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Wedding Registries

Posted by Sam1982 • 8/26/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: gifts, registry, traditions, trend change, Wedding

Do you like them? would you rather use them or buy a completely different wedding gift?

We've set up a wedding registry to go toward our honeymoon (already paid for by credit but gifts will pay it off hopefully).

It seems as though however that the older generation arent interested in registries and would rather buy things like pots, pans, platters and tea sets etc - however my argument is that couples today dont really need those things as its more common to live together before marriage and have a home already set up and dont need the home making themed gifts.

Your thoughts?

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8/26/09

Stillthinking

I have to say, my friends made out like bandits at their weddings. The registry is very helpful in that it prevents double gifting and the trips to return unwanted gifts.

I was thinking about registering for a "I'm not getting married, but I am committing myself to Spinsterhood, can you please help me so that I don't also have to live in a Cardboard box" registry.

Also, if you don't register, please be prepared to receive the inevitable cake pan in the shape of Jesus's face as a gift along with several sets of candles wrapped in lace.

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1. 8/26/09
  
  Sam1982
  
  Thats too true, and it wouldnt just be double gifting we have to worry about, as its the brides second wedding we already have most of those sorts of crap presents gathering dust in the back of the cupboard
8/26/09

LolitaV

i wish registries were "accepted" in my community. sadly if you set up one, you are looked at as an opportunist and they will still disregard it and get you $$ or whatever they wish.

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8/26/09

legbamel

I did a registry for my bridal shower, on the request of my mother-in-law, because it was a "party" dedicated to a particular brand of kitchen goods. It definitely helped for people who couldn't attend but still wanted to give us something to avoid double-gifting. When I'm shopping for someone else I like to have an idea of what they like but I'd prefer to surprise them with something unusual.

Still, I'd be happy to donate a cat dish to your non-wedded bliss, if you're working your way up to "crazy cat lady" status. Otherwise, we've got a cappuccino machine that we've never used. (The biggest pitfall of having lived separately before you move in together--duplicate small appliances.)

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1. 8/26/09
  
  Stillthinking
  
  Legbamel,
  
  I accept your offer of both cappuccino machine and cat dish. My cat thanks you has the rubber footing off her bowl as come loose and it now scoots around the floor while she is trying to eat.
  
  I do require that the cappuccino machine be the size of a postage stamp as my studio apartment does not have the counter space for anything larger than my a single cup saucer.
2. 8/26/09
  
  legbamel
  
  By "postage stamp", do you mean a reproduction of one that you may hang on the wall, perhaps eight inches square?
3. 8/26/09
  
  Stillthinking
  
  Ah, that wouldn't work either as my walls are made of crumbling loose plaster strung together with an understructure made of 50 year old mold.
8/26/09

MidwestMom

@Sam
My husband and I were married after we'd already lived on our own for several years, so I know what you're saying... We didn't need a can opener.

I think registering for your honeymoon is a great idea. We also had fun letting my husband register for whatever he wanted from Home Depot. It was a good way to let his guy friends buy him some cool tools (he even got an air compressor!) so their gifts weren't testosterone challenged. (no lace candlesticks here!)

Best wishes!

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1. 8/26/09
  
  Sam1982
  
  Thats not such a bad Idea, although I dont see my other half buying it, despite building things around the house she still gets amazed when I actually use tools, stating that she didn't think I knew how to use them.
  
  She'd be more inclined to want to get a registry for baking materials
2. 8/26/09
  
  MidwestMom
  
  I didn't mind him getting tools, provided he would use them. As for me, I registered for the biggest, fluffiest towels I could find. There's nothing like good towels.
  
  I say, let her have hers, too. That way, each of you gets some of the things you might really want/use. And Aunt Henrietta doesn't get the idea that you'd fancy his & hers monogrammed ash trays in the shape of a human heart.
8/26/09

celticmusicfan

Hahahaha pots and pans. Oh yes I heard my relatives murmur about it but they can't say it . i agree with you.

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