winding me back. Reinforcing my point.
And "knowing all"? Uh...not yet. Hopefully 20 minutes to go in life's movie. Who knows? The Great Director in the Sky may have a total surprise! Maybe end as a comedy. Or tragedy. Or - hey - even a full re-wind. Replay. I'm open. Not quite locked in my ways yet.
(Do hope I have time for a cigarette during the break.)
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I have to agree with Rivy on this one. It's not that Older people KNOW better...
They just have MORE experience to base their thoughts, answers and opinions on.
For example: A mother who has had 4 children... One goes to college and becomes a doctor... One dies in War.... One is a Bum and has been in jail... One is a Baker in a cake shop...
Does that mother have more information about child raising, heartbreak and other things to pass on to the NEW MOTHER than say - another NEW MOTHER?
While that is a very small example - it is a fitting one.
I do understand though... somewhere in the 30's you start to realize that you know more than your younger friends/family or people. Not that you're smarter - you just have a different understanding of things... You've seen it, you've done it, you know what the probable outcome is going to be.
Most people let others make their own mistakes...
Some people cannot keep their own opinions or thoughts to themselves because they care, are worried - or just want to share them.
So - the next time someone says "I don't think that's such a wise idea"... Instead of getting pissed off - find out WHY they don't think it's such a good idea... And actually listen... If you can.
Goodness knows, I couldn't when I was 15 or 20 or 25.
I'm learning now.
And I catch myself saying something to the obnoxious teens I see sometimes... Oh dude - don't drink and drive, ok?
Or do you know that skipping school is stupid?
etc. etc.
And I suppose as I get older - I will learn to keep my mouth shut more often. -
And as I thought you have assumed that we all walked the same path in our lives. Without even asking my anything about myself you have put me into the 20s something bracket that "thinks we know it all." Fact is I don't and I know it. However the majority of friends that I associate with in my personal life are twice my age. Simple reason to this is, they are the people that get me and I understand them.
One of the main reasons that "kids" say this about older people is because you want to put us in age brackets and refuse to look past that. The funny thing is you're not "Differentiating ourselves from our parents' generation" you're doing the same thing they did to you.
But hey, what do I know. I'm only 24, I can't possibly know about life and this world. -
ROFLMAO - I wasn't talking about YOU.
I was talking about the blanket statement that "OLDER PEOPLE" who think they know better - and saying that sometimes there is a reason for it.
I don't know you Av... I don't know how old you are (well... I do now.)
I don't know how you run YOUR life... or what choices you make.
I don't know if you're doing good, or bad... or if you're just alright.
What I do know is that you have a bit of animosity about the subject.
All I can say is that someone who is OLDER - Generally (not all of the time, mind you) has seen more life.
That doesn't mean they know everything. That doesn't mean they are perfect... That doesn't mean time doesn't change for them.
It just means - they've had LONGER to observe the things they have seen.
For example - my grandfather lived through 3 wars.
He was able to tell me about fighting strategies from all three.
He was able to show me how to drive, play cribbage, beat the living snot out of any boy who tried anything - and he bought me a box of condoms.
Which showed what?
That he knew what boys thought - and he gave me good advice.
That he knew, that while people aren't supposed to have premarital sex - they do --- so I better protect myself.
And that Cribbage is a Damn Fine Game.
Whenever I stepped in the wrong direction - he was there with words of wisdom and advice.
Because see... While times change - and things are different - the basic rudiments are the same.
When I fell on hard times, he came and got me. Why? Because his family had done the same for him.
When I needed a pep talk - he gave it. Why? Because he had the knowledge to know that IT WOULD get better.
When I needed to be told to quit hanging out late at night with friends of questionable character - he told me. Why? Because he had gone through the same TYPE of phase growing up and had watched the problems that had befallen himself or his friends and he wanted to make sure I didn't have those same problems.
But most of all - he wouldn't have bothered ANY of that if he hadn't cared.
Now - I see a teenager smoking pot. I think Big deal... Pot.... so what.
But then... I see the same kid start failing school and skipping classes - and running with a very rough crowd.
I know this kid is smart. And I know this kid can make it in life - get a GOOD job and take care of himself/herself.
Should I just shut my mouth and let that kid think NOBODY cares?
Should I just let that kid carry on - and end up a "NOTHING" --- when I know that they could do better?
I mean - here I am - an adult now. I know how hard it is to make the bills on a small monthly salary. I know what it's like to wonder if I'm going to have money to eat or pay the rent or pay the bills... If I'm going to be able to have cable next month, etc.
