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People Who R Comfortable Lying....
Posted by lotusb • 5 days ago • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
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Every one lies sometimes. Even if it's just an omission or denial. Truth can be blurred and sometimes we blur it on purpose for our own protection or gain, or to save someone else feelings.
But what do you do when someone your VERY close to seems to be very comfortable lying. You know their lying, as sure as anything.
Do you tell them you know their lying? Or do you play along and just start to cut that person out of your life?
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I deal with one person professionally (not internally) who lies perpetually, often contradicting within the same statement. I've made this common knowledge internally so that way we're all on the same page, and armed to be prepared should issues arise from the lies.
I've also dealt with an acquaintance who, every time I've spoken to him, seems to have some outlandish contradictory story. I think it's compulsive.
I haven't had anyone close to me lie like that. I tend not to trust people terribly easily, so I aim to keep only people close who I feel I can trust. -
I have had this discussion with a few of my friend many a times. Many say that when a lie is used to help others, it is acceptable. But, I feel that who is going to decide when a lie is helping anyone. Therefore, I would prefer my friends (and me) to always say what is true, even if it hurts! -
I am not friends with anyone who will lie to me - nor do I lie to my friends. Once someone lies to me, friendship is over - they may remain an acquaintance, but never someone I will trust. -
Honest is the best policy...lying is out of context..lying can make u some frnds but not the true frnds...there mustn't be anything such as lie or betrayal in frndshp...u lies to ur frnd when u r afraid of something...and when this things tke place, its no more frndshp... -
I believe take a lot of personal strength not to lie. Lying is easier and has less short term consequences.
But I have been guilty of the not lie - the omission lie. What some would call the social lie. Heck growing up in the South, it can be an art form. -
I truly believe that people who are either compulsive liars, or just trying to elaborate to interest you, certainly have a disorder of some kind or more so, low self-esteem. Lying are for a few reasons: to look better, to get themselves out of trouble and to make their stories seem much more interesting. It's all about "me me me", and rarely about sprucing another person's esteem. But, it depends also. It depends on the lie. Someone can tell you, "Hey, you look great", and they really think the opposite. Are these white lies or straight out embellished stories? You can be the only judge of that if you want that person in your life or not. Once you tell one lie, then you have to tell 20 more just to back that one lie up. It's a ripple effect, which eventually, that person will start believing their lies.-
Wow...that is all very true.
I am dealing with someone I've known a VERY long time who I have caught in very small lies. It seems like they lie in order to make themselves look better, but I already think their awesome. It's the lies that lower my opinion of them. I don't know how to tell them this without embarrassing them.
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I usually just play a long. and once they're caught out its fun to watch them panic
karma will always win! -
What is the person lying about?-
Money, mostly. I think it's about being a little embarrassed that they don't have more, or as much as they used to.
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I don't know many out-and-out liars (or they must be very good ones). I do, however, know a number of people who exaggerate everything, which becomes very tiresome. -
One of my best friends ever was a compulsive liar. If he went to the supermarket to buy toothpaste, he'd claim he had just been to Borneo and back. I loved him. He was endlessly amusing, like a great storyteller. -
I, too, have long-time family friends who have told lies, some of them fantastic. With them, I think the reasons run very deep. The problem is that, at some point, they are embarrassing themselves. I don't think they even realize it. I wish I could tell them that we all loved them when they had nothing and their life was simple. They do not need to fantasize for their close friends. It is insulting to us to realize they fear we are so fickle. I just wish they would stop already. The latest lie is a huge one that will be embarrassing when it comes to light that it is not, nor ever was, true.
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