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People Have Been acting badly:Are you a Good Person?
Posted by drjalee52 • 9/24/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: bad, behavior, caring, good, rudeness
People have been acting badly in public. Rudeness is the order of the day. Are you good or bad? Do you care how people behave or you just don't care?
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good most of the tiime. Bad part of the time. I dont care how someone else acts in public that is on them as long as it is not towards me. Then we have a problem-
What if they go too far? Is it too late to raise the question?
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Probably not by your standards. It seems to me that when people say "rude" these days, they more often mean "honest" than anything I'd actually consider rude. I hold doors, greet people pleasantly, help out wherever I can, but I don't lie for the sake of keeping the peace and that seems to be what "rude" means now.-
Are you saying honesty and war are better than peace and please?
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I can't see why those would be the two choices. That idea seems to stem from the skewed view that there is something wrong or hostile about being honest.
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I'm rarely rude - but sometimes I have my foot in my mouth unintentionally.-
my foot stays in my mouth it is called foot in mouth disease. I am quit good at it. I tell the truth and alot of people dont like to hear it.
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Your foot may be in the wrong place but your is...Thanks.
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I was trying to say that your heart is in the right place.
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awwwww thanks.... guys... LOL!
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Well I'm good.I will tell a white lie to spare someones feelings. Its called being nice.-
Me too. I can't hurt some one's feeling. -
Being dishonest is called being nice? To the extent that that's true, it's a major problem in our society.
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Good for you,some people have no cooth they would rather check somebody,when in all a actuality it makes that person look more like a total L7 looser. Then you know I start to feel sorry for those people,because something or someone must have treated them mean for them to be so insecure.
@ the owl, hoo whoooo
Tehehe,betcha weren't expecting that long of a response,sorry... -
Different strokes for different folks madame...
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Yep, very different. Some people are decent and honest, others are evil and deceptive. It's unfortunate, but a fact of life.
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Yes it is very very sad...
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You catch more flies with hunny,than vinegar...Hellerrrr
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Yep, and then you kill them. So if your goal is to advance your own interests at the expense of others, then sweet lies probably are more effective. That's never my goal.
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And you catch the most with bullshit but who wants to catch flies? -
Tehehe u are soooo right
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Yea madame
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Is there a way to be honest and polite?
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Of course there is. But there are those who view any unpleasant truth as "rude", and there's no way to communicate meaningfully with them.
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Sometimes there just isn't
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I try to treat others like I would like to be treated. Most people think I'm a genuine good person.-
Thank u soooo much,you live by the golden rule just like I do Freddy
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I care, I dont like rude people, I like polite and educate people. I dont be a friend of a person who has bad behavior. I hate people who bother other people. I dont like that kind of jokes that make feel bad to the people. I prefer be alone than be with that kind of person.-
I love your comment.
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Me to dr.jaylee52...btw I like ur name
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Me and u both... do you know I actually hung a sign on my door for my mother and brother back when I thought I was bout to loose my house... it read if you don't have anything nice to say get gone,but I still love ya
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I'm bad but not rude or offensive to anyone. I really don't care at all what people think of me unless they are the people that I care about. -
Yea,that's me. I keep it real but I'm not out there maliciously being rude to build my ego.
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Are we becoming cold heartless people who could careless about their friends and family?
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Yes,I think as a whole we are. You also forgot a big one SELFISHNESS
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No. I'm a horrible person. I especially like tormenting people over the internet.-
Is that fun? If so why?
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Yea, why?
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I like to see things squirm.
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Ooh ur bad
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Yea mama.
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Umm! Jeremyjanson, the only person I see getting hurt in that picture is the one foolishly licking the knife! lol!
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He's licking the dull side, presumably before cutting something.
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I thought it was a she. Methinks I need my eyes checked.
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I thought it was female as well. Take my eyes with you when you get yours checked.
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Too often rudeness is mistaken for honesty - people just "speaking their mind". It's fine to disagree, but if more people simply took a moment to consider how their words will affect those to whom they're directed, and, how they may be perceived by others afterwards they might not be considered rude. Personally, I try to follow that idea, so I'd consider myself good, and bothered by those who are rude. I enjoy poking fun at these rude people on my blog.-
Why are people acting so badly. Taking the mic at an awards program, screaming at the president and murder over foolish resons at best. Why?
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It draws attention,I'm telling you those people have had something bad happen to them to make them feel that insecure...u are really supposed to feel bad for that type,and pray for them. I know its hard to bite your tongue,because you want them to feel bad as they made you feel. I'm telling u tho they already feel much worse
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I am honest.. I try to say what I have to say as kindly as I can say it. I try to treat people like I like to be treated... with respect.
