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What is a core belief you hold?
Posted by TonyB • 9/04/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: beliefs, core belief, decisions
Our beliefs control almost every decision we make.
One core belief I have is that ordinary things consistently done produce extraordinary results.
What is one core belief of yours?
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wow deep thoughts tonight Tony, glad to see a thread of substance .... I think the core belief I have concerning work is that Fair isn't always equal....I work with special needs students and getting the general ed teachers to "get" this concept is like pulling teeth.
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I am a firm believer in the idea that mistakes and/or failures are only mistakes and/or failures if we do not learn from them. Life is chock full of lessons, it's our duty to be aware and learn them.
Also, I believe that all people are worthy of respect. No matter what title they may hold, how much they may make or how important they may seem. We are all created equal and as such deserve to be treated with respect. -
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Be ready to apologise, even if you have not caused the wrong. A gentle word unlocks the possibility of a restored relationship more than stiff necked refusal ever would.
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Core beliefs
(1) A belief is a premise, accepted with or without proof, which allows us to predict and build our future. Our beliefs (premises) become the foundations on which automatic, repetitive behaviour patterns are formed. As children, we unquestioningly adopted many of the beliefs and emotional patterning of our parents, siblings, friends, teachers and religious leaders. These core beliefs formed our foundational view of reality and became entrenched in our subconscious. As adults, we have grown consciously and chronologically, but some of our subconscious core belief systems may have remained suspended in their child states. By addressing outdated subconscious childhood belief systems, we can align our subconscious and conscious minds and resolve inner conflict. Once this has been achieved, we are free to live according to our own beliefs.
(1) As children we were sponge-like. We absorbed what we were told to believe. As adults, we have the ability to choose what we believe.
(2) A belief is not an idea held by the mind; it is an idea that holds the mind.
(3) We don't see things as they are; we see things as we are.-
I think many hold onto their beliefs since the world would be just *that much* more unbearable for them if they had to tarry without them. This is how the illusion of a 'non-optional' belief in something might be formed. An unyielding devotion to a belief almost renders the belief required, but not for the sake of the explicit devotion to the belief itself, but for the implicit alleviating comforts gained that holding this belief serves to the person holding it. The belief serves the believer. Beliefs are usually self-serving and serve a purpose that benefits the one holding it.
Obviously if abiding by a belief is non-optional, thereby 'required', this suggests that the person doesn't actually choose the belief, the belief chooses them. (There may be some truth to that, actually. i.e., beliefs your raised into, etc). So if believing in something is required (i.e., non-optional), then we can agree that believing in it does *not* make it any more or less true than another who is alternatively required to *NOT* believe in what you hold to be true.
I think saying that a belief in something is 'non-optional' is ultimately an illusion. There may be outside influences that are dependent on your belief and this is what subconsciously gives the illusion of it being 'required' to believe in so that it doesn't disrupt the equilibrium that is keeping your house of cards from crashing down. It may be that a belief serves as a defense mechanism, and a way to avoid inferences that the newly revealed truth may set forth.
You always have a choice to seek things out. Some handle new revelations differently. The thing is, people arrive at their beliefs much differently than others. Some need proof, some don't. And so it goes.
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That underneath all of our masks and armor we are all the same.
We are all fragile. We all live for the same purpose and it is just as difficult for everyone else as it is for you.
At least that gets me through my bad days. -
I firmly believe that IF it were ever administrated right, communism would be just as good as democracy. A country where there were no social or economic classes is something I dream of. I despise that western culture has the phrase 'middle class'... or 'upper class'. I wish we could all be equal in class. I don't like it that there are folk rich enough to wipe their butts with 3ply $1000 notes, and at the other end there are folk too poor to afford toilet paper at all.
The problem is communism never has been administrated right - absolute power corrupts absolutely, and it'd be a difficult thing to find someone who wouldn't be corrupted by that.
I despise how hundreds of millions of Americans blindly bash communism without taking the time to learn about it or find out if it has ANY merits.
On the other hand... I FIRMLY believe that America must always, and needs to, remain the world's strongest military power forever.-
I think communism looks good on paper but democracy offers hope. Those who can't afford toilet paper can cling to the hope that someday they will be able to wipe their butts the same as the upper crust.
With communism, there is no hope of earning more and no real reward for going above and beyond.
Granted, they both have their flaws but democracy seems to factor in human nature more effectively.
