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What do you do if a person keeps coming on to you?

Posted by footiam • 10/07/07 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
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What do you do if a person keeps coming on to you? You can let go. I wouldn't blink an eye!

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10/07/07

Empath

Your post is confusing.

I'm wondering if I've (inadvertently) clicked into the middle of a conversation.

Otherwise, if someone keeps coming on to you and you've told them, "No," they might be scary in a dumb way. I'd get away from them.

Or, is this a joke that I'm missing?

:O

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10/08/07

footiam

Maybe, you are right. This question comes from my other posting: What do you do if people keep on coming to you for financial help? A blogger read the first part of the question and thought of giving his opinion but stop short. Maybe, I should rephrase the question:

What do you do if people coming on to you for a physically intimate relationship with no string attached?

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1. 10/08/07
  
  DoubleTake
  
  I would start going to church. That would make me an instant believe.
2. 10/08/07
  
  infonistacrat
  
  I suppose I would be busy trying to keep my wife from killing her on the spot! And if someone were to do that to my wife? God better have mercy on his ass, cause I won't.
10/08/07

crpitt

Give them a slap

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1. 10/08/07
  
  monkeytale
  
  Claire, you li'l vixen, you!!! lol
2. 10/08/07
  
  footiam
  
  Oh!
3. 10/08/07
  
  crpitt
  
  What did you expect me to say?
  Jump on?
4. 10/08/07
  
  monkeytale
  
  Is it okay to refer to you as Tigger now?
5. 10/08/07
  
  crpitt
  
  At your peril
6. 10/08/07
  
  footiam
  
  Ouch! Box his ears too!
7. 2/02/08
  
  Rich
  
  There have been times I wish I could have used your answer.
10/08/07

scorpy01

Someone comes on to me? I pay them.

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1. 10/09/07
  
  footiam
  
  I rather be paid. Why give someone fun for free?
10/08/07

monkeytale

At my age, if that were to happen, I'd probably have a stroke/heart attack. Us old, frail, feeble minded types just couldn't handle that.

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1. 10/10/07
  
  footiam
  
  It's good to go feeling wanted!
10/08/07

crkian

Point them to my wife, not sure what she would do if the woman come onto her though.....

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1. 10/11/07
  
  footiam
  
  Play it by the ear!
10/09/07

Tigger

I tell them about my blog.

www.soggycornflakes.com/celebrities

No... really. I do. Read it and find out why.

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1. 10/09/07
  
  Tigger
  
  Did anyone read it... If you did... Well Done.
  
  You are blessed
2. 10/12/07
  
  footiam
  
  That's a good idea. Maybe, they'll forget about you for a while!
3. 10/15/07
  
  footiam
  
  Thanks for introducing. Have entered.
10/09/07

MadameX

Walk away. A person who won't respect your decisions in one area isn't going to respect them at all.

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1. 10/15/07
  
  footiam
  
  I guess so, MadameX. There are nicer people around!
10/09/07

monkeytale

Well, I suppose if this is a recurring problem for you, you could always try going without showering/bathing for a few days. Should solve the problem.

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1. 10/22/07
  
  footiam
  
  Some people like natural odor!
10/09/07

awannabe

I've tried telling them I'm married. It doesn't work though.

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1. 12/05/07
  
  footiam
  
  Try giving them a tight slap
10/22/07

acousticguitarist

I starting telling them how beautiful my wife is

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1. 11/07/07
  
  footiam
  
  Well, some people just don't care whether you are married, your wife is beautiful or not and they just come ...
12/05/07

Unfettered

Kick him in the the _____?

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1. 12/05/07
  
  footiam
  
  That's a good idea. Just kick, it doesn't mean it has to be there!
2. 12/05/07
  
  Unfettered
  
  lol! Too true.
12/05/07

robinsonjoel

Tell them straight in their face. Speaking about it, I've been attacked by homosexuals as a kid(thankfully, they didn't do any adverse harm to me) and the last time was when I was 20. I told that fellow straight in his face in the public(he tried to feel me in the public) to f**k off!

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1. 1/09/08
  
  footiam
  
  You must have sex appeal!
1/09/08

mellowedblues

It depends. I think there are lots of things to think about when this happens.

