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What do you expect from a good deed?
Posted by footiam • 11/09/07 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
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What good deed/s have you done? What do you expect from a good deed. Well, I can tell you what I don't expect. Do check up my, 'For a Good Deed Done' at steptpg.blogspot.com
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Whoa.. Your posts are all sponsored! *amazed*
What do I expect from a good deed?
Uhm.. A good night sleep?-
Some people pop a pill to get a good nite sleep!
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lots of sex }:o)-
You naughty santa!
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if u expect something in return from your good deed then it wont remain good one.. that means u r doing something to get something in favour for ur deeds.-
You didn't read my post.
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Exactly Ankitshukla1
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This past Sunday, a woman knocked on my door and admitted she was begging money to help bury her sister, who had passed away only days before. She was in her seventies and told me she was a neighbor who lived about five blocks away. Knowing how much my own Mothers' burial expenses were, and having the sad time of dealing with those issues, I noticed the woman was holding a spiral notebook with a list of names of previous neighbors who had contributed.
I thought of my dear sisters and brother, with whom I am so close and thought about the sadness this woman was feeling and the pride she must have for this dearly departed loved one. She said her church would help but she had to come up with the rest of the money. There weren't many donations so far, so I excused myself to write her a check for $50.00.
I felt that I was allowing God to work through me to help her and in this day and age where people beg and drink away the coins and bills begrudgingly handed out, I felt I must trust she was telling the truth. I felt my Mother's hand guiding me. What a comforting feeling that was. I didn't expect it but was granted the gift of her presence.-
How wonderful! I was with my uncle once and a man approached us asking for money. I was surprised that my uncle gave it to him and I asked what if the man went to buy liquor or drugs. He replied,"It's not my business what he does. It's only my business that he asked for it and I could help."
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I expect nothing. I prefer if no one knows it was me that did the good deed in the first place. I'm like Clark Kent, but without the man-parts or the kryptonite problem. Or the flying.-
Same. I expect nothing. I think it's probably bad karma to expect something, and pretending to not expect something it never cool.
I end up always giving too much and getting taken advantage of in the long run.
But "Fool me once, shame on me. Fool me twice, shame on ME!" -
Lucy, I'm not sure it's possible to "give too much". Better to make sure the person really in need gets what he needs than to be too cautious and miss someone whose life you really could have impacted. Having an open heart means getting taken advantage of sometimes; so be it. We're not here to keep score. -
It is very possible to give too much.
You can give so much to your children they they become dependent on you and never learn how to really stand on their own two feet for example. There are also plenty of people just looking for someone to leech off of financially or emotionally and you can give them all you have and it will still never be enough for them. They will suck you dry if you allow it. Then there are people who aren't really looking for hand outs but if you keep giving them, they get used to it and stop being grateful for the help and start taking advantage of your kindness. -
Apparently we have different views of what "giving" means. If what you're doing is undermining your children's ability to grow and thrive, then it's not giving at all--it's self-indulgence in one form or another, because of the way that you want to see yourself or because it's easier than fighting or because you don't want to watch them struggle or...whatever. That's not giving. The same would apply to your other example. "Handouts" and "giving" are two very different things. Giving is a lot harder, requires a lot more personal involvement, and requires a lot more than responding to a request, but I don't believe it can be overdone.
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Good points antibarbie. I allow my kids the freedom to experience things on thier own, and use the coyote method to teach them how to think for themselves, with just some moderate moderation to make sure they stay safe. This is a form of giving, is it not?
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Nicely said!
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Expect? Nothing. I HOPE it will make a difference to someone.
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I guess you can never give enough since some people don't know how to stop taking.
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I think rather than "Good" deeds I try and try being the key word to make every step I take one in the highest good of all -
Feeling fulfilled does it for us...
We give away free flowers in our contests and hey, if people post about it or buy flowers through us fine but its not an expectation, more a bit of giving back...
Group hug anyone? www.gosmelltheflowers.com/blog-
That's great. I wish I am as generous! It would make the world a lot more beautiful!
