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The power of negativity
Posted by Shiley • 9/18/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: negativity
I have seen negative people and attitudes popping up all over the place and it is getting on my nerves a great deal.
What can your negative attitude do?
1. Bring someone else down.
2. cause stress
3. high blood pressure
As well as other effects www.personal-development.com/chuck/negativethinking.htm
Why on Earth do people insist on being negative?
People get happy! The sun hasn't swallowed the Earth!
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I think negativity is in the eye of the beholder. What one considers negative, another can consider a justified response/action/reaction-
I mean strait up negativity. Not a response. Usually a negative response happens because of a negative action. One has to happen before the other usually.
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Oh straight up negativity, like that last little sentence? see now my initial response to that would typically be pretty negative but I am in the mood for some good old fashioned positivity. Have a lovely day and enjoy your thread
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Negation is one of the most significant traits of contemporary thought. This should not come as too much of a surprise: humanity having overwhelmingly embraced a philosophy of spirit, negation has evidently taken on a prime importance, as the spirit makes itself measure of all things - not the other way around.-
I agree negativity has a huge spot in our lives. I found myself struggling to promote my positive blog last year. (It's not on BC because family has to come first and it takes a lot of work and it has been neglected.)
If I began a conversation "Boy dies doing community service" It would get tons of response. If I said "boy scout aids granny" not so much. I don't know if it's like a disease and people are drawn to it of what. -
That sounds like an attraction to morbidity, which seems to be prevalent
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Kind of what I was getting at.
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I have a strange feeling this discussion will be very negative.-
Not so. I have yet to have a "negative" discussion. I have brought this up before. I have almost 300 pages of discussion and I'm not digging it up.
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Is the condemnation of negativity negative?
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My husband once told me that I am not in the "real world" because I am big on community service. My response is this: Would I be able to do that service if something bad hadn't happened? I am well aware that to do positive the negative has to happen first. If the negative action hadn't happened would that service be needed? I don't think so. Is condemning negativity negative? No, I don't believe so. I live w/ a man who is a complete polar opposite and it would be so nice if he were just a wee bit more positive.
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I am shameless...
These days you are not understood when you say that the primacy of being has been substituted by nothingness. Most people stare at you with a dazed look. Yet, for anyone who has the slightest inkling of metaphysics, it is obvious that being primes over non being, and that it is well and truly being which is, before nothingness… despite Jean-Saul Partre and the cortege of logy intellectuals of the 20th century. Thus negation has taken front stage, in all spirits, even those of the blockheads… -
There is a reason for the dazed look. I'm experiencing that now.
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harveyavatar ... it is simply another mask to wear and at some point it must come off. -
@Shiley's Husband: What's unrealistic about serving others? The only thing I could ever say bad about community service is those really obnoxious busy-bodies in Seattle who want to literally FORCE people (usually students) to do it, but I think that's mostly just general busybodies and just like Atlanta has a huge gay population (3rd in the country after San Fran and Seattle) because the gays get thrown out of Southern town at the front of a shotgun and Atlanta's the only place they have to run too, a similar phenomenon occurs in Seattle with busy bodies being forced out of town in Montana, Idaho, Arizona, California, Texas, Colorado and migrating to Seattle where they won't get shot and instead just annoy Kurt Kobain and a substantial portion of the population in to killing themselves, thus explaining Seattles high suicide rate.
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I just finished posting, with some curse words, what I feel about people that talk on their cell phones or apply mascara while driving to work. You can probably guess that it was a negative reaction. But it's directed at a group of people and I'm trying to get a point across. How does that work for you? BTW I followed up my social commentary with a beer review, so it wasn't all negative.-
I don't go for cell phone driving and make upping at the same time. I would place it under advocating. Not quite the same thing if a positive can come from it. I don't drink beer but whatever floats your boat.
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Negativity is an easy way to gain status. To disapprove, to not like and to criticise are the easiest ways to appear intelligent. Take a movie critic for example. To be taken seriously, they NEED TO be negative, to find flaw. Some people apply this to every day life, and think that to find flaw, to be discontented they will be taken more seriously as those who "love everything". That probably works, and if you ask me, both ways are irritating, but love everything people don't get you down as much as the negative people.-
Lol! I'm not a love everything person but usually pretty positive. Some people need that negativity for a job like that but most of them will never hit Oprah status. I don't think I can have a job like that (movie critic). I hate hurting feelings.
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I don't know many love everything people, but they're the ones that you have on your Facebook that thumb up EVERYTHING ANYONE posts in there. "I like this" "I like that" and everything you ever posted has this person's name under it: "Love Life likes this". When you create a group or a page, they're the first ones to join. That takes the value of their liking, as you know they like everything anyway... If you know what I mean..?
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A negative attitude is generally a symptom of unhappiness.
A positive response to unhappiness would most likely involve empathy rather than rejection.-
@drjay
I like this response. Sometimes the best response to negativity can be "I'm noticing you're upset. Is there something I can do?"
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Seems like the world is just a great big onion but it's time to look on the brighter side. I am with you on this one Shiley. Good discussion.
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!Gracias!
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OCCASIONALLY we need an intelligent devil's advocate -
A negative attitude is like a bad cold. Wait long enough and it works its way out of your system.
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i totally agree with you! i've been having a lot of negative feelings lately (even though i know it's soooo counterproductive to getting healthy) but i can slowly see them working their way out of my system.
what goes up must come down - i've been so positive throughout my treatment so far, i guess it was only a matter of time before i had some bad days!
BUT i always try to make a point of only hanging out with people who are positive (or who are positive a majority of the time) - it makes life so much easier! -
What a wonderful saying. I'll have to keep that in mind whenever I get negative.
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Oh no!
If you only hang out with + ve people what will happen to the -ve people? Wouldn't they feel left out and sad again? and can you blame them for that? and then whole thing will start again:)
Dita -
>The sun hasn't swallowed the Earth!
But at some point it will. Its yet another reason to be pissed off :-)-
And the wonderful thing is weakmachines, you'll be long dead and gone peacefully of old age by the time that happens!
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I am positively negative. I mean I complain a lot (usually about stupid people), but I am one of the happiest complainers you'll ever meet.
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