I have a hard time with loud belligerent behavior in a public arena, mainly because I grew up with alcoholics that got loud, belligerent and mean when drunk, so I shy away from that kind of situation.
I am quiet spoken most of the time. Unless someone is gonna hurt a child.. Then I lose all sense of self and jump into the battle! -
Dose our educational system promote peace over war; or fight until you win at all cost? Are we living in a road-rage?
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sometimes i'm act very badly, so i didn't care about the other as long as they didn't disturbing me! -
"A truth that's told with bad intent
Beats all the lies you can invent."-Blake-
Now I disagree with that completely. "The road to hell is paved with a million good intentions, while out of the very mouth of evil can come the greatest good." -Nathaniel Hawthorne, one of my favorite quotes.
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JJ-you just love to be contrary, like your hero Mephistopheles.
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Absolutely. Or my other hero, guess who it is:
"Ain't I a stinker????" -
TICTICTIC "What's up doc???"
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I luv. That np
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Have we become a lost cause? Expect the unexpected or do we all move to Canada. The last time I was there, the people seemed so nice. Perhaps, I am from another generation?
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People in the South are pretty nice , also most of Washington State.
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Northern folks are nice too, but don't mess with their dogs... or privacy... lol!
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Never been up that way. Lived in the PNW and South, visited the Mountain West, California, and Midwest (Iowa & SD), only been through PA by train in the North.
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New Yorkers are actually very nice - we get a real bad rep throughout the rest of the country, but during a really bad period several years ago - you saw the true spirit of people just wanting to help each other. I've been to Canada - lots of nice people, but really really cold in the winter!
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I've met a few people from up that way. They're a little reserved, but if you get past that they're actually pretty nice. By comparison, Westerners are also really nice people, and very outgoing, but 1) their pervesity and mischevious playful nature can make them hard to deal with, especially if you're uptight or moralistic and 2) if you do get one mad, he will no hesitate to resort to physical violence. On the flip side, he also fights for his friends and will never give up on you, and generally sees the best in everyone around him, and he doesn't complain much, and if you give him a hard time back he won't hold it against you.
Likewise, Southerners have the one flaw that they do not understand what is wrong with ganging up on people and talking behind their back. It's not that they have no principles, and if you asked them about this, they'd probably tell you they do it, but they just don't really see what's wrong with it. -
If your wanting to move to Canada .. you need to confirm with timethief and myself first hehehe -
He doesn't want to move to Canada. Why, they can't even produce good beer!
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Haha yeah New Yorkers are nice (or can be). I think it's the urge to get things done quickly or being used to the fast pace all around that gives off an impatient vibe and we appear like rude rush monkeys. Random speculation.
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There's always been bad boys...
"Every saint has a past, every sinner has a future"
It can also get inverted
"Every sinner has a past, every saint has a future"
And thus the cycle of life continues... -
I don't care about other people unless they're being rude to my friends. As for me, do unto others what you want others to do unto you.-
Can we rise above rudeness?
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I vote a hundred times for rudeness against obscenity or vulgarity, because the only way to treat an obscenity or a vulgarity efficiently is through an indelicacy - precisely because both pique... what is delicate.-
Could you break that down for me, please?
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Maybe this will flesh it out somewhat (I'm not Avatar)
www.blogcatalog.com/group/boring-groups-for-boring-people/discuss/entry/doe...
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I understand -
I don't break it down
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Why not?
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I meant as I don't understand the comment from above. I wanted him to break it down,haha
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i do care and try to stay calm from my side first .. and if the persn behaves rudly the i try love on it. cause it is the only remedy available for this..
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I am a good person (unless you p!ss me off).-
What really upsets you?
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Rudeness is an emanation of unhappiness. It's not aimed at you personally, but at the world. So I do my best not to take it personally.
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It can also be an emanation of insecurity. Still, not taking it personally is usually best.
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What did the world do that makes people become rude and why?
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1) Too little time to get too much done.
2) A cityscape that at times can be like a warscape.
3) Excessive obligations and heavy loads upon people socially making the people just want to escape. -
NP said: Rudeness is an emanation of unhappiness. It's not aimed at you personally, but at the world. So I do my best not to take it personally.
I agree. Taking rudeness personally is a choice and that means we are free to make the opposite choice if we so desire.
Don Don Miguel Ruiz recommends this in his second of the four agreements.
"Don’t take anything personally – Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering."
When I make the choice not to take rudeness personally, I hold no grudges or bitterness. Consequently, I don't suffer from emotional hangovers.
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Being rude is just not nice,so there
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agree!
However, sometimes rudeness could just be the proper treatment for people who are also rude.
