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What do you do when you are angry?
Posted by dialoguewithyou • 7/06/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: anger, attitude, bloggers, lifestyle
When something or someone makes you real angry, how do you react to the impulse?
What do you usually do when you are angry?
How good are you in controlling your temper?
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hit the wall with my fist? nah that's too masculine.play music would do. -
I can't help but hold it in - I take a deep breath and shake it off and let it eat me from the inside. Not always the best solution but no one else gets their feelings hurt in return-
I can't remember the time when I was totally angry. I can't control my self. I really hate fake people that makes my temper high.
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Usually kick a cat.
No. I usually take a walk, if it is possible. -
I turn into the Hulk. "Hulk smash!"-
You to? -
Yeah, once the Hulk is unleashed, there's no stopping it. But, it takes a lot to make the Hulk come out.
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If I'm real angry, I disengage. I walk away until I cool down. Being angry is a choice I'm making, so I have to assess whether the particular situation is worth getting involved in or not.-
That is what I do as well. You don't go down to the level just because that person offends.
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@ nothingprofound
I wish I had your kind of patience
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When something or someone makes you real angry, how do you react to the impulse?
The only things that really make me angry warrant an ass kicking. Thus I deliver one.
What do you usually do when you are angry?
Ass kicking.
How good are you in controlling your temper?
Extremely. There are only 1 or 2 things that make me lose it. -
i confront whoever made me angry.-
same as me
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I third that... and later control anger so -
I go up... higher up... until I can see the bigger picture.. I can do it because I am a bird ;-)
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well you are brave
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at times I cannot control my tears when am real annoyed
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i learned long ago that people treat you however you allow them to. I am not brave, just not scared anymore
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- at times I cannot control my tears when am real annoyed
Same here.
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I turn into the Green Giant and overcharge people for veggies :O
Nah I just bottle it in and it seems to vanish on it's own when I realize the uselessness of anger. -
- I walk away (usually I'm crying) and I keep walking until I have my breathing under control, the tears have stopped, and I feel calm again. After I am calm and provided I still wish to have this person in my life, I will confront the person.
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in my opinion, you have to confront the person and it doesn't have to be violent or loud. U are my opposite I cry after, when the person isn't looking
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- Sometimes I find that confrontation is the right way to go and sometimes "failing to engage" is a better choice for me. I think it depends on the situation and the people involved.
I don't bother to confront and then negotiate with anyone I no longer intend to be in contact with. I simply state why I will not be in contact with them anymore and that's that.
Life is too short for me to choose to hang onto bitterness and allow it to poison me, so I quietly forgive them and gain back the power I gave away to them when I chose to let their remarks offend me in the first place, and I move on. -
I agree timethief.
It takes a lot to get me angry to begin with, but it always stems from hurt.
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oh sh*t I also cry. something wrong with me?
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no, men who cry are just sensitive. THAT is a good thing (unless you are sensitive and weak, lol) (jk)
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When I am really truly angry (very rare by the way) I am usually too upset to do much of anything other than scream and cry.
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I too do the same at times .
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I go quiet, very quiet.
Sometimes in a menacing way, sometimes in a sad little puppy way.
Very good at controlling my temper, but sometimes bad at letting go of the resentment that the angry feeling has left.-
Oh no, that's how I get when I passed over angry and hit "I will never forgive you, you stupid whore" point.
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I am actually normally more annoyed at myself for getting angry, than with the actual person or inanimate object (misbehaving computer or lost object etc).
In the past it would of been easier to slap certain people silly, instead of thinking about them so much.
Now I just drop people like hot potatoes if they are toxic.
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I think anger is always my responsibility, not the other person's. So it's an opportunity for reflection and introspection.
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I am never that patient with my temper soaring to be able to reflect then and there.
Though I do that few moments after als calm again
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I say words such as, S**t! F**k! a lot! I bang things and if you have made my blood boil then I clean like a mad woman.-
haha! that's me! Except I'm also bawling like a baby while I'm cleaning
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It really depends on who the person is. Sometimes I hold it in and fume. Other times, I'm surprisingly calm when expressing what I'm angry about and why.
After all, it's not always wise to let your tongue loose.
I have to be pretty frustrated to have to raise my voice, but I've done it on quite a few occasions (more so in the past than now, however) -
ok the worst situation that i could be in would be humiliation. when i was younger i got so humiliated that i thrashed my room.broke my banjo to pieces and ripped the books to shreds but that was before. now it is a mix. on better days i do what any thinking druid would do and do it the zen way. on bad days i kick some asses but end up regretting it. i should probably devide my self into two and favour the more pleasant one. but i could not do that.
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You're a druid? I met a druid once, but he moved. Never did see him again, but he was a pretty good guy. Knowledgeable, too.
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nah i am trying to be a druid but that is not possible due to my conflicting personalities sigh.
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keep drinking -
I'm usually good at controlling my temper, but i love to swear a lot-
me too!
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I swear even when I'm not angry.
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Yea u do monkey man -
I just go off on who I'm mad @
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You want to know what is sad? I clean. No kidding. I know, I'm hard core.-
that's funny I clean when I'm sad,I always turn on the stereo and for some reason cleaning makes me feel better...
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that's the most helpful anger i have ever heard.you rock.
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I agree with you celticmusicfan
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I take a shower then went to sleep. -
I tend to write, the most seething emotional shit, then it's all out and I once again have avoided going to prison for not committing homicide -
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Awww poor kitten.