I don't blindly bash communism, the idea sounds very logical but just because it works on paper doesn't mean you can make it happen.
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"I think communism looks good on paper but democracy offers hope. Those who can't afford toilet paper can cling to the hope that someday they will be able to wipe their butts the same as the upper crust."
That might be another concept that looks good on paper but rarely plays out. In practice, hope among the American poor is a pretty rare commodity, and where it exists is more often premised on wild fantasy (winning the lottery, for instance) than on any realistic notion of being able to change one's life circumstances through independent action.
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After no power in S. Louisiana for 4 days after Gustav, right now my primary core belief is that air conditioning is very, VERY good!
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Hi, Anniepooh!
The trees (around our house, anyway,) are mostly okay. One fell & knocked another down, but nothing fell on the house. A local creek overflowed it's banks by Tues. morning, though, & our whole neighborhood was flooded badly all day. Fortunately our house was higher than the water, although it almost got into my car. I kept a video journal I'll be uploading to my blog in the next few days. Right now I'm going to take three showers, drape myself over an A/C vent & have the 1st good night's sleep I've had all week!
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ekim941, you said... With communism, there is no hope of earning more and no real reward for going above and beyond.
Why do people NEED to earn more if their families are taken care of, have enough to eat, a roof over their head, warm clothes, and education for their children? Fact is people DON'T need to earn more. Greed makes people want to earn more. Greed isn't an admirable trait.
You also said.... I don't blindly bash communism, the idea sounds very logical but just because it works on paper doesn't mean you can make it happen.
That's what I meant when I said IF communism were ever administered right, it would be just as good and probably better all around than democracy.
I would GLADLY give up MANY MANY freedoms and rights if the state could guarantee me and my family were looked after.-
"Why do people NEED to earn more if their families are taken care of, have enough to eat, a roof over their head, warm clothes, and education for their children? Fact is people DON'T need to earn more. Greed makes people want to earn more. Greed isn't an admirable trait."
I definitely agree with you. And yet, it is the drive for "more" that inspires progress. Now, I would be the first to argue that much of what we term "progess" is really devolution at work, but many advances ARE positive...and since very few people are motivated to work harder simply for the sake of the challenge or the greater good, who would have incentive to put in long hours finding a cure for cancer or a clean, abundant substitute for oil? Maybe the issue isn't so much about people needing to earn more as about society needing something to offer to those who contribute more because, sadly, without a "prize" most simply won't expend the effort.
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All my core beliefs, were written by Mary Schmich of The Chicago Tribune, on June 1, 1997 and made famous by Baz Luhrmann on his album "Something For Everybody"
These are my favorite lines ... among many, that has been the underlying way I try to conduct my business online and offline .. (besides "it never hurts to ask" philosophy)
* Read the directions, even if you don’t follow them.
* Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it’s worth.
Everybody’s Free (To Wear Sunscreen)
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I have a lot of weird beliefs, and my own psuedo-religion that I refuse to share with anyone.
The most basic belief I hold is that all we have is this one life, and we only have this one life with each other. Therefore, we should live it to the fullest while helping everyone else live it to the fullest. I picked it up over time and didn't get it from any particular place, but I'm delighted to know other people often call it "secular humanism."
"If you take their money, you take their shit." Often summarized as, "Take the shit with the sugar," this essentially means that most seemingly unconditional generosity is shallow and with motive.
But it's not all sunshine and sugar cookies. I don't consider myself a genius on any level (in spite of what I was told throughout Elementary and Middle school). I tend to base my idea of how smart the "average" person is on myself. As a result, I tend to think most people are stupid.
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My core beliefs are: (1) those who make it to the highest positions (jobs, politics, etc) are the ones with the least tread remaining on their shoes. The tread from their shoes is all over good peoples' backs as they have been walked all over; (2) silver tongues rise to the top in spite of their level of (in)competence.
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Actually I think it's possible that AngieA does mean "who" you love. I was raised to believe that in the end we would be judged and only those who love God/Jesus/Holy Spirit who will avoid damnation. I think that's where she's coming from. If I'm correct about that then I strongly disagree.
I do not believe in the existence of an individual or triune super power (creator/destroyer), a judgment day, a book of life, a heaven, a hell or a purgatory.
