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What kind of pictures do men find attractive on dating sites?

Posted by ModelElaine • 10/13/08 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: dating pictures, dating profile, dating site, Online Dating, pictures

Last time I attemped to ask, many people asked me why didn't you post your own picture? So, now, I would like to see what type of pictures do men really honestly find attractive on dating sites. Do men find pictures more appealing because they show more skin? Do they like better when a woman is dressed up? Or do they like regular cell phone type pictures that show you at your worst? I posted a few different types of my own pics and voting poll here internet-dating-guru.blogspot.com/2008/10/what-kind-of-pictures-attract-men...

If you like to vote and comment on why you voted for a specific picture, please do so. If you have a personal problem with me doing this, please keep it to yourself.

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10/14/08

Friday13

I voted for #8. It's a beautiful picture, you look very relaxed in it and you have a natural stare that, I don't know ... while the picture itself doesn't show as much as the others, I feel that it just says more. But that's just me

(then again, I know little about dating sites, and what's commonly looked for or expected in them)

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1. 10/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  thanks for voting and your comment! also, if you could say in the comment section on the blog itself, that would be awesome! thanks
10/14/08

BlueSunshine

I voted for 12 because it looks like a normal shot. If saw half of those pictures on a dating site, I'd think they were fake.

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1. 10/14/08
  
  calais50
  
  that's what I was going to say, except I would choose #1 b/c it doesn't look so much like a professionally taken photo.
10/14/08

cranelegs

they're all quite nice, and i think you won't have a problem finding a sincere date using any of them.
but if i had to pick one. i'd go with #23.

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10/14/08

farangrakthai

Well, on dating sites, most men will find more skin more attractive.
Because most men visiting a dating site are looking for skin.
But the genuine ones, looking for a relationship, usually are upset by too much skin.
So depends what you want to do with a dating website.
You want traffic, show skin.
You want genuine customers, do not show too much of it...

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10/14/08

calais50

When I tried online dating, photos of me looking friendly, approachable, girl next door worked the best. "Fashiony" photos that make you look "stuck up" are the worst, IMO. Showing skin may work for some men, but only the kind looking for a hookup.

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1. 10/14/08
  
  BlueSunshine
  
  I tried the online dating thing one time (awful decision) and I thought showing skin was appealing towards the "trashy myspace" crowd. There were some chicks with ultra-whoreish photos that made me laugh because I couldn't take them seriously.
2. 10/14/08
  
  calais50
  
  I know what you mean, and for me, if a guy has his shirt off in a photo, I find it so trashy.
10/14/08

farangrakthai

Because you are looking for a relationship.
The guy with is shirt off is not...

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10/14/08

myriadlife

I would struggle to pick someone from a photo, they can be so misleading. You can't see charm or humour you have to experience it.

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1. 10/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  Definitely! But at this stage in dating all a guy has to go by is photos. Then they decide to meet and see the rest
10/14/08

jadedconformist

#12. Looks more natural and more appealing to me than the others. (Still not my type, whatever that may be.) My first impression of the others is that they are scam artists that will ask for cash to pay for their passport to visit you.

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1. 10/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  that's too funny! I wrote about dating site scam artists before. No, I don't ask for money, buy me drinks, dinner, etc. but no cash award LOL
2. 10/14/08
  
  jadedconformist
  
  I didn't realize that was you in all of those photos. Don't worry about my opinion - my sisters say I'm attracted to nerdy, plain women - so if that's any consolation for how brash I appeared - then please accept! (Gawd, I'm such a d*ckhole.)
  
  But seriously, I was on a dating site once and I appreciated the women dressed in everyday casual dress. Surely you'll get a lot of attention if you're in a bathing suit since most guys will take that as an insinuation to go ahead and be 'flirty/sexual' right off the bat. It all depends on exactly what you're looking for.
3. 10/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  no worries, there is actually an option in the voting poll to say "none of the above. you are too butt ugly Elaine to attract anyone on a dating site"
10/14/08

josephgelb

the same style that is on the friendster.com casual encounters page

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10/14/08

drjay1966

a bit of latex generally does the trick for me....

