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Rules of Dating
Posted by wildcherry • 9/21/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: Dating
Here's my 1st rule 
Don't date girls with rules!
What's yours?
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I got patronized (idolized?) last time I discussed this. So, pass.-
please...enlighten us oh wise one. -
rule one, don't be a McMonkey or Hippie. If you are both, please do us all a favor.
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Try to avoid it at almost any cost. -
Lol okay then i guess "no rules is a good rule"!
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Never ever ever do the one night stand thing,just ain't fittin....boys,this is for u
#1...stand up when a girl comes in the room
#2...open the car door (girls keep ur man in check,u deserve it)
#3 don't get wasted,such a turn off
#4 if she is into you, there is nothing wrong with that first kiss. (Don't be scared boys) just don't be all aggressive,be soft and sweet....
Now those are my rules and I think ever woman out there should make the boys stick to those rules...why bc a good women deserves nothing but the best...love urself girlys..
Ps boys if y'all would follow those soooooo simple rules,u would have a lot more luck-
txs for the list...those are good rules. They are easy to follow especially no 4!
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Yea,says the boy who doesn't date girls with rules
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If a guy would stand up when I come in and open the car door for me, I would be more annoyed than impressed... -
Heh, yes, the standing up would be a bit of a shock. I don't think I've seen that happen in my lifetime.
Of course, I'm pretty low maintenance, so I wouldn't expect the car door opening, either.
I'm with you on #3. I once went out with a guy who spent much of it telling me various tales of how wasted he was, and the joys of public urination in the downtown area.
Not a particularly fun evening for me.
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I think these are some very simple rules to follow.
I like to think that I am a gentlemen, however, in this day and age I have gotten myself in trouble with independent women that think they can open their own damn door. I never meant to offend these woment but I do believe in being polite and respectful so opening doors and standing up is just a reflex for me. That is how I was raised.
One of the things that won me over with my girlfriends dad is the fact that I stood up when he entered the room. It is a sign of respect people and it is not hard to do! -
Richer44 marry me you have to be from the south....thank you sooooooo much it is nothing more than a sign of respect just like fixing your hubby's plate or shaving his beard or manicuring his nails for him....I'm not talking about painting them either haha...
It's a sign of I love you I wanna pamper you,not high maint. On either person's part.
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DON'T DATE GUYS WITH RULES. -
Do not talk about your ex.-
Totally agree.
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Yup that's a good one
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Rule 1) Don't date psychos!
Went on a date one time where all the chick talked about was how much she wanted to castrate her ex and stuff his parts down one of his orfices. At one point, I thought she was going to turn on me and perform all said actions. Worst part was, she drove.
So Rule 2) Don't let others drive!-
OMG on your psychos experience!
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Should have known better, but she was hot as hell. Maybe that's why she flipped out so crazy. She probably didn't think she would ever be dumped.
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Poor poor baby
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Wow! That is hilarious! I would have liked to have been a fly on the wall for that conversation. The look on your face must have been priceless!
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Make sure he doesn't have hotter friends or brothers than he is. XD
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tehehe,that's cute
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Make sure they don't already have a partner!! x -
just offer her full repect.. and take her to the place which is cool n quite and close to nature..
go for a long drive... -
Given to me by my shrink, modified for my personality, as posted on my blog LOL: [please note, these are only to consider you for a serious relationship - I'll "date" anyone because dating doesn't mean a commitment, and just about anyone can qualify for a POA]...
-Be gainfully employed, able to pay all your bills.
-Be mature.
-Have goals & work towards those goals.
-Work at least 40 hours a week (aka REAL JOB) [note - given the economy, unemployment is a reality so as long as you're keeping up w/ bills somehow, I can forgive that one]
-Have a healthy relationship with your family.
-Treat me right – no verbal, physical or emotional abuse.
-No past felonies – no drinking problems, steady work history.
-Make few demands, be self-sufficient, independent, trusting, responsible, factual, reciprocal, reasonable, calming, problem-solving, loyal, enhance my self-worth, playful, forgiving, able to learn and grow from your mistkaes, evolve, be considerate and make me feel better.
-You must NOT be demanding, needy, controlling, jealous, blaming, accusing, self-centered, emotional, hostile, argumentative, untrusting, lower my self worth, somber, keep score, repeat the same mistakes, be stagnant, inconsiderate or make me feel worse.-
I was wondering if you would step into this conversation. Very similar to your blog post today (which was great by the way).
You sure do have a lot of rules and you really know what you want from a guy.
Bottom line is you want a decent guy that is respectful and a gentleman... how hard can that be to find? -
Let's put it this way - I am divorced, so I learned what not to marry. I allowed myself to get sucked into an abusive relationship - walked away scarred but on my own two feet. So yes, I'm a bit jaded on relationships and now have high/established expectations. I also saw what my marriage and abusive relationship did to my relationship with my family, which I have since rebuilt, and will never get myself into a position, or relationship, again, that will jeopardize that. So basically what i've done is taken all the "bad" aspects of the ex's and turned them into the positives that are essential to co-exist with me. LOL :-)
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Sucks that you have had to go through so much but it is great that you learned as much as possible from the situation. I hope I didn't come off as rude or anything because I think it is great that you know what you want. If you are going to spend the rest of your life with someone then you better damn well make sure they are right for you.
You can tell that your life experiences have taught you a lot. Yes, you may be jaded but hopefully someone will come along and show you that real love does exist. I don't want to be mean but I don't want that to happen since I really enjoy reading your jaded blog which I think would be hampered if you fell head over heels in love. Plus I wouldn't get to read about the crazy online dating people!! -
LOL most definitely, I may be jaded but I have a sense of humor and the online dating sites where I do my fishing for men are an endless source of entertainment and thank god I'm unlisted! LOL =) Many aspire, few achieve dating status - I get enough love from my family and my friends - for now and for who knows how long, men will be my source of physical pleasure and that's just about it!
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Wow ur aim is well defined
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Dating and the double standard – Men always try to get a woman into bed as soon as they can, however, if a man thinks you may be “the one” and if you have sex on the first date, then he may not call back, because he has talked himself out of you being “the one”.
Although a double standard exists on a first date, as far as I’m concerned the rules are the same for men and women.
Summary:
Communicate honestly and openly.
Be an active listener.
Keep the conversation light-hearted and fun and avoid becoming overly emotional on any subject.
Do not talk about your past relationships or your past sex life.
Allow conversational lapses to occur naturally, without feeling pressured to fill the silence with meaningless chatter.
Do not take drugs, drink to excess, or expect or request sex on your first date.
I have published a blog post titled First Date Advice that contains 9 points and a video in my personal blog thistimethisspace thistimethisspace.com/2009/09/14/first-date-advice/-
Very sensible points, as usual
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Also girls out there DON'T spoonfeed any man!!! DEFINITALY DON'T chase any boy, let it be the other way around. I have learned that lesson the hard way and realize you don't wanna nother kid to take care of and baby you deserve to be babied and pampered a little to.
Oh and NEVER EVER EVER SETTLE FOR LESS!!! You have a right to be LOVED...-
re: timethief: If I'm on an actual date with a man, I never sleep with him the first time if I get the feeling that I'd like it to progress into something. However, if I already know this isn't going to go anywhere, I will sleep with him because sex is always fun.
Holly - totally with you on the let them chase YOU. a guy's never going to try hard at the relationship if he doesn't try hard to snag you in the first place!
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I KNOW that now 4 SURE
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