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Would you please clarify what you mean by: That ultimately in the end, we are judged by not what we know so much, but by who we loved. -
TimeThief,
Being you we're raised with that belief that must of have had some impact on you as you still remember it well. You would be correct in your statement in what I meant.
Putting it a bit simpler, basically, I am saying that anytime one shows any kind of kindness to anyone it shows a bit of God in you, as God is love. As God =Love.
& Isn’t it true that when ever anyone is selfish or becomes mean or a murder or a thief’
or rapists or just anything that has to do with intentionally hurting someone else, isn’t it always a result of LACK of LOVE within that person?
Therefore lack of love is lack of God and they do go hand in hand.
Who you love or who you are is a result of who is within you. I believe its also the way "He" will judge us in the end. And that’s my own core belief.
@TimeThief, that you don’t believe it or strongly disagree, well.. ., that’s your choice and has been since the day you were born.
Also why I stated above that what you wrote as #3. > We don't see things as they are; we see things as “we are”, is so interesting to me as I do agree 110% with that statement and fine it very true.
Wishing you all love
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@AngieA
Yes, we do understand each other. Your belief is clear to me God is Love
(1 Corinthians 13:4)
Neither male nor female, neither good nor bad, neither light nor darkness but containing all there is: the universal stream of life giving consciousness [love] flowing through all is god. Hence, god is found in everyone and in everything; god just keeps on is-ing.
Love and peace
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You must give respect to others freely. To expect people to earn your respect is illogical and counterproductive: no person can know the standards of every person he meets, so it is not possible to earn the respect of those they meet; by not offering respect to another person, you invite that person to withhold respect from you, creating a negative interaction.
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That self knowledge is the most important knowledge you will ever acquire.
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My core beliefs include, but are not limited to, the following:
1. Whatever falls from the top shelf will land on my toe.
2. If the stain is brown - I do not want to know the source. (I have 5 kids)
3. My checkbook will never balance as long as the Bank does the accounting.
4. I don't have to agree - to understand.
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Henry Ford said, "If you believe you can do a thing, or if you believe you cannot, in either case, you are right." As I said in other words above it's my core belief that most of us don't consciously choose our beliefs; they are often based on interpretations of past experiences and information we've received from respected sources like parents, teachers and religious leaders. As adults we can choose to identify our core beliefs (positive and negative), explore their roots and validity in the here and now, then we can let go of beliefs, feelings and behaviors that drain vitality and limit success.
I have gone through this process and my core belief with regard to the questions: "Why I am here?" and "What is my purpose?" can both be answered with "for living, loving and learning". -
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That if people would learn to talk less and to listen more, more problems and issues would get resolved!
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-all glory is fleeting
-that their is a reason beyond just random happenstance why existence "exists."
-arrogance, especially when coupled with ignorance, is a dangerous entity.
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-Never trust a man who does not curse, or a woman with the name "Chet" tatooed somewhere on her body. -
I truly believe that everyone who states their belief in some arty-farty lofty way is trying to impress everyone.
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@TonyB
Thanks for posing a thoughtful question that led to a revealing personal process which produced the following results:
(1) Change is the only constant in life, and I am able to be flexible, adaptable and to flow with its ever-changing events.
(2) The same life lessons will be presented to me and over again until I learn them.
(3) Life's changes are challenges, which help me grow and become more powerful, purposeful and strong.
(4) The more difficult the adversity, the more valuable the life lesson will be.
(5) I am complete, perfect and whole.
(6) I am capable, competent, compassionate, lovable and powerful.
(7) I can see clearly what is happening both outside and inside of me, without emotional or rational attachments and distractions.
(8) I can experience joy and peace that pass all understanding when I enter the ego-less state of harmonious balance.
(9) Not everyone will love me nor will I love everyone but that's okay because we are all much more the same than we are different.
(10) I am in unity with all other living beings; I am connected.
(11) I can set realistic goals and achieve them.
(12) I learn equally well from both success and failure.
(13) Ideas and theories are not necessarily truths.
(14) Death is a transition, a new beginning.
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@globalgirl... how is what I said arty-farty and lofty?
It just bothers me that nobody on the thread uses standard straightforward language such as 'I believe paedophiles should be castrated and fed bromide'... or 'I believe NATO should invade Russia and beat the crap out of them'...
It just gets irritating that nobody uses plain and straightforward vocabulary instead of trying to subtly display their IQ.-
What are yout talking about othellobloke? I think its irritating when people presume that using good word choice is a display of their IQs toward others or in someway a flex of superiority like you are implying.
