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Tell them to stuff envelopes!-
I may consider stuffing toilet tissues down his throat! Thanks!
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Only lend what you can afford to give.-
I can only afford kind words!
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Leave a link and nothing more-
That's a real great idea. It still shows you care!
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I call those people creditors & I hang up on them (or change my address).-
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Imao?
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Yes, why not. Better than hanging ourselves, right?
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they keep coming back? tell them to use Adsense and sit and wait. (evil laugh)
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Must teach him to blog first!
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tell them to check out paul blackburn-
who is paul blackburn?
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originally I thought the heading said "what do you do if a person keeps coming on to you?" and I missed the next bit..i was ready to let loose with a few comments and then I reread it
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I think I pose that question right away! Let go there!
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Be firm. Explain that your giving money to others doesn't *actually* solve their problems.-
The strange thing is the one who wants help is always firmer. Yes, We must be firmer.
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To be honest, I never was the type of person to ask anyone for money, either I worked for it, or did without.
Sometimes i wonder what goes through a persons mind when they are knowingly using a person as a cashcow.
It's happened to me and I separated myself from the person. I was in debt because of lending, and giving money to a person who had a gambling problem and just good at manilpulation.
My advice is to let them know you can't help unless they help themselves and it's not easy if that person is someone close to you.
Just glad my family has more money than I do. lmao-
Yeah, people sometimes think we owe them something. Maybe, it's good to tell them off. We can't be kind to others by being unkind to ourselves.
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Give them monopoly money
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That's kind! Why didn't I think of that! Everyone can have fun!
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Whenever my brother calls me to borrow some money, I usually reply with something like ..
Oh Crap~ I was going to ask you to float me $50 until the weekend .. There goes *THAT* idea .. and then, hang up the phone-
You are brilliant! Why didn't I think of that?
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I tell them that I will give them the money but first they have to:
List their frivilous expenses, cancel automated subscriptions and call and negotiate payments with their current bills.
Then ask them what they have that they can sell or pawn.
Then I'll give them some money or the rest if they still need it.
I never lend money I just gift it out if it is for something important like food, rent, utilities.
Most people can't deal with the listing of frivilous expenses part and find the money somehow without asking me again.
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Wow! You have to earn for your money! That's very sensible. It's not that you are not willing to help. You are not willing to be taken for a ride. That's great!
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I call them type of people children. But since it really isn't done too often, I'm usually pleased to help them out.-
You are very kind but sometimes, a person must also be able to afford it. And of course, I would not want to be taken for a ride. I wonder if you mind that - taken for a ride or even this- mistreated by a someone whom you have helped.
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Send them to me and they can get busy going to work-
People have to work for their money! Yes!
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But really, people don't always come to you for that, do they?
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Many people are in the habit of asking for money from almost everyone they know.
Next time they contact you and ask you for money....just reverse the situation on them, tell them some ficitious story and ask THEM for money!
They will run like hell!-
What a great idea! We must learn to ask sometimes!
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give directions to the local pay-for-plasma center -
I would just say if I won the lottery I would be glad to help but until then my budget doesn't allow for it
Confused about the link though, what do they have to do with it?-
I am surprised to see the link there too. Didn't put it there!
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How weird! well that answers my question.
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Just help him.. if you have the money. If you don't, say sorry and reject him politely..
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A friend in need can be a pest indeed. -
Tell them to get a job. -
Just say no! then give them a hug so you don't feel so guilty. -
Be pleasant understand thier situation. Understand that they are humbling them self to come to you. however be true and tell them its straining you financially and that they need to find another job or extra jobs. the stress of helping them has put you in a financially uncomfortable spot and they will need to do same work for them self-
Sometimes, the words just won't come out.
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This was originally posted back in October 2007. 07! How long do these things stay active around here?
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Really don't know. It can't go on forever, I am sure!
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Ignore him.-
Some people just don't give up!
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it is always good to help; however, it is better to help those who help themselves first
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We don't have to help people who help themselves. We get help from them!
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If you think you're being abused, keep on ignoring... -
Say "no."
And stick to it.
No excuses, no explanations, nothing more. Just "no."
If you've lent money before, the person will likely try repeatedly, sometimes with great intervals between, but the bottom line is, nobody can take advantage of you without your agreement.
Say "no."
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I had a guy friend who would always ask for money. I felt bad for him and gave him $100 several times, never asking for it back. But the last time I did this (which was supposed to be going towards car problems) he confessed that he spent the money I gave him, and money his mom gave him to buy 100 porn videos. I decided right then and there that that would be the LAST time I would give him money. The last time he called for money I just didn't call back.-
LoL.
What kind of a moron borrows money to buy porn videos! -
what kind of a morron buys porn dvds when THEY CAN WATCH IT FOR FREE BY GOOGLING FREE P*RN?!!!
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Spiritually, we were taught not to turn our back to those who are need, but God also teaches us that we should deny. He helps us to say "yes" in some situations and "no" to others.-
That sounds so human.
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this is the best thread i ever saw in BC, seriously!!!
I will kindly give them a link to my blog. At this point, this is the only "relief" I can give them
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Giving a link is a good idea!
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teach him to browse internet! see Im not botherin anyone..except you ppl! -
you should let the person know the real situation. It is fine once or twice and that too if he returns it in time. Otherwise, he should go read Robert Kiyosaki.
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