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Straightening Up a Problem Child
Posted by QueensOnly • 12/13/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: children, issues, parenting, teens, tween, violence, youth
Do you feel taking children under the age of 18 to a prison as a scare tactic is effective enough to make them straighten up? Why or Why not?
Also, what do you feel are effective ways to help a child straighten up?
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I seen a lot of talk shows where they bring their kids on and it seems to work. They bring them to prisons and other places. Usually if they don't get help before adults, it does not work anymore and they are set in their ways.
I think some kids though are born mental. Meaning they can't change no matter what. You would be suprised how many people have mental disorders. I read it online just recently. If they are like that at 1-2 years old, that is how they will be when they are teens. A rotten kid may be a mental kid.-
"some kids though are born mental. Meaning they can't change no matter what. You would be suprised how many people have mental disorders"
There are many ways that mental diosorders can be treated or alleviated, whether through diet, activity, structure, education, and--in some caes--even with prescribed drugs. These are CHANGES that can be made
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Ok, I am going to try and respond but I don't think there is a right and wrong answer.
Prison, no.............
the best thing you can do is keep trying to relate, try being nice, try being horrible.
If they are on drugs try talking when you feel you have the best reception...
Do NOT blame yourself! It is counter productive...truly. Do you love them? If the answer is yes, you may not even like them too much right now. This is OK and telling them is OK too.
Just an answer from the heart...........if you have a problem teenager. I feel for you. Lots of hugs, it is so tough! -
If a child behaves abnormally it is because
- it has some physical or mental agony inside
- doesn't realize what it is
- cant describe it to anyone because there is no hope anyone will understand. Lacks awareness of such problems.
- does not find anyone whom it can trust enough. Meaning, a person who wont scoff or whatever
You cant force the child from the outside. The problem might get worse. You have to understand from WITHIN and take the steps that the child would appreciate -
I think the reason these kids are becoming this way in greater numbers is because, as CT pointed out, they don't really know who they are. They have no roots, have no responsibility, no one will let them take any risks, stand up for themselves or explore on their own. We control them in every possible way. Result: No growth, but moral decay and irresponsible. -
They would send them thru the morgue every once in a while that seemed to work. Jail is not a good thing. They see free food, free roof over their head and free cable. That is what is wrong with society today.-
Personally I think we should use prison inmates as slave labor. The proceeds from their work will pay for better public defenders.
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Adults have to straighten up first.-
Good point.
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Um yea scare tactics work. My cuz just got caught at her first field party breaking curfew drinking sparks. She made the mistake of lying and giving the cops my # as her mother's. I covered for her little ass,but the cop said do you want me to arrest her and drop her off to scare her?
I said of course...she was dropped off here and the next morning I told her are you gonna tell ur mom or am I?
Her mom came to get her,we told her together kels was scared s***less,she had me there for moral support,lesson learned!!!
Really I think she has learned not to get caught next time,cuz I told her ya can't be a dumbass and everyone leave their headlights on DUHHH,ya do a bon fire -
What really sux bout my little story above,is kels is gonna be doing the exact thing with my girls in 10 yrs....
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Problematic normal child is worse, or a problem child?
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I think if a kid does something wrong....the kid needs to suffer the consequences...period end of story
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Cursed is the problem child born to parents who have never seen one. And damned are the ones whose parents never came out of their own childhood
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Part of the problem is the way we educate and entertain our children. When I was a child, we didn't watch endless hours of TV and there were no video or computer games. We read books, we gardened, we played musical instruments, and so on. All of those require active participation and not mindless passivity.
Learning to play classical music on an instrument has been scientifically proven to straighten out and prevent behaviour problems. When was the last time you heard of a concert oboist involved in a drive-by shooting? (Hint: search for "El Sistema" in Venezuela and Scotland) -
I think it is the best way to get them worse, because all the bad things are learned in prison! -
Try "Total Transformation". Worth it.
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