Its irritating when the myspace generation feels like there is a "straight forward language" that is better to use. What does that even mean, "straight forward vocabulary"? Everything everyone has said on here is straight forward.
Plus, look at the thread you are in, did you not realize there was going to be very well put together expressions of thought here? The title is in pretty "straight forward vocabulary." So how 'bout you stop judging based on your own limited understanding of vocabulary and read a book and catch up to the rest of us.
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@thefly...
I knew it wouldn't be long before a silly boy with a inferiority complex would come up with that line.
I fail to see how you can determine my understanding of the vocabulary used. For your information I'm reading three books at the moment, I've got three bookshelves, and two shopping baskets on the floor... all of which are overflowing with books. I read approximately two books a week. And you read how many? Let's not go into books DUDE!
You mentioned 'good word choice'... sometimes less is more. Being plain and simple more often than not has a better impact and delivery than some arty-farty crap that most people don't want to hear.
If people wanted to read 'good word choice' they would read Shakespeare.
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haha, nice defense with the whole book thing. That was a joke man, but Im glad you cleared that up for me. And dont call me dude. I like how you use arty-farty, that paints such a clear picture for me, nice choice of words there [insert sarcasm here]. I like how you think good word choice HAS to be Shakespeare, haha. Man, you sure know how to make me laugh. And I never said that using less words is a bad thing either but there is nothing wrong with painting elegant pictures with words for something like your "core belief." I think its funny how you are trying to flex your intellectual muscle by judging people's choice of words. You know what, you have changed my whole outlook on how I talk and write, Im gonna go pop my collar right now, make a myspace account and use less words when trying to explain myself, Im even gonna go fill three bookshelves with books, read FOUR books, and fill two shopping baskets with books.....and just for the heck of it, use the word books more often, haha.
buzz buzz
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Who wants elegant pictures painted? People want to know core beliefs... not embellishment.
FYI Shakespeare was my last choice - I was going to use Oscar Wilde or George Bernard Shaw.
As for flexing my intellectual muscle, where'd you get that from? I want people to be real and get straight to the point.
Arty-farty is colloquial language. Not sure why you'd need to be sarcastic? It's the lowest form of wit apparently.
Also not sure why you seem to think having a myspace account is beneath you? You should try it... might bring you up to normal people's level. -
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When in the Course of human events it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature’s God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. — That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, — That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shewn that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security. — Such has been the patient sufferance of these Colonies; and such is now the necessity which constrains them to alter their former Systems of Government. The history of the present King of Great Britain is a history of repeated injuries and usurpations, all having in direct object the establishment of an absolute Tyranny over these States.- Thomas Jefferson -
When in the Course of human events it becomes necessary for one people to dissolve the political bands which have connected them with another and to assume among the powers of the earth, the separate and equal station to which the Laws of Nature and of Nature’s God entitle them, a decent respect to the opinions of mankind requires that they should declare the causes which impel them to the separation.
We hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness. — That to secure these rights, Governments are instituted among Men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed, — That whenever any Form of Government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the Right of the People to alter or to abolish it, and to institute new Government, laying its foundation on such principles and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their Safety and Happiness. Prudence, indeed, will dictate that Governments long established should not be changed for light and transient causes; and accordingly all experience hath shewn that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed. But when a long train of abuses and usurpations, pursuing invariably the same Object evinces a design to reduce them under absolute Despotism, it is their right, it is their duty, to throw off such Government, and to provide new Guards for their future security. — Such has been the patient sufferance of these Colonies; and such is now the necessity which constrains them to alter their former Systems of Government. The history of the present King of Great Britain is a history of repeated injuries and usurpations, all having in direct object the establishment of an absolute Tyranny over these States.
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@thefly... I couldn't have said it better than the crazy old bat Margaret Thatcher...
Too often clarity and simplicity are overwhelmed by pompous words, long sentences and endless paragraphs. If we all wrote in plain English, how much easier - and efficient - life would be.
Some people think that flowery language and complicated writing is a sign of intellectual strength. They are wrong. Some of our greatest communicators were - and are - passionate believers in the simplicity of the written word. As Winston Churchill described a particularly tortured piece of 'officialese': 'This is the sort of English up with which I will not put.'-
wow, you really missed the point of my whole argue othellobloke. I never said it was bad to write with less, my whole point is that you are judging the words people use and on what standard, yours? Give me a break. How 'bout you go re-read what I wrote and then you can start arguing again otherwise dont even wast my time.