I know....
And If someone had said something to me - IF I had been in those shoes - maybe I wouldn't have exactly appreciated it...
But I would have "heard" it.
And maybe if I tell this kid - the difference of about 4 thousand dollars a month... is whether you have the skills to get a job that pays.
And if you keep on this path - you won't make that extra 4 thousand a month (at least - not without the risk of going to jail or getting killed).
If you don't get those skills... you won't be able to make that money.
And if you want ALL those things that your parents give you right now... and you want to live with all those things....
Then you better get your butt back in school and get your diploma and maybe go to college...
But see.
The kid might not want to listen.
Because - see... I'm just an OLD person who thinks they know everything.
And if that kid cocks an angry attitude and doesn't listen - or somehow manage to straighten up his/her life... And they end up working at McDonald's or unable to keep a job... or unable to pay the rent without 4 other roommates in a 2 bedroom apartment... Well - at least I can say - that I TRIED.
But - then - what do I know... I'm old... Right? -
@Avellar,
Okay, take a look from you own perspective. You've been watching the mview 24 minutes. Say you have a younger cousin who has only watched it 12 minutes. In other words, half your age. True, he is experiencing the "movie" (life) from his own seat, his own angle. He may have a higher IQ, a quicker grasp on things. S.t.i.l.l....
You can probably give him more valid advice on some of the quandries he will face as he enters the world of teenagers than he can give you on the roadblocks you'll face as a person possibly entering a professional career.
Just as he can be trusted to take care of a five-year-old child better than a friend 5 or 6, of that child. (True, the five-year-old may prefer playing with that friend, than having to follow that 12-year-old cousin that "knows it all".)
It's life. I enjoy it. And thanks for the start of this discussion. -
WagerWitch I was respoding to Rivy LOL. I like what you say, and I was the kid that smoked pot and dug myself out of that crummy life style. Done it more than once now.
@Rivy - we're not talking about parenting here or knowing how to take care of a child. It's the fact that (using your silly example) you insist of ruining the movie for us. You believe that because you've seen more of it that we have to know right now. Basiclly your the annoying guy in the theater that doesn't shut up and let the other enjoy it.
Take your example of a 5 year old child, You can tell them all day not to touch the hot stove because it hurts. Fact is, the kid will still do it when your not looking and will learn it themselves. Does that mean the child is dumb? No, it means that they aren't stratified with your reasons and would rather find out on their own.
So your welcome for starting the conversation, just stop trying to ruin the movie for the rest of us. -
@Avellar.
Actually I never said I was running the movie of life. My analogy was saying we all are watching the movie. And the film is still rolling. I have said I don't know the outcome.
But O.K. O.K. I do KNOW where you're coming from.
Enuff's enuff. (smile) -
I have met a few of those types and they are annoying and I'm 54. On the other hand it is hard to stomach a 20 year old claim something and they just don't have enough of a grasp of history to know they are talking shite. So it goes both ways. -
I don't agree at all with the life being a movie scenario. If it was even close to this philosophy, life would be more like watching a different movie every day. Some people watch the same ones over and over and know their way around the ones they're familiar with, while some people sit and stare without paying attention. While there may be few that have seen many different movies and gave their full attention, the possibility STILL exists that they missed a lot of things along the way that some people that have seen it fewer times have noticed.
Life is all about living out the circumstances of your life. Just because someone is older does NOT mean they know any more than you do about life. Some may, some may not, but age never proves this.
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Ignorance.
Definitely. -
willful ignorance-
copycat.
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lol ... Some say great minds think alike.
I think of ignorance as being is the state in which a person lacks knowledge and is unaware of something.
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So lying to yourself in other words.
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I'd go with that. As in "I dont know and I dont want to learn". Makes people annoying to be around.
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stupidity. I hate, no I despise, stupid people. -
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I'm going with selfishness too. A total turnoff! -
Self-absorbed to the point of complete one-sidedness-
You've described my ex perfectly.
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I send my condolences to you for it... It probably took a while for you to not marvel over people who actually know how to give-and-take.
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Bitterness/vindictiveness
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"Herds" meaning those people trying to find acceptance and love from others (pretty much everyone). I don't hate them but I hate this trait in them -
Outspoken narrow-mindedness or intolerance. -
Shyness. -
sneakiness = deliberate deception
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People who refuse to cover their mouth when I sneeze. -
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah-CHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
Oh, wait. When you sneeze.
*un-sneezes*
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Righteousness.