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What happens when we all fight fire with fire?
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Good question.
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And that ends it, peacefully. And there was peace forever.
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No I'm sure the unrest will continue in our memories as we blame each other for you started the fire with fire game. Preferably I like water, because fighting water with water is like a water gun fight.:D As far as I know forever never existed.
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A lot of people die.
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Game over
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Therefore, we must change our course. The question is how?
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Not so fast.. a bully can sometimes be tamed by reverse bullying - so the game can end with everyone winning
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I know the answer
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O-kay do tell?
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By killing all the rude people.
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You are warm but is there something other than death?
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Um, His name is JESUS CHRIST
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Um yea, its this guy who came and laid down his life for you and me.....u know unconditional love. Love that runs so deep it doesn't matter if you're the worst of the worst he don't care he still loves ya,even if you feed your girls donuts on a school day. Yup,that's the man who is gonna be there for me no matter what. Yea he's gonna be there with a smile on his face and not care if I leave the caps button on,or mispell a word. Yea he's even gonna be there to put my heart together when I've realized this dude who has been messing with my head so hard he prolly don't even realize what he's fixinna give up. A person can only beg and look stupid in front of the world for so long before she realizes he is just NOTT into you. So I've tried everything I am spent.....I know that jesus is still gonna be there. I know that time heals all wounds,and if the boy doesn't like ya well then he don't and ill overcome that to. So I've said all I'm gonna say,I'm not gonna keep letting my heart get broke though. So you need to figure out what you want and holla @ me...
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You have said well the answer beyound answers. We must all learn what is best for us and do it, and share it with the world. Rudeness will have its day, but fire will burn out fire. During the worst fires, the fire fighters will start a back fire to burn-out the fire. we need more love and less rudeness.
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I'm not sure the bible agrees with you. Excusing my facetious comment above, in the parable of the seeds it is made clear that not everyone will find Jesus or embrace him in their lives.
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True.
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I don't care how they behave as long they don't interfere with my life. Our destroy the things I love. People ought to watch out just for themselves, and I'm sure every thing around them will fix its self.
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What makes you think that?
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If people only "look out for themselves," how will they define themselves? It seems to me that only through good works and honor and integrity can we truly find ourselves. As Emerson put it:
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In the beginning of childhood we looked at what we wanted and for satisfying those things. And when I say look out for your self I mean make sure that you aren't the causer of evils, and that you educate your self to what being good really means so that you don't just think your doing good you know you doing the greater good for others. Why should we define ourselves, we are the observers. We collect definitions and that is who you should see yourself, as one who defines, but is undefined. Defined meanings are limited, like all the things possible of knowing, harmony is sustained by letting us be the undefined and unlimited beings.
"If no one else will then I Shall!"
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I believe it's important to extend kindness to others and look for the positive.
Whenever I find myself internalizing the negativity of others, I try to just let it go... or if I can't, see if there's some mirror reflection which is triggering me for some reason.
"If you meet more than two a**holes in one day, chances are pretty good you're one of them."-
Great comment. We need to share positive thinking and attitudes. Perhaps the A-people stick together and promote rudeness?
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The reward for doing good works is a smile...
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As absolutely adorable as that is Holly, you don't always get one. That doesn't excuse you from doing them - why how else will you know who you are?
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I strive hard to be good but I don't always succeed.-
I sometimes strive to be evil, especially when Evangelicals start obsessing about obedience in Church. That always puts in desires in to my mind to burn down orphanages and kill people. And then I come to BC and vent them here.
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What stops you?
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I think I've finally cracked the Good and Evil nut. JJ is bad; everyone else is good.
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MUWAHAHAHHA!!!!!! I AM THE SOURCE OF ALLLLLL EVVVILLLLLLL!!!!!!!!! FOLLOW ME TO PERDITION!
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Beezlebub posing as an engineering student at a Southern University. What will YOU think of next?
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Graduating. With high scores and monstorous promotion potential.
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Well, I'll be DAMNED!
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You will? Sign here and we'll finish the job.
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No way. You don't expect me to do all your work for you.
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Rudeness is in the eye of the beholder, I suppose... and one can rarely trace the path that beholder has trod in order to understand where their taking offence to something has come from. In other words, I tend to keep my opinions to myself out of respect for others and theirs (unless my opinions are solicited in some kind of forum such as this). So, kindness can be more than good deeds; it can also, at times, be about what is left unsaid.
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Silence is Golden. Great point. Do you think bad people care about rules?
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I think even good people can tend to dispense with the rules when it suits them... and especially if they can get away with it outright or can dress the bad behaviour up as really being a good thing. In other words, I think you'd have to define "good" and "bad", and even then people would beg to differ.