Why this person is coming on to you? Money? Some elaborate plot to brainwash you to assassinate a political leader?
Are you attracted to that person?
Are you currently attached to someone? If you are, do you think it's wrong to cheat on your someone with another person? Can you live with it?
Will there be repercussions if you succumbed to the other person's charms?

So many questions.

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1/09/08

Puffmatty

I ask them if they got the right person~!

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1. 3/04/08
  
  footiam
  
  You are the right person!
1/09/08

genopianist54

ask him on a date and show your WORST date behavior... hahahaha... (hmm... done that) YAHAHAHA...

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1. 2/01/08
  
  footiam
  
  That would be sweet revenge. Mu ha ha ha. Oh! We are both so wicked!
2/02/08

riverstyxxx

Tell him you have AIDS/Herpes/Gonnorhea/Syphilis.

Or better yet, three simple words: I Am Gay.

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1. 2/02/08
  
  footiam
  
  The one who come could be bisexual, you know.
2. 2/02/08
  
  riverstyxxx
  
  Do you want my help or not?
2/02/08

footiam

Sure, sure! Telling the guy about AIds would be good enough!

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3/04/08

ghostytwofish

I should have your problems. :/

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3/04/08

Fashionisto

I let them come, then they realize it was a big mistake, and I'm complicated, selfish, irresponsible and afraid of commitment.... but damn I dress good.

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3/04/08

TheMrs

I guess it depends. How strongly is this person pushing him/herself onto you?

One of my good friends says I have that 'get the hell away from me' look, down pat? I dunno. I thought I looked friendly (not friendly/friendly.. but I digress...)but regardless, I don't have that problem. I used to, until I turned into a cranky old bat.

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1. 3/04/08
  
  footiam
  
  Oh! Maybe, we should put on that 'get the hell away from me look'!
2. 3/04/08
  
  jafabrit
  
  yep, there is a benefit to being a cranky old bat LOL! Well unless you get a cranky old codger thinking he can score and tries to pick you up at the church art exhibit and then "it isn't a get the hell away look" ITS the look of horror and disgust that sends them packing.
3/04/08

footiam

There is nothing wrong with cranky old bat right; as long as we feel comfortable with it!

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3/05/08

TheMrs

Oh sure. Everyone should be comfortable with who they are. And if we're being honest, I'm not really *that* old, or batty.. but I AM a crank.

Anyway, so what is this problem (be specific as is humanly possible) with someone pushing themselves on you? You never said, really. Unless my ADD is getting in the way again.

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1. 3/05/08
  
  footiam
  
  There's nothing wrong with a crank either. No, it's not a problem at all - nobody is doing any pushing!
3/05/08

samfreedom

If it's a woman, I put her over my shoulder and carry her up to my bed. If it's a guy, I call his wife and tell her he's gay.

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1. 3/22/08
  
  footiam
  
  Good idea!
3/05/08

zzkang

shut up and look at other direction...if still cannot get rid of him/her, i will ask him/her to get lost...

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3/22/08

genopianist54

Oh.. shoot i thought this thread is long gone.. footiam, hey, now i've no idea how to say no to someone (a friend of mine).. she asks me to be her girlfriend (*shocked).. not that i don't respect to lesbians/gay (pardon me) but, she know that i'm a straight..

Any advice? huhuuuuu..

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3/22/08

filmasia

ignore, ignore and keep ignoring until he gives up

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1. 3/22/08
  
  footiam
  
  Some people don't give up!
3/22/08

morgantj

be flattered.

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1. 19 days ago
  
  footiam
  
  Be positive is a good idea!
3/22/08

gosmelltheflowers

Wipe it up, sharpish.

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3/22/08

angryasiancookie

let your brother get you a personal bodyguard who tally and tails you every minute *sigh* read my posts www.angryasiancookie.blogspot.com

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1. 8/04/08
  
  footiam
  
  That would cost money!
8/04/08

myriadlife

Don't wash, wear the same clothes for a week or more, pick your nose in front of them, burp a lot and look very bored. If they don't get the message or disappear in horror, then you have a stalker and need to keep a diary for the police.

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8/04/08

LGramlich

Tell them flat out that you're not interested & to beat it (pardon the pun, of course...) If they persist, get a restraining order against them.