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10/14/08

xmarks

There is enough skin in the first several shots that I wouldn't need a date. I went with 12. That one looks like less effort, more fun and . . . ummm . . . the road less traveled.

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1. 10/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  LOL you are too funny! did you comment that on the post? please do if you don't mind. I think my readers will find it hilarious
2. 10/14/08
  
  xmarks
  
  At you request, I made a slightly rude comment on the post (you didn't actually request a rude comment but you didn't request a non-rude comment, which is practically the same thing).
  
  I should note, belatedly, you are attractive in all the photos. I am just commenting on the style.
3. 10/14/08
  
  jadedconformist
  
  I agree with #12. So Basically, Elaine - if you want to attract jerks, then use that photo.
4. 10/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  xmarks
  
  I love your comment! it's really funny! I am sure my readers will love it too. thank you!
10/14/08

ekim941

I voted for #11. I like a girl who's not afraid to get her hair messed up

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1. 10/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  thank you for the vote!
10/14/08

chrissymarie321

Elaine, cool pics and you are very striking......
If I was looking on a dating site for a guy though, I would want to see his eyes and none of them show yours properly...
But, hey perhaps thats just the artist thing....I am fascinated by eyes

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1. 10/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  good point
10/14/08

kschwidi

I voted for #8. it´s so beautiful, your eyes looking fantastic. the best pic for an dating site...

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1. 10/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  thank you
10/14/08

faithsju243

I voted for 12 because I think it doesn't look like you're trying to hard.

My favorite pic is 11 but there's something about it that doesn't scream internet dating site photo, it kinda feels like a beauty shot one would take and put in her porfolio. Side note beauty shots are considered the hardest (not that I know much about modeling) and I think you nailed it in that one.

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1. 10/14/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  thank you for the vote. on a side note No.11 is actually a beach shot, no make up, no reflectors, no photoshop, "all-naturel". I actually wasn't trying on that one at all, so thank you for the compliment. it's good to know someone thinks I look fine without makeup and stuff.
  
  PS: I used to do beauty modeling, not so much any more
10/14/08

TangledWeb

I'd go with 8, 11, 12 & 13, but overall, 8 is so HOT!

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10/14/08

looseink

Well, well, well. Tough to decide, really. All great photos. I think - to be brutally honest - anything more than a closely cropped headshot is asking for trouble. Alas, I'm not a prude...but think about what the photo is supposed to do. If it is supposed to be your 'first impression' then I suggest viewing the photo choices again after I ask this question: Imagine you are meeting someone for the first time in person, which of these photos would best represent the first impression you'd like to leave? The key is IN PERSON. Great question, BTW.

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10/14/08

GPSnavigation

I would take #13 and crop it closer so we could see more of you and less of the car.

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10/14/08

Kryptonitemare

#12 and #8 would get my attention, The rest look way too modelish if I were gonna go looking for someone on a dating site.

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10/15/08

ModelElaine

thank you everyone who voted and left comments. it's still going for another day or two so jump on the bandwagon ;-) if you haven't yet!

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10/15/08

Rozie818

I go with # 11, it has a sexy appeal, but not a I want sex appeal.

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1. 10/15/08
  
  ModelElaine
  
  thank you for voting
10/15/08

LeighP

I like number 1. You look great - but you also look real. Some of the others would look fake and/or questionable on an online dating site.

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10/15/08

Xight

Am I the only one that likes #2?

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10/15/08

KiefersCorner

Personally I would pick 2 and 4 if I were looking for a date. I like women who are confident and outgoing.

P.S. I would never respond to the Ferrari one since that says it’s all about her.

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1. 10/16/08
  
  Xight
  
  Yea that one just seems like all she would be interested in is rich men.