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What do you do if a person keeps coming on to you? You can let go. I wouldn't blink an eye!

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  1. Empath
    Your post is confusing.

    I'm wondering if I've (inadvertently) clicked into the middle of a conversation.

    Otherwise, if someone keeps coming on to you and you've told them, "No," they might be scary in a dumb way. I'd get away from them.

    Or, is this a joke that I'm missing?

    :O
  2. footiam
    Maybe, you are right. This question comes from my other posting: What do you do if people keep on coming to you for financial help? A blogger read the first part of the question and thought of giving his opinion but stop short. Maybe, I should rephrase the question:

    What do you do if people coming on to you for a physically intimate relationship with no string attached?
    1. DoubleTake
      I would start going to church. That would make me an instant believe.
    2. infonistacrat
      I suppose I would be busy trying to keep my wife from killing her on the spot! And if someone were to do that to my wife? God better have mercy on his ass, cause I won't.
  3. crpitt
    Give them a slap
    1. monkeytale
      Claire, you li'l vixen, you!!! lol

    2. crpitt
      What did you expect me to say?
      Jump on?

    3. monkeytale
      Is it okay to refer to you as Tigger now?

    4. crpitt
      At your peril
    5. footiam
      Ouch! Box his ears too!
    6. Rich
      There have been times I wish I could have used your answer.
  4. scorpy01
    Someone comes on to me? I pay them.
    1. footiam
      I rather be paid. Why give someone fun for free?
  5. monkeytale
    At my age, if that were to happen, I'd probably have a stroke/heart attack. Us old, frail, feeble minded types just couldn't handle that.
    1. footiam
      It's good to go feeling wanted!
  6. crkian
    Point them to my wife, not sure what she would do if the woman come onto her though.....
    1. footiam
      Play it by the ear!
  7. Tigger
    I tell them about my blog.

    www.soggycornflakes.com/celebrities

    No... really. I do. Read it and find out why.
    1. Tigger
      Did anyone read it... If you did... Well Done.

      You are blessed
    2. footiam
      That's a good idea. Maybe, they'll forget about you for a while!
    3. footiam
      Thanks for introducing. Have entered.
  8. MadameX
    Walk away. A person who won't respect your decisions in one area isn't going to respect them at all.
    1. footiam
      I guess so, MadameX. There are nicer people around!
  9. monkeytale
    Well, I suppose if this is a recurring problem for you, you could always try going without showering/bathing for a few days. Should solve the problem.

    1. footiam
      Some people like natural odor!
  10. awannabe
    I've tried telling them I'm married. It doesn't work though.
    1. footiam
      Try giving them a tight slap
  11. acousticguitarist
    I starting telling them how beautiful my wife is
    1. footiam
      Well, some people just don't care whether you are married, your wife is beautiful or not and they just come ...
  12. Unfettered
    Kick him in the the _____?
    1. footiam
      That's a good idea. Just kick, it doesn't mean it has to be there!
    2. Unfettered
      lol! Too true.
  13. robinsonjoel
    Tell them straight in their face. Speaking about it, I've been attacked by homosexuals as a kid(thankfully, they didn't do any adverse harm to me) and the last time was when I was 20. I told that fellow straight in his face in the public(he tried to feel me in the public) to f**k off!
    1. footiam
      You must have sex appeal!
  14. mellowedblues
    It depends. I think there are lots of things to think about when this happens.

    Why this person is coming on to you? Money? Some elaborate plot to brainwash you to assassinate a political leader?
    Are you attracted to that person?
    Are you currently attached to someone? If you are, do you think it's wrong to cheat on your someone with another person? Can you live with it?
    Will there be repercussions if you succumbed to the other person's charms?

    So many questions.
  15. Puffmatty
    I ask them if they got the right person~!
    1. footiam
      You are the right person!
  16. genopianist54
    ask him on a date and show your WORST date behavior... hahahaha... (hmm... done that) YAHAHAHA...
    1. footiam
      That would be sweet revenge. Mu ha ha ha. Oh! We are both so wicked!
  17. riverstyxxx
    Tell him you have AIDS/Herpes/Gonnorhea/Syphilis.

