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Rejecting Online Dating Matches, Should You?

Posted by ModelElaine • 11/01/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: date, Dating, dating site, dating tips, Online Dating

Most people perfer not to say anything to potential online dating matches. I think that sometimes something needs to be said, so that the other person moves on. Here is how to write a polite rejection e-mail either before a first date happens or after the first date internet-dating-guru.blogspot.com/2008/11/matchcom-tips-should-i-send-polit...

Do you think this is necessary or should you just let him figure out on his own and would rather not hurt his feelings? Either way I think it's a good idea to let him know so that he moves on, right? Wrong? Your thoughts

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11/01/08

ekim941

Let them know or they might just think you have somehow lost your internet connection or online dating account. He might end up waiting around for you and building you a house like that chump from "The Notebook".

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1. 11/01/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  yeah, waiting around is not good. I sort of expect people to get the drift, but many time they won't
2. 11/01/08
  
  ekim941
  
  Never put your life on hold for someone.
11/01/08

pumpkinlights

IMO, I kind of wouldn't worry about it. Just because a site matches you with someone doesn't necessarily mean they are intersted and not enough so that they are putting their life on hold for you.

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11/01/08

ekim941

I have had a few online dating accounts and sent out hundreds of emails without a single response. I figured I would get a lot of "Not interested" emails but I got NO response at all.

Bottom line is that I think the online dating thing is either a scam or they are full of women who are simply rude.

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1. 11/01/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  WOW! Not a single respose! That's sad. You must have done something wrong. Maybe you didn't have catchy pictures or a good headline
2. 11/02/08
  
  pumpkinlights
  
  @ModelElaine, perhaps it's nothing he did and more the fact that most online dating sites are a joke.
3. 11/02/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  Actually it's not the case. I have met hundreds of men online. Interestingly enough, you do not have to be thin, blond and all that to meet many men online. Here is a video of a lady that I actually had contact with not too long ago www.youtube.com/watch?v=JNDUWs9fwEI
  In her opinion the reason people don't meet anyone on dating sites is because they don't know how to market themselves.
4. 11/02/08
  
  pumpkinlights
  
  Fascinating.
  
  I guess you meet all types here.
  Carry on.
5. 11/02/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  I don't understand your comment. Are you refering to the video?
6. 11/02/08
  
  pumpkinlights
  
  No,not the video
7. 11/02/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  well then I don't know what you are talking about. You meet who and where?? are you talking about online dating? yes this is true, you meet all kinds of facinating people. I met two TV show producers, one best selling mistery writer, a bunch of silicon valley executives, prominent attorneys, you name it. I met my ex husband on match.com as well as my current bf
8. 11/02/08
  
  pumpkinlights
  
  @ModelElaine, no, it wasn't the dating sites I was talking about.
11/02/08

lordiwanttobewhole

Its always considerate to be upfront. Consideration is a rare commodity these days, it seems ....

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11/02/08

pumpkinlights

Wrong spot

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11/02/08

calais50

When I did the online dating thing, I sent messages to as many guys who contacted me as I had time for. Basically, I didn't want to hurt their feelings so I said I had met someone and was seeing how things worked out.

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12/18/08

infospot

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