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The Balencing Act: Women's Sensitivity

Posted by lotusb • 9/15/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: relationships

I am thinking of this because of a SLIGHT altercation I had with the guy I'm dating.

We were IM'ing each other, quizing each other on South American geography. I could only think of a few countries: Paraguay, Brazil, Chile...etc. He named more than I. He scoffs, sarcastically (via IM) and I respond sarcastically. He continues to scoff sarcastically, I respond like a hurt puppy. He continues his scoff. I jolt back with a harsh comment. He calls me hurtful and now we're not speaking.

Now, this is an amazing guy...but why is it that women can get stuck trying to balence out letting things roll off our shoulders and standing up for our own self defense. I work in an office full of Good Ole boys, I'm underminded all day. The last thing I want to hear is how I'm less intellegent than my boyfriend because I couldn't come up with more South American countries.

Ladies, Gents...any thoughts?

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9/15/09

cookingasshole

sounds petty

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9/15/09

dbowles1017

*walks away slowly*

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  TJlubrano
  
  Are you crawling
9/15/09

lotusb

Fine never mind.

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9/15/09

TJlubrano

There is always some sort of power battle I think. You just stood up for yourself and in the end it is just a game.

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9/15/09

Funkkeejooce

I know the feeling LotusB. My husband and I sometimes have that kind of thing wherein we test each other's general knowledge. Sometimes he becomes childish about it and I feel I can never be right. It is frustrating. I know he doesn't mean to frustrate or agitate me but I sulk nevertheless. I think it's a quite normal thing, petty as it sounds. One thing though I have to add to this, knowledge is often equated to intelligence - it's not necessarily so!

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9/15/09

MadameX

I just hate when people attribute things like this to a gender difference. I can't recall ever having faced this issue in my life, but I certainly know men who play the one-up game and then get wounded when it doesn't go their way.

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