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Projection vs Actuality

Posted by JNMiller • 5/12/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: acutality, college sucker, freud, graduate, love

Are people loved for who they are ACTUALLY or do we see "Can be easily molded" written on peoples faces??

bsgraduate.blogspot.com/2009/05/freud-love-doctor.html

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5/12/09

Floormodel

I read your blog entry and it sounds to me like you;re doubting yourself more than others. Be yourself and enjoy who you are. You're not a piece of oak, you're a piece of art.

I choose the people in my life now for who they really are but I'll admit in the past I chose a few for who I thought others thought they were or I thought who they might be someday.
But the others were never there for our one on one time and who I thought they'd be didn't matter because we never made it that far. When I weeded out my life a few years back I decided to keep thep eople who were real to me now. Whose company I truely enjoyed and who were there for me during my low points. Those were the good ones, the ones who mattered in the here and now.

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5/12/09

MissSuzie

I tend to love people for what they do. Who they are can change, molding them can be too messy, but what they do -- well that says everything.

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1. 5/12/09
  
  JNMiller
  
  Thanks Floormodel. I just be questioning my choices in people lately.
  
  @MissSuzie That's a great way of looking at it. "For what they do." I'm going to try and do that. Thanks.
2. 5/12/09
  
  MissSuzie
  
  You are welcome.
5/12/09

robinj

For me it comes down to what I am willing to accept and what I am not willing to accept. You cant be all black and white in relationships because no one is perfect. You are not going to change anyone so you have to decide if you can accept them as they are and sometimes that choice shows more of who we are than the other person.

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5/12/09

MadameX

I think it's best just to love people, without setting up certain standards that make them worthy of that love. So I'd say "for who they really are" so long as by that you mean only "another human being". The specifics come into play when determining what role (if any) a person should play in your life, but not whether or not to love them.

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