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Single Moms Are Bad For America?
Posted by deoangel • 1/15/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: ann coulture, family, friends, mothers, the view
I saw this youtube video that was basically bashing single moms. Click on my icon and check out my blog to see. Please comment.
Do you think that single mothers can raise a child alone? Do you think that it is a higher risk that they can go to jail or runaway? What do you think?
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IMO Anne Coulture is bad for America.-
Bad for America? You're not even a resident of the United States. -
You're welcome to have a dissenting opinion. You're even welcome to state it here. BC is a diverse community full of members from all over the planet.
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I second your opinion on Ann Coulture, though I love her brilliant way of "marketing" herself. She is a female shock jock who has learned that if you say enough outrageous things in America, people will pay attention to you and buy your books and put you in front of the television. It's the Jerry Springer Show for political junkies.
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Well said.
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just because a person doesn't live in america doesn't mean they have no right to have an opinion,
anyone that knocks single mums and doesn't see the string of events and the circumstances that create babies and diverse family's that don't fit the stereo type that existed in 1960, has the brain the size of a pea -
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How can you say something is bad for someone or another country when you do not live there nor have any experience in which it's regarding?....you can't. You're right, it's opinion and nothing more. Anne just brought out the facts that she found through her study. -
TBC, without the players, there would be no game. The players create and recreate it every day because they're willing to sacrifice truth and real ideas to advance their own popularity. That's a personal choice and, while I wouldn't use the word "hate", it is clearly representative of a lack of character. -
you can'be serious Bryan.
There are people that live outside the USA, they do have a right to have opinions about anything or any place.
Any Coulter ....... haha..... what on earth is wrong with that woman. How could anyone take some like that seriously. Has she been outside America? Is it really true that there are people in America that think like that? In any other country, someone like that would be laughed at. You can't be serious, it's a joke right and you're just trying to stir people up.
To quote Ann "By this purposeful act, single mothers cause irreparable harm to other human beings–their own children–as countless studies on the subject make clear." Are you kidding? ... how could you even consider a person that says things like that as credible. It's totally moronic. And that's a quote she's using to help sell her book. The average 14 yea old in most other countries would see how ridiculous a comment like that is.
Does she know where babies come from?
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Being a single mother is not ideal, but of course they can raise a child alone. I am curious what the definition of "single mom" is. I am divorced, therefore single, but I share custody of my kids 50% with their dad. Hmmm...I'm guessing it means with no father in the picture at all or very little...-
it was based on a woman having a child out of wedlock and never marrying.
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That's a delicate subject, for sure! I would say, generally speaking, life is harder for a single parent (one income, no one to share responsibilities at home). On the other hand, some moms are better off without the man around (toxic relationship, he doesn't help out, leaches off her income, makes more work for her at home). I don't know of any negative opinions about divorced women with children, but I think there is alot of anger out there focused toward single women (of all ages), getting pregnant when they are not first financially secure enough to pay for the basic necessities for themselves and their children. -
I disagree with her on this point, but typically I love Anne. As long as the parent/parents/guardian/guardians are providing for the child it doesn't matter what the family dynamics are. -
Those are statistics not an opinion, she's just stating what the study found. Can't fault her for what the answer was.
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I read some of the parts in her book. I thought that it was very negative and showed no compassion. Whether out of wedlock or not, there are many single independent mothers doing a hell of a great job. I admit that having both parents are an advantage. However, why aren't the men highlighted more in this equation?
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She has previously addressed the issues with men and deadbeat fathers. She is just very traditional and sometimes comes off as abrasive.
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There are no studies proving that single mothers are the cause of social problems. There are no studies, or even statistics backing up Coulter's assertions that the jails are filled with people who had single mothers, and that single parenthood was the cause of their criminal activities.
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I agree, there are 1000's of single mothers doing a hell of a job raising their children. Unfortunately, if a child has no father figure in their home then he/she is more likely to committ a crime, serve time in jail, etc.
This shouldn't be a surprise to anyone, this has been known for years.
I do however, believe that this shouldn't be blamed solely on the mother; the father of that child/children should "man up" and be there for his kid(s).
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There is nothing wrong with being a single mom. I believe in equal opportunity and equal pay for all. However, history has proven that the two parent family has the most advantages. -
I don't have to see it I've seen her in a debate and she is not that great on when she is not in her element. The debate I saw was in Connecticut a liberal state and she wasn't really on her game at all. her books are full of inaccuracies and at least in her last book she used op-ed for citations. lol
She does know how to preach to her choir and get them to buy her books, of which half the stuff in them she doesn't even believe - but she knows people like to see their view mirrored so she keeps on writing horribly researched books full of opinions.
