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Thinking about self disclosure?
Posted by ramyasadasivam • 6/08/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: intimacy, love, relationship, self disclosure
Self disclosure is a straightforward approach to share thoughts and emotions pertaining to the past. It is determined by various factors such as prevalence of insecurity, discomfort, fear of departure and death etc. It is a complex decision-making process since the impact is unpredictable. Despite it, people decide to disclose to buy easiness and peace of mind.
www.ramyawrites.com/search/label/self%20disclosure
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You are spamming-
No.. It is an authenticated site..
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It's an authentic site, sure. But when you promote it too much, it comes off as spamming (that's why I don't promote mine at all
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Ramy what he means is that you're posting topics just so you can post your link to get people to go to your website. -
In BlogCatalog - in the discussion forum - where ALL discussions are seen - it is NOT appropriate to place your link on posts.
You need to read the rules.
Don't feel bad - EVERYONE does it when they first arrive.
But the forum is made for discussion and learning and teaching... Not about link dropping.
Yeah - you want people to come to your blog...
The best way to do that is to participate in the conversations and to get people interested IN YOU - so that they click on your name - and then CHOOSE to go to your blog.
OK?
Nice to meet ya tho.-
Hey sweet,
thanks for the info man
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By the way - your blog is extremely well written and funny as all get out.
I'd really rather see you in on these forums and discussing things. You're quite the riot.
I enjoyed what you expect out of a husband - and I wondered are those REAL expectations AND things that you can deliver?
I mean - is this a normal thing? A certificate of VIRGINITY?
Are you serious? Wow - how interesting is that.
Anyhow - nice to meet you - hope you hang around long enough to get to know some of these really awesome people here on BC forum.-
Hey,
Hi I am interested in knowing about you. You sound really friendly and I believe you are amicable to move with..
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Oh - and by all that is goodly - please GET YOURSELF another template.... You have the worst template for getting yourself noticed.
Hmmmm let me see......
falconhive.com
has a lot of nice downloadable blogger templates --- if you need help there are a lot of us here that can give you ideas or some form of help to get it right.
And I can help find you other templates as well.
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Thank you, perhaps I do not think that the site I use allows templates to be borrowed from outside. I think they want me to use what they provide. Anyway let me check it out..
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You are using blogger - so do I - and a lot of us here.
The link I gave you shows you how to implement the templates.
And you download it to the computer - and then you put it in the LAYOUT HTML part - Just try doing it. IF you run into problems let us know and we'll help you OK?
Make a NEW post - if you run into problems.
Make sure when you post - you explain where you're having the problems and what you are doing and what happens when you do it.
TEMPLATES are like SKINS for browsers. It doesn't change the content of what you have written - it just changes the background and the STYLE of what you have written.
Welcome to the fun world of blogging!-
That was very useful. Thanks
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"No.. It is an authenticated site.."
Now hypothetical speaking:
1. User joins forum.
2. User posts multiple threads straight away.
3. All of user's threads include links to their webpage.
Yeah, it's spam and no, I'm not visiting your page.
Personal politics. I hope you can understand. -
@ramyasadasivam
When you check you shoutbox on your BC Profile page you will find that an hour ago I left you a Welcome to BC PM. In it are the links to the guidelines for form posting and the BC New Users Group. I also left you a second PM with a link to a post from that group titled How to use BC forum categories effectively.
It's never easy being a newcomer anywhere so I tried to give you some help to get off on the right foot. Best wishes for happy blogging and effective networking.-
Thank you. So nice of you.
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You're welcome and not to worry. This thread is posted into the correct category although it does contain an unnecessary link. :-)
Admin has previously asked when members see problem threads that break forum posting guidelines that we simply click the report link and do not get into posting into threads lest our good intentions be taken as starting arguments or lecturing newcomers.
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Oh TT - I didn't know that - I thought by showing her on the threads that we kinda hit 2 birds with one stone... One - helping her. Two - teaching others that might be reading...
Hmmmm...-
@wagerwitch
I used to think they same way as you do and I used to post the link to the guidelines. However, some members were annoyed that I was doing this. They alleged that I was trying to pass myself off as an Admin member, that I was lecturing newbies, and that I was spoiling their fun. So they became b*tchy and clicked the crap out of the report button to report me and flooded Admin with emails denigrating me. No sh*t! I think Admin's advice to just use the report button is the best way to proceed and it's what we have been asked to do. -
Hmmmm funny.
Oh well - I just try to help them out - because when I first came here - I thought it was IMPORTANT to leave my signature AND link in every post that I did - not just because it would bring people in - but because it was like my business card - and gave my posts authenticity... LOL!
Dang you're fast too... LOL
I think the original was much better and honest. LOL!!!!
(and funnier too!)
Each place has it's own rules... and we all learn as we go along. -
I'm with wagerwitch on this one - and, actually quite concerned that tt (or anybody) sends newbies PM's off the bat with links in it.
The place for socializing and learning about the community is in the community - not behind closed doors.
And, of course - also ageeing with wagerwitch because it's true ... she's so "amicable to move with.." -
@petlvr4
Geesh! I sent the PM's after I saw she was posting multiple threads. I chose NOT to click the report buttons.
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Wow, you want an atheist as a husband... interesting.
I have nothing against atheists, it's a valid form of non-belief but it's an odd thing to have as selection criteria. Especially from someone from Bharat -
@ramyasadasivam
I agree with you. I think that self disclosure is extremely important in a romantic relationship. I also believe that if one partner does not feel safe enough to disclose their innermost feelings, thoughts, hopes and dreams the relationship will be fraught with problems and will end in divorce.
When you are dating it can be tempting to lean on your partner and rely on them for reassurance, but the stronger you are as an individual, the more open and honest you can be, the stronger and more equal your relationship will become.
We need to recognize that what keeps a healthy and happy relationship "alive" not physical attraction ie. lust. A foundation of respect and trust provides the safety and security for self disclosure to take place and it is the rich soil in which intimacy can grow.
When you feel confident and secure within yourself, you can enjoy being with your partner for the joy they bring to your life, not because you feel you need them to survive. Granting another person the freedom to be themselves, to stretch and grow or to wither and stagnate, is the ultimate result of intimacy; it's - unconditional love. -
@Ramya.. if you want people to visit your blog.. better not greet them with a "Goodbye, see you later" sign-
ok i will change it, because i need the directories to verify my blog..
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