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What do you think he really means?

Posted by anicha250 • 12/22/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: advice, relationship, truth or talk

"How are you doing? I hope you're doing well despite how weird I've been toward you. I want to tell you that I'm sorry about the way I've treated you. I want to tell you that I'm sorry about the way I've treated you. You did not deserve that at all. You've been one of the nicest people I've ever gotten to know. The problem is that I think I'm incapable of loving. I don't know why I am the way I am. I probably have some psychological disorder or something like that. You are such a wonderful girl and you deserve to have the best and someone who is normal and not stupid and crazy like me. You don't deserve that. I want to see you happy and I know I can't do that for you. I wish I could. I hate myself for not being able to. Please don't waste your time on me. I'm sorry for putting you through all this, but I was hoping I would be able to change, but I should probably just be alone forever."

My girlfriend met this guy online and after a week of seeing each other he stop picking up his phone when she calls. They really liked each other when they first met. He sent her this note after a week of silence. I told her it is just talks (junk) but she doesn’t believe me. What do you guy think; maybe I am wrong.

User Comments

12/22/08

hatingtherain

umm, this is a hard one.

he doesn't like her. he's trying to be nice about it.

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12/22/08

timethief

I'm thinking that telling your girlfriend's story on this online forum to perfect strangers is not a good idea. The way I see it is that what we strangers are hearing is your second hand version of only one side of the story, and the story really isn't yours to tell. We aren't hearing the other side of the story from the guy involved and we aren't even hearing your girlfriend tell her own story. But that's just me. Others may feel differently.

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12/22/08

anicha250

I understand your point but I have her permission on this. She wants to know what other people think about this. I am just helping. She really likes this guy. She is my friend and she needs help.

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1. 12/22/08
  
  hatingtherain
  
  she doesn't need help. she needs to leave this guy alone.
2. 12/22/08
  
  timethief
  
  In the OP you say:
  I told her it is just talks (junk) but she doesn’t believe me.
  
  I think you are dead wrong. I think hatingtherain is right.
12/22/08

edgecrosser

He doesn't like ur girl.

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1. 12/22/08
  
  hatingtherain
  
  I don't think she gets that for some reason.
12/22/08

MadameX

Well, it seems that there are two possibilities: He's just talking crap to make excuses, gain sympathy and get away without looking like a jerk...in which case the best thing your friend could do is steer as clear as possible OR he's telling the truth...in which case the best thing your friend could do is steer as clear as possible. So it doesn't matter in the least "what he really means". It's a bad sign, time to move on, and digging deep to try to analyze it is a step in the wrong direction.

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1. 12/22/08
  
  hatingtherain
  
  We finally agree on something.
2. 1/01/09
  
  girlzstylin
  
  I agree. This is one that needs to be let go of and quick.
12/22/08

khkamruzzaman

May be he doesn't want to make chat again with her......
Ur girlfriend should be leave him.

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12/22/08

lvs

the advice would be lost in translation

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1/01/09

wwhitlock

The guy thinks she is clueless. Proof is that she can't figure out that when he ignores her and then gives her a "Dear Jane," she still wonders what he means.

This guy is smart enough to run away from a woman who needs needs not only everything spelled out but help recognizing the letters. What a horrible relationship that would be.

Tell her to get some confidence in herself and move on.

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1/01/09

Arnous81

Well I've never seen a guy use this excuse before to get away from a girl.But anyway the girl should leave him because:

1-Either he's a lyer - which means she should leave him

3-Or he is uncapable of loving + rude for not picking up- which means she should leave him.

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1/02/09

ModelElaine

this is what I say to guys when I am not interested and don't want to hurt their feelings telling them for what it really is

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1. 1/02/09
  
  Arnous81
  
  If you don't wanna hurt someone's feelings just say "I'd rather have you as a friend"..and if he keep insisting and it gets annoying.You say "Your insisting is making not even like you as a friend".If he's not a psycho, he'll stop.If he is, then God help you.
1/02/09

idealpinkrose

we say those things when we don't wanna hurt other feelings.

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1/02/09

faithsju243

Sounds like an extended version of it's not you it's me. I would say he doesn't like her.

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