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What Makes a Woman a "Grown Woman"?

Posted by lotusb • 10/13/09 • Subscribe to this Discussion [RSS] • Report This Topic
Topics: women

I know you've heard someone say it..."I'm a grown (ass) woman...!"

Aside from the fact that it's probably one of my top 5 most annoying things to hear someone say...I've always been curious about what people's definition of "grown woman" is.

**Disclaimer**
I'm asking about the definition of "grown women" specifically because that's what I want to discuss. I am aware that men can say/think that they are "grown men" as well.

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  1. Agit8r
    10/13/09
    Agit8r
    I think it normally is said in a mocking way, as in "I just saw a grown-ass man wearing..."
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    1. lotusb
      10/13/09
      lotusb
      How how I wish that were true. I think I've literally heard this phrase uttered at least 200 times in a VERY serious way.

  2. crpitt
    10/13/09
    crpitt
    I normally hear that when someone does something incredibly stupid, so probably the opposite to whatever the person who said it is doing
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    1. lotusb
      10/13/09
      lotusb
      I confu-sid.

      Come again?
    2. crpitt
      10/13/09
      crpitt
      I normally hear 'I am a grown woman' being said right before that person then does something incredibly stupid. So doing the opposite to that person would be more grown up ish.
  3. ToughCookieMommy
    10/13/09
    ToughCookieMommy
    This is a great question. I think that being a grown woman means being able to stand on your own two feet and not needing constant validation from others about your worth. That's just the tip of the iceberg, though. There are so many other aspects to being a grown woman...
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    1. lotusb
      10/13/09
      lotusb
      By that definition (although I realize you note that there is much more to the picture) I was a "grown woman" when I was about 17.
    2. ToughCookieMommy
      10/13/09
      ToughCookieMommy
      You are so right, some of us come into our own at an early age while others take longer to experience these feelings.
    3. jonyx
      10/15/09
      jonyx
      That's pretty much what I'd say, which is why I get a good chuckle when my sister says it repeatedly for anything she chooses to do that someone makes a comment on. Usually the grown woman bit is directed at my parents of which she is currently dependent on (and has been till the day, even with child).

      Makes me twirl a little bit to hear :[
  4. dbowles1017
    10/13/09
    dbowles1017
    Boobs?
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    1. lotusb
      10/13/09
      lotusb
      By that definition I was a grown woman at 11.

    2. ToughCookieMommy
      10/13/09
      ToughCookieMommy
  5. environmentalbooty
    10/13/09
    environmentalbooty
    I will always be a child at heart. But I felt I was all grown uo when I wore my first pair of heels. I think society vised me as a grown up woman when it began calling me "Mam" at about 28.
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  6. HollytheHousewife
    10/13/09
    HollytheHousewife
    Taking care of ever dang body, worried bout their feelings...being everyone go to..when you care about everyone and put them first you know u can handle anything thrown at ya....that's how u know ur grown...or can hold ur own
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  7. Agit8r
    10/13/09
    Agit8r
    brains
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  8. anthony9910
    10/13/09
    anthony9910
    her atitude, I guess
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  9. nothingprofound
    10/13/09
    nothingprofound
    Taking responsibility for one's own life.
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  10. trailofpen
    10/13/09
    trailofpen
    I guess if they have boobs, they are a grown woman, physiologically speaking.
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    1. lotusb
      10/14/09
      lotusb
      Why boobs and not a period. I mean by that definition Val Kilmer is a grown woman and Gwenyth Palthrow is a child....
  11. HollytheHousewife
    10/13/09
    HollytheHousewife
    Yea I like np answer
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  12. crazyTsu
    10/13/09
    crazyTsu
    it's fuzzy across cultures
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  13. amybyrd21
    10/13/09
    amybyrd21
    Taking care of a family, house, job, farm, or other responsibilities makes you all grown up. In some countries as soon as you are married you are grown up. i have met many women that are not grow up just by being married
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  14. exit2013
    10/14/09
    exit2013
    'What Makes a Woman a "Grown Woman"?'