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8/04/08

calais50

All you can do is say you're not interested and ignore them as much as possible. I do not get a lot of nonsense from men, b/c to be perfectly honest, I am not the easiest person to approach. I've been told I'm scary. Imagine that, lol.

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1. 8/04/08
  
  Anok
  
  You ?!?!?!?!
  
  Heh I'm told i"m scary quite often too....but the way I dress and walk - yeah, - I can see that.
  
  But you see so sweet, and...sweet!
2. 8/04/08
  
  calais50
  
  Lol, I can see that too. ninjas are friggin scary.
  I think I'm sweet, but people who don't know me well assume I'm snobby and not friendly. And some people are afraid of saying something factually incorrect in front of me, like I will think they're not very smart or something, which is kind of embarrassing b/c I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable. If someone asks a question and I know the answer, I will tell them, but I don't go spouting off info like an encyclopedia.
8/04/08

voodooKobra

Personally, so long as they're not disgusting or STD-infected, I would use them for a one-night stand and never talk to them again if they kept ignoring the hint that I'm not interested. It fucks with their head.

As for what YOU should do, read up on psychology. (Make them not want you.)

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8/04/08

myriadlife

Ah, but if you are attracted to them - what then? Are you just in denial?

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1. 1/12/09
  
  footiam
  
  Good question, yriadlife. Maybe, in this case, we'll be the one who keep on coming to that person!
1/12/09

idealpinkrose

call the police...hehe...

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1/12/09

ranist22

Run.

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1/12/09

MadMadMargo

There's a fine line between someone coming on to you and sexual harassment. Regardless, if in the workplace or otherwise, you have the right to be comfortable in your environment.

I would suggest you put this person on notice: "I'm uncomfortable with your persistence in pursuing me. I am not interested in having a relationship with you and I'm asking you to stop this unwanted attention immediately."

Good luck!

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1/12/09

witewood

I'd let her know I'd be very happy to give her some of my time...and then I really must get the results of my tests from the clinic

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1/12/09

LynneaUrania

If at work, I warn them about sexual harassment and the legal consequenses. I haven't had any trouble when doing that.

If at a public establishment, I introduce that person to my Marine boyfriend, if that is indeed what it is. That puts everything into context. Then I might dance with that person.

If elsewhere and evidently not a sexual thing, my tendency is to comfort, because apart from everything else, I am very free with affection.

I do not speak to people on the street of my city, especially people in automobiles. I have literally turned down 3500 over the past 6 years in Santa Ana and have been approached by as many as 19 when walking to the local library to study.

I do not

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1/12/09

Hermster

This happens often in town to me. After explaining to the women I don't pay for sex they seem to leave me alone : 0

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1. 8/20/09
  
  footiam
  
  JThey are after your money, not you!
19 days ago

MissSuzie

If a person keeps coming on to me after I've said no, I fork them (or kick them in the nuts).

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19 days ago

HollytheHousewife

If I've said NO,I ignore them

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19 days ago

Agit8r

this problem plagues me all the time. Yeah, that's the ticket...

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19 days ago

HollytheHousewife

Well u must be some little tro...I mean gnome

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1. 19 days ago
  
  Agit8r
  
  you seem grumpy today
2. 19 days ago
  
  HollytheHousewife
  
  Wow...TED!!!
3. 19 days ago
  
  Agit8r
  
  you know what they say about grumpy people...
4. 19 days ago
  
  HollytheHousewife
  
  No,what????
  
  And I'm not grumpy
5. 19 days ago
  
  Agit8r
  
  www.blogcatalog.com/discuss/entry/what-do-you-so-when-your-so-is-in-a-bad-m...
6. 19 days ago
  
  HollytheHousewife
  
  Well then I better just go do that.
19 days ago

nothingprofound

I say, "Your place or mine."

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1. 19 days ago
  
  footiam
  
  Mmm..mm...that gives me an idea. Maybe, I'll say I can take it right here!
19 days ago

FredSr2009

To some it depends on how hot they are, Me, I would tell them I'm taken.

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19 days ago

dbowles1017

I usually give in

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19 days ago

crazyTsu

If she does turn me on I might consider

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19 days ago

brianomaracroft

A good castration tends to send a fairly unambiguous message.

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