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Posted by amybyrd21 • 8/25/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: family, friends, persolan, problems, who cares
When you have personal problems who do you discuss it with? Friends or family or perfect strangers at a bar? or do you keep them to your selves and let them stress you out even more. (that is so me right there and it is killing me)
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I tend to internalize things for a while but usually end up discussing it at some point. I don;t really have a go-to person. Just whoever is around and will listen to my problems. Although someone I usually know. -
Well usually I keep it to myself too and ponder about it and try to resolve them on my own. But if I can't resolve it I usually turn to my sisters. But have to say, it depends on the problem. -
I'm not very good at holding things in. There are some things I internalize, but if I feel that someone can help me with the issue or problem, I reach out for help.
Years of therapy taught me that holding it in and not asking for help is incredibly damaging. -
I do not discuss anything personal with strangers. I'm astonished when I see people post intensely personal issues to this forum. I discuss personal issues with my husband and one of my 2 - 3 very close friends and that's it.
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note I did not open up I am not spreading my dirty laundry here lol I couldnt get over it if I did.
But I do find it intresting that people open up to people they do not know at all. I have had that happen to me being an EMT before and freaked out. -
I discuss things with my husband. I have never been able to muster courage to open my personal life in public.
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I have a couple of close friends I can speak with.
Most people, though, I've found prefer to be talkers rather than listeners.
So it's been important to choose those rare shining gems who will lend a brief ear. -
I am pretty much me - everywhere I go.
I have met people from forums in IRL - and they say I AM WHAT YOU SEE.
I don't normally discuss EVERYTHING with my friends - but I do talk about EVERYTHING with the hubby.
However - I will be fairly open - and if I feel that it's something that I just need to get out of my system... and I need to write it - sometimes I will write about it online to see other people's opinions. Because sometimes - people online may have a perspective that could be helpful or useful to me that I wouldn't have noticed or thought of --- and that could help me.
Yanno? -
I internalize. -
I internalize things a lot, before I eventually talk about it, then write about it and/or doodle it.
Which probably explains the whacky nature of my doodles.
I have just written about this, if you want to have a read. -
It depends on how personal a problem it is.
Somethings I never discuss with anyone but me, myself and I (I have a journal). Somethings I discuss with either my father or brother. I do have a couple of "strangers" that I speak to about some problems on a less personal, but still private level. They've gained my trust in both etiquette, and sound advice - and that third party once removed position gives them the ability to really help me out sometimes - without burdening people IRL who will have a bias, or be upset to be dragged into such nonsense.
Otherwise, everything else is less personal and more of an annoyance in general, and free game for blog rants, BC rants, and so forth. -
Very rarely does any situation in my life develop to the point where it becomes a problem. I find I can ignore or disregard 99% of what most people consider "a personal problem." -
I have a couple of very close, close friends I can talk to, otherwise, I pray, breathe and sleep on it before reacting. -
I follow this formula:
blog, reflect, resolve
I blog it exactly as it comes into my thoughts, I go back and look over the post/s regarding the subject, I resolve it and move forward.
Last month I was a love sick model who lost a baby and found out she had a stalker. This month? I went back to school again for yet another degree in a creative field, I am no longer love sick, embracing the lessons of the previous months and am a better person. Mostly due to the process mentioned above.. I guess that means I don't really talk to anyone about it except for those who read my ramblings -
I hump trees (it's a tribal thing)
I enjoy playing with stuffed lizards
I also enjoy fantasies of lizardmen from outta space dress in gladiator armor abducting me into their space ship and letting me play with their joystick.
Does that make me less than human?
Do you believe anything and everything I post in discussions?
Is what I just said or added here true or false?
Am I afraid of anything I say or do?
Am I afraid of what people thing about me?....Roflmao
If I choose to post that I enjoy playing with cucumbers that's my business and what ever you decide to read into it is your problem not mine unless you want to take it to another level and libel and discredit me then we can talk.-
That's the Jeunelle we all know and love! Welcome back!
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I discuss almost everything with my mom and dad.... I believe they are competent and the best people around me to deal any kind of situation and problems i do have...
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I think people can get some great advice from strangers, and that includes most people on BC. People shouldn't be dissuaded from posting personal issues on the forum as it can be a great resource for support!-
Well since you wanted to know my midget elf person is not doing the house work like he is suppost to. Says he gets no credit for it at all. See I have to hide him from hubby so he thinks I actually get off my butt and do something around here besides getting on the computer. That little midget stole my phone cord for the computer and I could not get on at all Monday. I stole it back and locked him in the closet but now I have to do all the damn work around here. Sucks big time but I figure a week in that closet with water and bread will bring him around.
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Damn midget elves - they never learn!!
although maybe the week in the closet will work.
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Most of my 'problems' are work related (well not really work, because I'm not getting paid yet). But it doesn't really bother me much right now.
So I really don't talk about it to anyone. If there is a really bad incident they do offer a group counseling type deal. But it's more of a everyone who was there, can talk about what they saw, did, ect. That is ran by a professional. -
I may tell it to a COMPLETE stranger (ie fellow airport traveler), because you get that unbiased second point of view that you never have to think about again. Most of the time I keep it in until I am patching a hole in the wall somewhere. -
I pretty much keep it to myself, and tend to hide my feelings when it comes to anger or pain.
If it's something that is really eating at me, I do tend to write about it and that can sometimes take me days. I tend to over analyze the hows, and whys over and over again to a point of exhaustion.
Then, I always go back to basics. Something that Paul wrote about in the word of God.
"God will never give me something to big to where I won't be able to handle it". And even better then that, "He" will also provide the way out so that I'll be able to handle it"
Threw the years it's been something I have held on tightly to.
"God will never give you more than you can handle." I've ALWAYS held on to that one. < You know what comes after that verse? In plain English he basically also says:
You're an idiot, don't you know you are nothing but a common man/women who's not the 1st to go endure such pain?
Though make no mistake, I do also know that God does not give me anger, loss, hurt, pain or grief.
That, I do all by myself. -
I open the Bible and pray about it and then call a really good friend and vent about it. -
After five years of therapy I have learned how to handle personal problems on my own. I do not burden my family or friends, but work it out myself. If I was to find myself unable to work it out, I would not hesitate to seek professional help again.
Very little upsets me, I seldom get angry or hurt, and when I do, I pretty much know how to deal with it on my own. -
I always tell it to my hubby 'coz I know he's the only one who can understand and help me. -
I tell my best friend to calm me down... When its not possible i just try to do something, cleaning or what ever. Or watch a good movie - it takes your mind away. -
I have to keep it to myself, no one else will listen. When I talk to family and friends it's like the grown ups on a Charlie Brown cartoon
Blah, Blah, Blah...
So, I find myself frustrated and annoyed with myself to even have a issue to discuss.
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