The thing about the single mother stats she left out and it has to be considered is the poverty factor - poverty increases the chance of a child becoming a criminal for many reasons - and single mothers are overwhelmingly, more than any other sector of the population, poor. This whole scenario has much more to do with education and socio-economic status if you sift through all the data and studies. It is very easy to cherry pick studies for the information you want while leaving out the rest - people do it all the time, but she does it very well.
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They are bad for the kids.-
absolute garbage
i know lots of single mums who are well balanced human beings that create wonderful environments for their children, they are loving, sensitive, supportive, beautiful in every way and are often much better parents than some of the couples who spend their days pissed and stoned out of their brains, watching soap operas and whinging about everything.
i think what you have said is careless, thoughtless and lacks any kind of common sense. Often you say thoughtful, thought provoking things, obviously on this subject you are out of your depth and oblivious to the world that exists out of your limited experience of life. -
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Why do you always make me spit out my soda when I read your comments? I know now to just wait to take a sip AFTER I have read your comments. I laughed like crazy. Stop. Place a warning ahead of times for folks like me. Ok? -
i'm not trying to be funny, this is serious. I know dozens of single mums and i have so much respect for the way they are dedicated to their kids, and when i hear people say things like that.
I apologize for making you laugh, this is my serious side
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I suppose it would be better for everyone if women would just shut up and take whatever a man dished out, just so long as she got married to one and stayed that way. [deep breath] It's an asinine proposition, that children born and raised out of wedlock are in some where inherently bad for society because their parents didn't conform to some out-dated standard. I'd turn that around and say that America is bad for single mothers and their children. -
There are certainly pro's and con's to single parenthood. Obviously, children need stable living environments and caring parents to really succeed in life.
However, blaming single mothers for all that ails us in this country is outright false.
Coulter is a bane on society. He views are bigoted, unfounded, and used for the marketing of herself and nothing else. She takes a small fact or percentage, and twists it until it fits her criteria of a citation to back up her wildly inaccurate opinions. -
Entertaining side note: Every time Ann Coulter gets loud like this, I get dozens of search hits to two of my blogs on phrases like "is Ann Coulter really a transvestite?"
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Okay, that's just funny. -
I don't care what she is. But I can't stand anyone knocking single mums. Most of the women I know are single mums and many of them are heros in my eyes.
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Funny...lol
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Attention: Single Mom on Thread
I raised both my children for 12 years as a single mom. They are educated, independent and happy.
F*#k Anne Coulter!-
no thanks madm I'm not interested in doing her, I go for woman with taste and brains
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@acousticguitarist
woot!
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Gotta love this.
Here is my view on it.
Can a single mother raise a well balanced child. Yes, Undoubtedly.
Is there a greater risk for problems in a single parent family, Yes Undoubtedly.
I've heard much on these forums about the problems with for instance Inner city children being blamed on absent fathers, and mothers having to work two or three jobs so that they don't have time to raise their kids. To go from that argument to saying that Coulter has no point seems a little far fetched.
Coulter is a master of another practise that other posts on these forums are constantly talking about.
She has brought "linkbait" headline marketing to mainstream media. Her delivery in its entirety is based on this. What is funny is that when brought to print, people get REALLY annoyed with that practise.
Yes she is plump, and sometimes rude past what normal print / broadcast media is used to delivery, but she is a magnificent marketer.
IN the end, i don't think that anyone can debate that dual parents are on average better for the childs development than single parents. And by extension single parents are therefore worse than dual parents.
In "Blog linkbait lingo" that translates to Single mothers being bad.-
Now, I had a whole response typed up - but it was eaten. I may have to do a blog post
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I know just as many screwed up people that had both parents at home. Go Figure! Ann is just selling books with no regard, respect or insight of a single parent. -
I do not think single moms are bad. I only thing that some people abuse the welfare system. -
I agree, I wrote a while back that single moms are unhealthy for the future generations. Got a lot of hatemail over it too.
I was raised by a single dad and I sure turned out screwed up. -
Wow! I never expected to get such responses. They are very good and some are disturbing as well. I think that I am going to do further research and posts some new articles on my blog.
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I was a single mom, I guess I still am but I prefer to call it solo parenting. The single takes the focus off what I really was...a parent. I wasn't one by choice but above all else I was a Mom.
Every child benefits mnore from two active parents who put the child's well being and welfare above all else. But that doesn't make it happen. The key is a parent (or guardian) who loves and takes care of the child, who helps him/her grow to be a good and decent adult. It doesn't matter if it's a "single" parent, what matters is the parenting.
In a perfect world there's be no children raised missing out of good parenting from either Mom or Dad or both but this is not a perfect world and I will never bash a parent who tries, whether they try together or alone.
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