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What do your parents nag you about?
Posted by yileen • 7/23/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: family, Parents
My Mom has been going "Talk to your brother...blablabla..." (For the record, she wants me to give him some advice on life etc.)
She has somehow trained my brother well in the force of repel. So well she's starting to hand over her motherhood duties to me. Damn.
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My parents' philosophy on life was "with a good education, you cannot be certain of a successful future; without a good education, you can be certain of a dismal future". So their nagging was always about studying hard during the academic year, getting essays in on time, being well prepared for final exams.
Mum, Dad sorry... it was a waste of your time. Aged 18-21, I was not listening to advice from anyone, let alone from parents. As a result, I was very involved in student politics but got a very very ordinary first degree
Fortunately I smarted up over the years and studied for a post-grad degree in middle age. This time, thanks to my parents' advice, it was a really top quality result.
Parents sometimes know best, yileen (although my own adult children may disagree).-
I guess it kinda depends if there are any generation gaps involved? Plus its hard to find a compromise these days due to the fact that we're Asian and my parents are slightly towards the conservative end while the rest of the world is revolutionizing...
But sure as hell, you won't go wrong studying your ass off IF you know how to have a coupla beers now and then. *grins* I think I turned out alright!
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Your mother should not be dumping her responsibilities onto her children. The children should not be accepting that dumping either.
But he is your brother and he may put somewhat more credibility in what you, a sibling, says. But if he knows Mom sent you, he'll just blow you off too. He may also resent you butting in and tell you he already has a mother and he doesn't need two of them.
Sounds like the best solution is an outside, neutral third party...like a counsellor.-
Thing is I've tried talking to my brother before but he's so pent up inside its really hard to break through. My parents have always compared us and he gets defensive taking any words from me.
Third party = his girlfriend. Though it doesn't seem to be working either. He just sits in front of the PS3 and grows like, horizontally!
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my parents nag about me being on the pc to much-
Ah yes! I get that one too!!
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Neither of my parents are nags. They don't nag me about anything, possibly because I'm grown. But they never did...they weren't the kind to force me to do anything. I suppose one thing my mother will "bring up" a lot is how I'm a bit of a nomad...I'm always moving and of course she just wants me to be settled...but I wouldn't consider that nagging.-
My parents don't nag me either, but they do try to get me to go to church more often (my dad's a preacher so it is to be expected). -
Yea I never got nagged about that...it was never even a discussion we just went. Occasionally my father will MENTION his church activities almost the way someone would mention being cold so a guy would offer his jacket...never works tho.
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My parents never nagged me. They just hoped I'd be a happy person, which I am. -
I usually get the "stop slumming it speech" from my stepmother because she thinks that my preference in men is less than favorable.-
Lol...my mother used to think I was too "fast" like in my early 20's. So anytime I brought up a date I had or a guy I was seeing she'd say, "Whats his last name?" I always thought...I'm gonna use that when I have a slutty daughter.
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hahaha nice! Her problem is that I tend to go after the heavily tattooed types. I mean I can sort of see her point, last 2 were tattoo artists (no neither of them tattooed me) and prior to that it was band members, artists and designers. Way back in my early 20's it was bankers and even a lawyer or two so I guess she feels I slipped. Hehe but in my defense guys who are covered in tattoos have a users manual right there, you can tell what is important to them, if they are jaded, etc just by the ink. It's like n idiots guide to dating in plain view
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Good point. I jump around a lot. I date nerdy types, investment bankers, artists, designers, dated a teacher for a few hours once...lol.
I think by now my mom knows who I end up with is kind of a crab shoot...but he will definitely be interesting.
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Thankfully, my mother no longer nags me. Seems like the roles are reversed these days and I am now nagging her to take better care of her health, see her doctor, etc.-
I am nagging my mum the same as well! She's got arthritis now but still thinks she's 20. I have to keep reminding her she's only young at heart.
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Ah, my mother was, is and always will be a nag. I call her Naggy McNagHag. It's terrible.
And she's NOSEY! Oh dear God is the woman nosey. If she can't figure out what's going on with all of her neighbors (by peeking in their yards and homes), doesn't know what me and my siblings are doing at any given moment, or doesn't know the juiciest town gossip - she nags me to try and get the info for her 
Nag nag nagitty nag -
My mother nags about how Im always forgetting to stuff, Im easily distracted, and that I should go to mass on sundays -
What did my parents not nag about would be a better question. Now they strongly suggest. But I do not have to listen if I do not want to I am an adult with two kids and A Husband. -
When I was a kid it was house cleaning and losing weight while she brought home a box of twinkies. Yeah, nice support system there.
I lost the weight, became an adult and it became. "One day when I have grand babies." That was so annoying and I felt so pressured.
Now she has the grand babies and I gained weight from it all it's back to the weight thing. Now my husband buys the twinkies and fast food. For me the nagging doesn't really stop and I just ignore it. It just doesn't seem sincere to me. -
My mom was able to get a pretty good nag going. Then as I became an adult it was micro-managing suggestions-- "Wouldn't this work better for you over here?" (Um, no).
My Dad doesn't nag as much as compete. His tactic is to tell me how much better/intelligent/efficient/more organized/important etc., his experience and his way of doing things is.
At this point, I tune him out. -
My mum thinks her way is always the best. And she brags about it and tries to make me use her way of doing things too. So to counter-nag that, I've actually made it a point to proof her wrong so she'll keep quiet. And I think I've done it enough times to make good progress. As you can see, she has diverted her attention to the other sibling in the house. ROFL!
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My parents aren't really the nagging type. In fact i nag them more than they do me. But my Mom does love to make comments about me having her grandkids never mind that i'm single. -
Study... Oh the hours i've been lectured.
It really de-motivates you when it's just constant nagging. -
Parents usually nag when my brothers go home late. -
Not calling or being around enough. -
They nag me about my and my husband's parenting skills. I've started to nag back about THEIR parenting skills.-
I am actually dreading that sort of stuff when I actually do have children...ugh!
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Same old stuff!
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"Can we please come of the basement for a little while"
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"Water! for the love of god, some water"-
If you stop handing them water then maybe they might just stop nagging altogether! *grins!
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My mom nags me about spending more time w/ the "family" (ie.. grandma, aunts, uncles and cousins). Now that my husband and I have settled (retired military) she thinks all our time should revolve around the "family". The only problem is that this "family" didn't even acknowledge me as a child and growing up now I have to cow tow to them? I don't think so.
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Providing grandchildren; as I'm missing a critical component, i.e., a wife, I'm safe. I've comforted my parents with the thought that Charlie Chaplin was a father well into his 70's.
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Haha they're most probably more worried about themselves not being around when the grandchildren are. By the way I'm sure you'll make a cool dad at 70! Lolx.
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My parents were always pretty cool and still are. Didn't really nag about anything just got me guided in a good direction. As a parent the only thing I "nag" about is cleaning up. It just doesn't sink in that we do not leave the living room looking like a tornado has come through and sit down and play the playstation!-
Keep on nagging. Dad nagging on that when I was 8 sunk through. Lego pieces scattered throughout the lounge = not happy dad. You should just hide everything if its not put away. Might make them get to their stuff before you do. =D
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My parents nag me about doing the dishes which I always leave in the kitchen.-
Should nag parents to get a dishwasher =D
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they nag about the people I chose to date -
EVERYTHING! after living on my own for four years, i've had to move in with them temporarily... my mom tells me to clean my room, tells me i'm staying up too late, i'm going out too much, i'm not going out enough, i need to do laundry, i don't wash dishes right... agh... i can't wait to move back to my apartment!
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