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I have meet a lot of people that use bragging as their way to conversant with other people and I cant stand it. Bragging every once in a while is fine, it's normal behavior. But, bragging as a conversation tool is a terrible personality trait. -
Interestingly, most of these responses are not actually personality traits but antithesi of character, humillity and honor. Hmmm....
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Smart arses -
Better to be a smart arse then a dumb arse.
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yes, perfectly...my dude is more selfish.. -
Being late.-
Welll ---oooops you'd hate me.
I am LATE no matter what. It doesn't matter what I do or how I plan things out - something happens, I lose track of time, the world practically ends at my house, SOMETHING HAPPENS, GETS IN MY WAY and I am usually Always freaking late. -
I suffer from chronic lateness syndrome
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@Wagerwitch ... I couldn't hate you! I might fire you or put you on report. LOL. But, I couldn't hate you.
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Anything that hangs off the neurotic branch of the personality tree.
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mean-spiritedness -
Double standards
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Narrow mindedness.
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And the penchant for calling someone narrow minded who stays true to what they honestly believe in instead of being swayed by every whim or whim of doctrine that comes along; or calling someone narrow minded simply because they don't believe as you do. (general you)
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Good distinction - I totally agree. Knowing what you believe and sticking to it is not narrow minded.
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total lack of good personalities -
Racism
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Dustin Diamond
obnoxious shits, who don't have any respect for anyone. -
Attention seeking -
unauthentic people -
closed mindedness, two faced, vindictive, oh sorry you said one didn't you. I'll go with my first. -
I wish I could name just one for ya but, unfortunately my own personality trait of disobedience prevents me from doing so. I despise the following: Greediness. Close-mindedness. Being overy subtle and not straightforward. Being apathetic to everything and everyone except yourself. And more. -
What I cannot stand are those people who for some reason seem to think that their sh*t dont' stink and that they are better than any one else. -
people who are deliberately manipulative, and talk to you like your mind is a chess board that they think they have to be slow and deliberate with every movement.
Treat me like I'm stupid or fragile, and ill just stop playing -
Tomorrow I face the personality traits in others that I hate the most.
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?? explain please
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I had a meeting with the people that I knew were going to fire me - and knew that they were going to lie through the skin of their teeth.
They did - and they did.
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Self-absorption -
I just spoke with a person who said she doesn't give a shit about homeless kids, then laughed.
I don't know exactly what characteristic to label that with.
But I don't like it at all. -
i hate people who enjoys to pick a verbal fight with anyone. i hate conflicts -
People who turn their back to (objective) truth. -
closed mindedness!!! -
snobbery whether it be intellectual, academic, social, cultural, economic, etc.
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hypocrites!
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racist people -
being emotionally apathetic -
intolerant people!!!
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I think I mostly hate lying and lack of moral principles. I deeply dislike people that have no respect for others' values. -
Pomposity.
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Indecision.
In a minute there is time for decisions and revisions which a minute will reverse. -
people who brag all the time ! I'm sad for them-
agreed.
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dictator -
People that don't know how to research fact from fiction.
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shock jocks
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Being patronising. -
Empty Vessels -
A short memory; you were gold yesterday when they needed your help, but today they're looking for a stick to scrape you off their shoe. -
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please check your shout box.
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Anything can be forgiven but deception! -
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you dug up this old thread just to attempt to call me a fool?
That is real big of you. -
Don't be ridiculous. How could you possibly identify with being an enabler of defamers when you were not even here when the defamation took place?
defamers
enablers
Those who self identify and then pose as victims.
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unkindness/cruelty. -
tell me people who hate liars....haven't you lied before in your life? unless you meant compulsive liars-
Ok - complusive liars then, people who are so used to lying that they eventually end up doing it for no reason
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OK - compulsive liars is a good one.
But usually I find compulsive liars amusing. Because after awhile - you KNOW that whatever they are saying isn't true.
OK - for me...
I dislike people who HATE.
And STIR hatred...
And continue it on.
Hatred does NOTHING for anyone.
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yea it is pretty amusing. i got involved with a former friend with mine and they were lying so bad i knew when they were lying to my face. white lies is okay but compulsive lying is hurtful....lying and spreading rumors....its bad .
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I don’t like people who dress up their dogs in clothing. -
I can't stand people who are constantly asking questions. -
People who are always too happy/cheerful/excited and are constantly letting you know about it. Very annoying.
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Exactly. I think of them as "chipper". And they remind me of pomeranians, jumping up and down and squeaking. It's a sickness.
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I have a long list but posting it here is pointless as nothing will change especially when the ones at fault clothed themselves in false pride.
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