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Self Confidence vs Arrogance

Posted by nafisah • 10/29/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: arrogance, self confidence

Self Confidence vs arrogance is a debatable issue because they can be mistaken for one another. Are you building self confidence? Do people see it as confidence or arrogance ?

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10/29/08

SweetViolet

Depends on a lot of things. For example:

A kid with no experience discounting a knowledgable adult and insisting his ideas are more correct than the adult's experience is arrogant.

The adult, giving the kid the benefit of his experience can be either one, depending on the delivery.

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10/29/08

freeatlast

People see what they want to see.

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1. 10/29/08
  
  nafisah
  
  I agree with you guy
10/29/08

inmyredhead

Ha! Very timely. This happens to be a sore spot with me. I've been dealing with people who are SO delusional about their importance it's astonishing to me and was moved to blog (rant) about it....

sassynsappy.blogspot.com/2008/10/pride-and-pompus-ness.html

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1. 11/10/08
  
  nafisah
  
  )_(
10/29/08

roentarre

well, they are on the same continuum with a relative standard.

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1. 10/29/08
  
  nafisah
  
  ehmm i dont know exactly, but my point of view there is some different between Self Confidence & Arrogance.
10/29/08

TonyB

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1. 10/29/08
  
  nafisah
  
  i thing my post reasonable with general discussion because i just want to know about member opinion & suggestion. at the same time promotion too.. hehehe
10/29/08

bladeaxe4

My human confidence is the proud feeling of knowing everything, understanding everything. My divine confidence is to identify myself with the heart of everything, see God and the world with the soul of everything,
and become one with God the aspiration-light and God the realisation-delight of everything.

Plus the doubt, suspicion and arrogance- These are the three almost incurable diseases Of the mind.

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1. 10/30/08
  
  nafisah
  
  get it..!!!
10/29/08

nafisah

Are you building self confidence or arrogance?

If you are easily anxious, unsure of yourself, argumentative, and unwilling to consider another person's point of view, you are leaning towards arrogance. If you are calm within yourself, comfortable with who you are and willing to freely discuss opposing ideas without being judgmental, congratulations. You are a confident individual.

If you're arrogant you have a lot of work to do, but it's quite within reach for you to build self confident and become self assured. Begin by discovering yourself. Try to establish your motives and see what you need to do to resolve them.

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10/29/08

calais50

I think when a self confident person gets confused for arrogant, the person is most likely a little bit of both. It's all about being humble. The president of my company is a good example. He knows his shit. He is great at what he does and respects everyone's ideas and has no problem socializing with lower level people in the co.

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10/29/08

cranelegs

most self confident folks have no need to be arrogant, while most arrogant folks are sorely lacking self confidence.

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1. 10/30/08
  
  nafisah
  
  emmm...
10/29/08

dosyrosie

This is a great topic as I have rant issues (@inmyredhead) about someone I 'know'! He is most definately arrogant, how can we all tell? Well, we are in a poker club, he's been there about 2 months (which is nothing) had never played before he came. Now he goes on about being definately in the top three players in Scotland, actually laughs and makes fun of people style of play if it is not the same as his own and on our internet forum if someone says something contradictory to him he harps on about just qualifying as a lawyer and being much cleverer than everyone else and as a result we should all listen to him! And just to prove it is arrogance (lack of confidence) he will finish his preach with an insult, usually something along the lines of (to a bloke) 'at least i'm not a closet gay like you who seems to have married a man!' or something equally delightful.

And breathe... thanks got that off my chest!

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1. 10/30/08
  
  nafisah
  
  Your welcome..
10/29/08

lotusb

IMO, arrogance comes from kind of a lack of self confidence. It's easy to spot these people because they're usually convinced (and trying hard to convince others) that they are sub-human and never get it wrong. I think self confidence shines through, especially people who can admit to being wrong, admit to being silly and still feel like their an awesome person.

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1. 12/20/08
  
  AlexGreat
  
  That's right. There's a saying arrogance=ignorance. Even if you are the best at a certain thing in a certain moment if you don't develop others who do are bound to become better than you. I believe realistic confidence should be based on constant work to improve and learn though experience and advice.
10/29/08

ekim941

Confidence is knowing that you are just as good as everyone else. Arrogance is thinking you are better than everyone else.
At least that's my take on it.

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1. 10/29/08
  
  newward
  
  I like that, that sums it up for me
2. 12/20/08
  
  stoney
  
  I think you hit the nail on the head with the simplicity of understanding the concept - I would add that I feel that confidence comes from the inner core/character - arrogance may be based on more shallow things. "On Being a REAL Princess, Secrets of the Happy Heart Princess" talks about and explores the realm of self esteem for young girls. www.happyheartprincess.blogspot.com
12/20/08

jakeandcolin

I've always been told there's a fine line between being hard and a retard, and the same goes for being too confident and too arrogant. Often both are mistaken for each other. I think people are generally very confident versus arrogant.

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1/18/09

AlexGreat

Arrogance leads to ignorance. Confidence should be based on reality. It's hard to tell. Best bet is ask friends and even foes to tell you frankly what they think about you they will give you better indication are you right to be confident in certain abilities or you are arrogantly deluding yourself.
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