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You expect a good deed to come your way from anyone as you sent one out. Unfortunately, life teaches you not to expect anything and (only) settle for the extra karma points
@Ankitshukla1: Let's leave philosophy out. We leave in the real world. If you help some1 today you at least don't expect him to backstabb you tomorrow. Does this mean you did something for him to get reciprocated?-
5ub, I definitely don't think that doing something good for someone requires any kind of reciprocation. No, you don't "expect" someone to backstab you tomorrow when you've helped them, but that's simply because most people won't (whether out of gratitude or simple practical recognition that they'd be cutting off a possible source of help). But if I help someone and they DO turn around and do something unkind, I'm not going to think, "After all I've done for you!" You do what you do for its own purposes and leave it at that--there's no scorecard.
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I expect nothing. -
how can it be a good deed if you expect something in return? when i do something good, it's from my heart and i expect nothing back! -
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Should anyone expect anything from a good deed? -
Sounds like a lot of folks have taken "situational ethics".
I prefer what Zig Ziglar once said, paraphrasing a Bible quote, "If you help enough other people get what they want, you'll get more than you could ever want or need during your lifetime."
That means, when you help others get things... in time, someone will help you when you least expect it. It's not about keeping score, it's about life abundance.
Selfishness and greed rarely bring truly good deeds, as "what goes around, comes around".-
Isn't Ziglar's presentation just another way of saying that if you do good, there's something in it for you? Seems to me that's just as self-oriented as expecting tit-for-tat.
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Not at all, the Old Testament (agreed upon by nearly all religions) has a lot of reference to abundance growing from tithing as well as from "good works". There are also stories of "good works" where the gift is long delayed, as in the case of Job.
It has more to do with expectations, than anything else. If you EXPECT to be rewarded for your good deed, then that is boastful, and not generally about life abundance.
If you do "good works" because something in your heart directs you to do them, and you expect nothing in return, then that is in the spirit of life abundance.
I don't remember the exact verse, but I do remember the story of the "abundant storehouses" as the direct result of tithing and giving additional grain to needy people. The next year, the farmer's harvest was so great he had to build more storage. That's the kind of thing I'm talking about. -
I am a giver. Giving is a gift (the bible considers it a "spiritual" gift). I've given generously and I've been a recipient of generous giving. I've been manipulated, slandered, ripped to shreds and loved in my giving. It has not always produced results that are equal to the giving, but I am not responsible for the results.
If we give with improper motives, we will never be satisfied. Unmet expectations are self-inflicted when we give with strings attached.
Did you know it really is better to give than to receive? I do. Yet, receiving is also one of the best forms of growing in humility. -
I expect nothing either. Totally agree with Globalgirl. Also wanted to add that "accepting a gift" is giving someone else the chance to do a good deed. :-) -
If you expect something, you'll just get disappointed.
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If one expect something, that wouldn't be helping, would it?
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Hi all,
I'll help anyone who needs help,if I can, and don't expect anything in return, why should I? I often help the old lady out across the street,she always asks me "how much"? when I cut her grass or do some painting for her, I always reply "don't worry about it,just glad to help". My reward is knowing that she didn't get ripped off by someone taking advantage of her.
I'm not religious but I do actually feel better about giving than receiving, weird eh?
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I expect nothing more than a smile, which I believe is a reasonable return for a good deed.
Peace!-
Yeah, one ought to expect a smile. A sour face will piss a person off!
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It's called a deed not a service I don't do it for that reason to help turn a good deed daily. I am bound to this for life from the boy scouts and eagle scout and it just the way I live now.-
That's great. It's a deed, not a service. Nicely put. Thanks.
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Nothing. I would do it because I felt it was the right thing to do. The response is totally in someone else's hands. -
a good deed too, kinda Golden Rule -
A good deed isn't worth which was done in expectation of something.-
I suppose that would only bring dissapointment.
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you should expect nothing unless you have paid for it -
i expect recognition that it was a good deed. a expression of gratitude would be nice. otherwise, how am i to know that what i did was good?-
Perhaps, that's better. Otherwise, how do you know you are not taken for granted.
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nothing, otherwise it is not a good deed, but a selfish motive.-
I'll buy that!
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one should be doing good deed /karma without expectations , it will automatically pay when time comes-
It stills pays; that's all it matters!
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I expect lot's of cold hard cash. -
I suppose a "thank you" from the person who you helped would be nice -
Thank you is always nice. Yes! Thanks!
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nothing
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