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What do women find wrong with men having ego

Posted by crazyTsu • 9/01/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: ego, interpersonal relations

How do you define ego, as a man and as a woman. Why do women complain of men's ego? I think that if women understand men better they really never ever find a way to complain
Or maybe that's just my view. So I want to invite the women to share their views

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9/01/09

crazyTsu

10 minutes, no answer.. should I take it as "nothing"? :-) .. in that case I would like to see some phone numbers?

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9/01/09

Anthe

I don't think there is anything wrong with a man's ego. As I don't think there is anything wrong with a woman's ego.

What might be troublesome is an inflated ego, but a healthy ego is perfectly fine I think, in my opinion even essential.

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1. 9/01/09
  
  crazyTsu
  
  Yes, absolutely. What's a guy without ego? He has ego because he knows he can contribute something unique in this world.. for if that were not, what would be his worth?
9/01/09

ThriftShopRomantic

Having self-esteem is a positive thing. But when your ego is so excessive that your existence is built around new ways to gain adoration, it makes you an incomplete person. It prevents you from seeing other people as anything other than a reflection of yourself and your needs. And that's personality disorder.

It's not male or female specific, though I understand psychologists believe it's more common in men.

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1. 9/01/09
  
  crazyTsu
  
  "when your ego is so excessive that your existence is built around new ways to gain adoration"
  
  Wow, a long leash that. You mean you've come across those types?
2. 9/01/09
  
  ThriftShopRomantic
  
  Yes, absolutely. It's called Narcissistic Personality Disorder. If you Google that, you'll find there's a certain chunk of the populace that has it, and it's all based on the person's constant (meaning all-day every day) need to be reinforced by everyone else that they're exceptional. They only view others as a means to that end, so it can be very difficult to work with them or live with them.
  
  Typically they come in two types-- the outgoing successful actor/doctor/business person type. And the introverted "misunderstood" intellectual.
9/01/09

HollytheHousewife

Are you talking about the men with egos,who think they're gods gift to the female population, well there is something wrong with that.

If you're talking about a confident man who doesn't need constant reassuring that he's a "man" well that's a good ego.

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1. 9/01/09
  
  crazyTsu
  
  Well if someone thinks he is God's gift then maybe there is some justification for his thinking so. Maybe he IS a Mr. popular among the ladies? Why wouldn't you like to admit that
9/01/09

Funkkeejooce

Confidence, ego, etc. if in moderation, is healthy. We need those traits for our own self-belief and to be able to accept and love ourselves. Like anything else if it is in moderation, there's no harm.

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9/01/09

lotusb

My perspective? I think that while women have tremendous pressure and our path in life is paved with several emotional and physically draining challenges, Men are typically the ones expected to hold the world on their backs. They are supposed to be tough, non-emotional, take care of their families or gf or wives, so on... I think witht that kind of pressure and little ego is in order. I happily stoke my man's ego...along with whatever else he wants stroked.

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1. 9/01/09
  
  crazyTsu
  
  LOL .. I like that ".. along with whatever else he wants stroked"
9/01/09

crazyTsu

Well so far few disagreements... I got to show this to someone I know ;-)

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