    Or better yet, three simple words: I Am Gay.
    1. footiam
      The one who come could be bisexual, you know.
    2. riverstyxxx
      Do you want my help or not?
  18. footiam
    Sure, sure! Telling the guy about AIds would be good enough!
  19. ghostytwofish
    I should have your problems. :/
  20. Fashionisto
    I let them come, then they realize it was a big mistake, and I'm complicated, selfish, irresponsible and afraid of commitment.... but damn I dress good.
  21. TheMrs
    I guess it depends. How strongly is this person pushing him/herself onto you?

    One of my good friends says I have that 'get the hell away from me' look, down pat? I dunno. I thought I looked friendly (not friendly/friendly.. but I digress...)but regardless, I don't have that problem. I used to, until I turned into a cranky old bat.
    1. footiam
      Oh! Maybe, we should put on that 'get the hell away from me look'!
    2. jafabrit
      yep, there is a benefit to being a cranky old bat LOL! Well unless you get a cranky old codger thinking he can score and tries to pick you up at the church art exhibit and then "it isn't a get the hell away look" ITS the look of horror and disgust that sends them packing.
  22. footiam
    There is nothing wrong with cranky old bat right; as long as we feel comfortable with it!
  23. TheMrs
    Oh sure. Everyone should be comfortable with who they are. And if we're being honest, I'm not really *that* old, or batty.. but I AM a crank.



    Anyway, so what is this problem (be specific as is humanly possible) with someone pushing themselves on you? You never said, really. Unless my ADD is getting in the way again.
    1. footiam
      There's nothing wrong with a crank either. No, it's not a problem at all - nobody is doing any pushing!
  24. samfreedom
    If it's a woman, I put her over my shoulder and carry her up to my bed. If it's a guy, I call his wife and tell her he's gay.
    1. footiam
      Good idea!
  25. zzkang
    shut up and look at other direction...if still cannot get rid of him/her, i will ask him/her to get lost...
  26. genopianist54
    Oh.. shoot i thought this thread is long gone.. footiam, hey, now i've no idea how to say no to someone (a friend of mine).. she asks me to be her girlfriend (*shocked).. not that i don't respect to lesbians/gay (pardon me) but, she know that i'm a straight..

    Any advice? huhuuuuu..
  27. filmasia
    ignore, ignore and keep ignoring until he gives up
    1. footiam
      Some people don't give up!
  28. morgantj
    be flattered.
  29. gosmelltheflowers
    Wipe it up, sharpish.
  30. angryasiancookie
    let your brother get you a personal bodyguard who tally and tails you every minute *sigh* read my posts www.angryasiancookie.blogspot.com
    1. footiam
      That would cost money!
  31. myriadlife
    Don't wash, wear the same clothes for a week or more, pick your nose in front of them, burp a lot and look very bored. If they don't get the message or disappear in horror, then you have a stalker and need to keep a diary for the police.
  32. LGramlich
    Tell them flat out that you're not interested & to beat it (pardon the pun, of course...) If they persist, get a restraining order against them.
  33. calais50
    All you can do is say you're not interested and ignore them as much as possible. I do not get a lot of nonsense from men, b/c to be perfectly honest, I am not the easiest person to approach. I've been told I'm scary. Imagine that, lol.
    1. Anok
      You ?!?!?!?!

      Heh I'm told i"m scary quite often too....but the way I dress and walk - yeah, - I can see that.

      But you see so sweet, and...sweet!
    2. calais50
      Lol, I can see that too. ninjas are friggin scary.
      I think I'm sweet, but people who don't know me well assume I'm snobby and not friendly. And some people are afraid of saying something factually incorrect in front of me, like I will think they're not very smart or something, which is kind of embarrassing b/c I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable. If someone asks a question and I know the answer, I will tell them, but I don't go spouting off info like an encyclopedia.
  34. voodooKobra
    Personally, so long as they're not disgusting or STD-infected, I would use them for a one-night stand and never talk to them again if they kept ignoring the hint that I'm not interested. It fucks with their head.

    As for what YOU should do, read up on psychology. (Make them not want you.)
  35. myriadlife
    Ah, but if you are attracted to them - what then? Are you just in denial?

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