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Yes poor kitty,kitty
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I just take a galss of cold water and lay down on the bed to control my anger. -
i try to control my anger. earler i used to drink a glass of water, but after reading a few very good tips by a friend i have understood a little bit how to manage my anger.
she said, when we get mad at a person, instead of thinking "why did he/she did it..." we may change the way of thinking by "she would not have done it if she had proper schooling .." etc etc.
this change of thinking is helping me a lot. -
I go exercise.
Afterward, I drink rooibos tea. -
I go around him/her by whistling a seperation song...-
interesting
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I say bad things, cried, and regret it later. -
We do the 'angry dance' as seen in Footloose and more recently performed by Zac Efron in High School Musical 2...ahhh what a performance... can you believe he turned down the role for the remake of Footloose?!-
that's definitely something very different
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I bottle up my anger and then I shout and scream. -
I talk about the problem with family and friends. I do something I love like write, chat, sleep, or watch tv.
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that's a good approach
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I play darts. His/her picture as target... -
music or hit up the beach -
My face becomes deformed and my friends throw money at me to dance.
I'm thinking turning on music but my angry state memories just never stays. Meh.-
People who write "meh" make me UNCONTROLLABLY ANGRY!!!!
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i pray to superman. -
I take a deep breath and try to rationalise the source of the anger. Then I put my ipod on, stick 'eye of the tiger' and imagine I am boxing the source of the anger -
I sleep, listen to music or watch tv. -
try to control my anger, keep mum. try to forget -
I seek revenge. It always makes me feel better.-
Do you seek revenge on nerds?
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I don't discriminate -- I seek revenge on whoever deserves it.
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I too find myself doing that at times
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I don't get angry very often...but my friend has pointed out to me that when someone I'm pissed off with is at my house I don't offer them tea! Stereotypically British!
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I go into my room, lock the door and scream extremely loud! Then I walk back out and I'm fine! -
It depends. Now I just type in all caps on my blog (just kidding). Usually it has to do with sports games so for some reason I tend to go outside and (if I was watching the Phillies) throw a baseball as hard as I can at the shed or something. -
I dunno...I think I drool! LOL! -
SMOOKING-
smooking?
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I just keep quiet and walk away. -
I normally stay away from people around me . Afraid that I will show my anger towards them. -
Depends on who Im angry at:
To my sons I spank them.
To my wife I take a shower.
To my colleague I discuss.
To someone in the bar I try my best to control my anger.
To myself I feel sorry. -
Depends on who Im angry at:
To my sons I spank them.
To my wife I take a shower.
To my colleague I discuss.
To someone in the bar I try my best to control my anger.
To myself I feel sorry.
When Im drunk, god knows.. -
walk away -
It takes a LOT to get me really angry. When I am very angry, I need to walk away because things might get broken if I don't.
I've always been able to control my temper pretty much--but I will kill with words when really provoked!-
Wow! staying cool most of the time is definitely a great virtue
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I get even. I get back at the person that made me angry. -
I grind my teeth and get a headache. -
I'm fairly good at keeping my temper.
I'm a calm person for the most part and am not usually all that concerned with what people think of me.
When I do become angry I am usually past it in a short period of time.
What will make me go off is attacking my family in some way or putting my family or a family member in danger. -
I imagine a unicorn pissing lasers on the person I'm mad at. -
If I am super pissed, I pretend it doesn’t bother me and keep quite about it for a long period of time. Meaning a few months, b/c I need time before I can actually think clearly on the “why’s” and the “how comes”. I even try and balance out the reasoning’s of why that one person did what they did or said what they said to totally piss me off or offend me. I sometimes even draw out a map to try and figure out how it might be possible they did what they did to try and understand their point of view.
Then when I am ready to say something about it, I start to drop a few hints on the subject b/c I just need them to know. However, most of the time, they are clueless about it b/c so much time has passed by and I usually end up just dropping it b/c it doesn’t matter any longer OR rather it does matter to me, but they wont get it anyway so I just try and work around it. AND…I know this doesn’t make any sense b/c I just read it and sadly enough it’s usually how I do things when I am Super Pissed Off.
Probably not healthy either, and now that I actually see how screwy my answer is, I am wondering: Does anyone else handle it this way or close to it? -
I get pretty angry when I get angry. Luckily doesn't happen too often. The wise person, when he/she starts feeling the emotions go towards anger, should always immediately recoil and become strong in the conviction that "I am not going to get mad here". Wish I heeded my own advice more often. -
Kill people?
Nah, I usually just yell at them. -
I will go to sleep...because after waking up from sleep I will forgot the anger.....-
Wow! I wish I too could do that
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I walk away and take deep breathes slowly and have quiet time for myself for about 2-3minutes. I don't try to communicate with people until I have slowed down my pulse and collected my thoughts. You never want to make a bad situation worse and so I try to calm down and then start with the solutions -
Say..
OOOOOOOOHHHHZAAAAAAAAAAAAA
OOOOOOOOHHHHZAAAAAAAAAAAAA
OOOOOOOOHHHHZAAAAAAAAAAAAA
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Read this adeolathoughts.blogspot.com/2009/09/Relationships-myself-and-other-person.h... Before i should to shout, scream nd destroy things when i got angry but when i discoverd that it didnt help my image doing that, when i'm annoyed i just walk away nd find someone to talk to till i forget i was provoked. -
Sorry i made a typo with the link, here it is adeolathoughts.blogspot.com/2009/09/relationships-myself-and-other-person.h...
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anger was not necessary as much as possible we can control it
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