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I wouldn't necessarily say I'm a bad person. Just a flawed human being.-
Now that's complete nonsense. Just look at your avatar!
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Aren't we all
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@jeremy
OK! I wouldn't necessarily say I'm a bad person. Just an evil Rabbit.
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Always you cannot be good or bad it might depend on the situation I guess-
What is your true nature to be good or bad?
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Yeah I would agree that the situation would normally identify an act as good or bad. If I grab a nearby knife (humor me) and stab someone for the joys of seeing them writhe in pain..most people would refer to me as a killer, psycho, sadistic, etc. Now if I grabbed that same knife to attack someone that was say going to kill a bunch of other people with a gun, those same people might deem me a hero, brave, yada yada. I'm not sure the example actually touched the focus of the question, still early...I plead forgiveness as always.
In public, I don't normally acknowledge rude people. If it's towards me, I may ignore or I may retaliate. I am only a puny human so I tend to go with whatever vibe I have for the day, I don't make the effort to be saintly all the time. But by myself, I'm usually all in smiles and such, but I don't force myself to maintain it if other people attempt to bug me.
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Flawed I mean
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You have the license to act bad, if you really are good.. for example your pop could discipline you when you were kid
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No one has a liscence to be mean or rude
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To a child acting like a devil, some "rudeness" is warranted, else he might ride all over you
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I mean so in the hell what if you were treated mean in the PAST.... it has nothing yo do with the hear and now. I wasn't treated like a little princess when I was little,and you know what? I'm not any worse for the wear. Life is what you make of it. Live it for the here and now
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Since when did this become a me vs you argument? Chill!
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You are silly
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Perhaps we may have gotten away from the question or it maybe too telling?
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I was saying, rudeness depends on the context.. If a girl slaps a guy it wouldn't be so rude once it's clear that the guy had been indecent
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Yea, you're right. Rude people just need to go somewhere,and nice people need to just chillax
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Then who will continue this thread?
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I will! Because I'm bad!
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Bad as what?
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There ya go
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But this thread needs rude people, because the question is directed to them
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Look at my rude avatar! And look, yours is rude cos you're dropping guano on everyone. And Holly's is rude because her hair is blonde. And now I'm being really rude because I am deviating from the discussion.
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Yes .. and only a gentleman prefers a blonde ... ugh!
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Yea and the hippo loves soap on a rope
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The question is do they smell better as a result of the soap?
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I would hope so
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Its difficult to be good all the time but I try to be good as much as possible.-
Are there any rewards for being good or rude? Witch one is more rewarding and why?
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Well, rude's fun because you get to dump somebodys head in the chowderbowl, but the reward for being good is a bright and shining self-love, emananting from inside of you and warming your heart. It also means good relationships and friendships that will last far longer then dumping somebodys head in the chowderbowl. Beyond that, you can always be sadistic playfully, and get away with it completely!
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There is a resterant in Chicago where the staff is exstremly rude for fun. You can not get in because it is so popular. Do people love being rude?
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When rude's a joke yes. And there is something a little fun about dishing out somebody theirs.
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Yup, for some reason people like to be mean just cuz they can
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It's no good if politeness is really saying "nice doggy" while waiting for a stick!
With rudeness your position is clear and any potential misunderstandings are preempted
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So rudeness is a form of seriousness? Politeness is boring? What about being ignorant of civility? This must be great?
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Is civility more important than honesty of expression? Is suppression of emotion natural for humans?
Yes, rudeness can come out of seriousness. If the star player misses that crucial point the coach is not going to be polite to him. He is going to EXPRESS the heat
Life is fuller when things are expressed and explicit
Politeness is like consistency of the highway that lulls many a driver to sleep - and this applies to the road of life. Can you afford to fall asleep at the wheel?
Pride of civility is a false and hypocritic pride, when civil politeness is used to mask your real intentions -
I think true politeness is less about suppresion of emotion and more about showing genuine respect and concern for a fellow human being. Unfortunately, it's nearly unheard of today. People substitute cheap superficial control for genuine care and respect.
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Is there any balance in what we say, think and behave that rises above raw ID. Just say and do what you feel without thought. This is where we are in our evolution?
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Do you mean to suggest that rude people are less evolved?
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Hmm... acting badly... Am I a good person? Hmm...
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If you say so. But what about the red horns? They might give a different impression. What do they mead to you?
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Are rude people less evolved? This is an interesting question? Please share your thinking if you will....
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rude people are definitely more like monkeys
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Yea monkey man
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So in other words, people who behave badly or with rudeness are more like the primates one would see in a zoological society? Or maybe not? Please share on this new enlightenment?
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