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What do you do when your recently divorced boss starts dating a crazy woman?

Posted by beckywhetstone • 5/19/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: boss issues, divorce, work issues

What do you do when your recently divorced boss seems to be throwing his personal life away by moving in with a dysfunctional woman? Your boss is a great friend and you love to hang out with him, but you can't stand hanging out with her ... so ... what do you do?

Read The Question, and what I wrote, on my blog at: tinyurl.com/oo498j, but most importantly I want to know what do YOU think?

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5/19/09

greatdeal

Support him in any way you can to pass the time , the time that is that he will need to figure out that she is truely dysfunctional. And come running back to the people that love him and waited this thing out with him

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1. 5/19/09
  
  beckywhetstone
  
  I think that's great advice. Our divorcing friends need friends now more than ever. I say hang with them through the craziness and know they'll come out the other side eventually.
5/19/09

jflower36

Great blog post. I thought you gave very sensible advice. I personally would be very careful about giving advice to a boss about his social life. If the advice backfired the work environment could be very strained.

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1. 5/19/09
  
  beckywhetstone
  
  Hey thanks. I'm happy to read what you think. I agree about being careful about giving the boss advice. The way the woman's question was worded it seemed that they had to be very close friends who shared a lot.
2. 5/19/09
  
  jflower36
  
  Yeah, but that's still shaky ground. I have witnessed boss/employee friendships that were supposedly close, but when things didn't go well personal business was spread to everyone. I'm not saying that the woman shouldn't give her advice, but it is a risk.
3. 5/19/09
  
  timethief
  
  I agree with jflower. I have also witnessed employee and boss friendships that were close go down the tubes when unwanted advice on the new flame was received. Personally, I wouldn't take the risk. If I wasn't asked than I wouldn't volunteer an opinion. If I was asked I would give my subdued feedback in a very kind way and then I would back off.
4. 5/21/09
  
  beckywhetstone
  
  Yes. The woman should mind her own business when it comes to her boss's business. I wish I had been more clear in pointing out these points you all make to her.
5/19/09

MadameX

I think my first bit of advice would be "don't write about it on the internet". It's an awful thing to do to a friend and a risky thing to do to someone who can fire you.

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1. 5/21/09
  
  beckywhetstone
  
  Yeah, that would be the best idea. At least the woman gave me only her first name, and I have no idea where she lives.