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I believe that beliefs are not ones own. Ones experiences with the environment shapes, molds, and ultimately determines what one believes. So even this core belief I'm expressing now, has been determined and is not my own, because "I" like "beliefs" has also been shaped, molded and determined by the environment and is simply a consequence of the causes before it.
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Not everything happens for a reason (unless you count the immutable laws of physics as a reason).
And along those lines, hoping that something is true does not make it true.
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I think that one of my core beliefs is that I'm too old or two young to do something I want to do. I've said that to myself so many times that it's ridiculous. I don't WANT TO believe that, but somehow, I just do.
As for something more philosophical, I believe we live more than one life, and nothing can go wrong if looked from the universal or eternal point of view. (Another version of everything happens for a reason.) -
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One of my core beliefs is that: "There is no fail, only learning." We all learn through experience and that means veering off course occasionally so that we can learn what works and doesn't work for us and the people around us. I love this belief and every time someone indicates that I have 'FAIL'-ed, I reply "Well I just learned what didn't work. So now I'll do better."
Along with this goes the belief that the only people who are learning are those who dare to fail, those who are moving forward and daring to try new things, to step out of their own boundaries and venture where they have not dared before.
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Jesus Christ declares of Himself, "I alone am the Way, the Truth and the Life. No one will come to the Father but through Me." John 14:6
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"Atheism is a requirement for a complete human being. Religion is a crutch that is shackled to you, one you never really needed in the first place, but were convinced by others that you couldn't live without. Once you discover it's only an illusion, that it's not even a real crutch, you discard it gladly." - Brent Yaciw
"Atheism is not a philosophy; it is not even a view of the world; it is simply an admission of the obvious. In fact, 'atheist' is a term that should not ever exist. No one ever needs to identify himself as a 'non astrologer' or a 'non-alchemist'. We do not have words for people who doubt that Elvis is still alive or that aliens traversed the galaxy only to molest ranchers and their cattle. Atheism is nothing more than the noises reasonable people make in the presence of unjustified religious beliefs. An atheist is simply a person who believes that the 260 million Americans (87 percent of the population) claiming to 'never doubt the existence of God' should be obliged to present evidence for his existence-and, indeed, for his BENEVOLENCE, given the relentless destruction of innocent human beings we witness in the world each day." --Sam Harris, "Letter to a Christian Nation" -
My core belief is that at the heart of us all we are connected. ( A bit new agey, yes, but very true).
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- A brief summary of my core beliefs are found in my personal blog post titled:
What’s at your core?
In that post I have included a link to a site I think others may benefit from visiting as I did www.growingaware.com.au/Negative_beliefs_examples.htm -
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- * Ideas, theories and beliefs are not necessarily truths.
* A belief is not an idea held by the mind; it is an idea that holds the mind.
Buddhists believe that our attachment (craving desire within) to witness (cling to) or to be a part of specific outcomes, as well, as our aversion to other outcomes is the cause of unhappiness.
When there is a sequence to our thoughts, they have as their object either something pleasant or something unpleasant. If the object of our thought sequence is pleasant we begin reacting to the thoughts with liking that grows into craving, a clinging, an attachment. If it is unpleasant, we begin reacting with dislike, which develops into a rejection, a hatred, an aversion.
Attachments to beliefs, rites, rituals and religious practices are manifest as eccentricities. Open mindedness and egocentricity are diametrically opposed. When we fail to acknowledge that these eccentricities are just attachments to ideas, beliefs, theories and outward displays of religiosity that contain no essence of power other than what we give to them, we suffer.
When egocentric thinking is successful in getting what it wants, positive feelings accompany it. But when egocentric thinking is not able to achieve its purposes, negative feelings result.
These are some of the many feelings that might accompany egocentric thinking. They often occur when egocentric thinking is “unsuccessful.”
* Defensiveness
* Arrogance
* Apathy
* Alienation
* Resentment
* Depression
* Anger
* Irritability
* Indifference
I’m struggling every day to detect, correct and conquer my own egocentric thoughts, words and actions, so I can make a direct contribution to peace and harmony in my own life and in the world. How about you?
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