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   8/04/09

   Sam1982

   I've done it before marriage and I think I quite like it actually

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   8/04/09

   celticmusicfan

   I think nothing beat's married sex. But then again, it doesn't guarantee that being married will have satisfying sex. What's important here is compatibility. If the chemistry work than it will be a marriage with satisfying sex.
   
   Wow I really wrote a paragraph.

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   8/04/09

   timethief

   To be clear I do NOT believe that becoming legally married is a requirement for a happy, healthy relationship that endures a lifetime. I also do NOT believe that sex should only take place within the context of marriage. I sincerely believe that sex should take place prior to marriage and I advocate the same.
   
   It's a fact that people who are romantically drawn to each other experience lust. If a couple has mutual respect, trust, equality, freedom, affection going for them then I say have sex. Have lots and lots of safe sex. Because it's of critical importance to the health and longevity of any romantic relationship that the couple are a "match" when it comes to sexuality.
   
   Healthy happy relationships are based on freedom and complementarity rather than need. The foundation for a successful relationship is mutual respect, trust, equality, freedom, affection, intimacy and a desire to allow one another to grow to their fullest potential within the relationship.
   
   So after the couple has had lots and lots of sex they need to assess: "Do we have this foundation or not?"
   
   In successful relationships, couples have effective conflict resolution processes and they learn to adapt and change together. They accept change as an inevitable part of human life and support each other. They acknowledge that change can provide opportunities for growth and intimacy and that it can also be painful. It may mean adjusting to a new way of thinking or a new way of life. It may also mean letting go of things that have been familiar and safe.
   
   It takes time to assess whether or not the basic ingredients for a long term or lifetime commitment exist within in a relationship, and that's what co-habitation is for. If it does exist then I believe it’s advisable to formalize that relationship by creating a prenuptial contract.
   Further reading:
   thistimethisspace.com/2009/02/10/love-the-one-youre-with/
   thistimethisspace.com/2008/09/18/lifelong-commitment-contracts/

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