    Answer: When she can pay her own way in life. 8-)
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  15. MissSuzie
    10/14/09
    MissSuzie
    I usually hear this phrase uttered by a woman who did or is about to do something she shouldn't.

    The other night, my friend wanted to go home with a guy who was clearly sleazy after drinking entirely too much. I tried to talk sense into her, but "she's a grown ass woman."
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  16. ThriftShopRomantic
    10/14/09
    ThriftShopRomantic
    I think it's "grown" woman versus "technically a woman but not fully grown/established yet", like someone in their late teens.

    And yes, usually, the implication is that because you are a "grown" woman, no one should be having anything to say about the various things you plan to do, or your judgment about them.

    Apparently once you're "grown" no one is supposed to question your choices.
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  17. ismsandologies
    10/14/09
    ismsandologies
    I've only ever heard a drag queen use that phrase.

    But honey, she sure was a grown-ass woman. You stayed on her good side, or you stayed away.
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  18. NicoleB2009
    10/14/09
    NicoleB2009
    Life experiences.
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  19. melindaville
    10/14/09
    melindaville
    I think it is the same thing that makes a man a grown man. Being responsible for the choices you make and being independent and secure in that independence without needing a partner to validate your worth. Being grown up means that you don't run from mistakes or people, you meet your challenges head on, and you learn from your mistakes.
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    1. Theresa111
      10/14/09
      Theresa111
      I got it. You changed your avatar. It's cool. WOw. It was like a rush finally figuring this out. Brain freeze. Great answer.
    2. melindaville
      10/15/09
      melindaville
      You changed yours too, Theresa--:)
  20. XxJamberxX
    10/14/09
    XxJamberxX
    Grown from what?
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  21. cookingasshole
    10/14/09
    cookingasshole
    Grass on the field
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    1. DollinNYC
      10/14/09
      DollinNYC
      ugh!
    2. cookingasshole
      10/14/09
      cookingasshole
      play ball!
    3. DollinNYC
      10/14/09
      DollinNYC
      perv!
    4. cookingasshole
      10/14/09
      cookingasshole
      well if the lady is of age and shaves thoroughly I would still hit it.
  22. crazyTsu
    10/14/09
    crazyTsu
    Being emotionally ready to bear a child. There, I said it!
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  23. voodooKobra
    10/15/09
    voodooKobra
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  24. Sebastyne
    10/15/09
    Sebastyne
    I could not utter the words "I'm a grown woman" with a straight face... I'm married, 33, living on the other side of the world from my parents, very independent from what *other* people think of me... But I feel like I won't be "grown" for as long as my mother is alive. I think the key to feeling like a grown up is a separation from the influence of your parents. I'm still too concerned of what my mother thinks of my choices and how my choices effect her, to feel grown up. I've never had a real Fuck You Mom -puberty, which I think is a massive part of why I feel this way. The irony here is that I felt rebelling is too childish and selfish to do it when it was time for it, and having never done it, I'm still lingering in the grey area of a teenager and a grown up - at 33. So all you mom's who's teens are yelling at you today; Be glad.
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  25. sorcerer
    10/15/09
    sorcerer
    brains and b(.)(.)bs
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  26. Funkkeejooce
    10/15/09
    Funkkeejooce
    A grown woman…:

    1.Is a person who knows what they want in life and is not bound to change their minds every second due to some outside influences like trends, fashion, what society dictates, etc.

    2.Is independent emotionally and financially. A grown woman doesn’t have to have a man to make her complete for she is able to meet her own needs.

    3.Is a confident person and is secure in her knowledge she doesn’t have to pretend to be somebody to be liked or accepted.

    4.Is a person who stands their ground when they feel passionate about something they believe in.

    5.Is open-minded to other people’s ideas, beliefs and views of life.

    6.Is not intimidated by the opposite sex when it comes to ideas, work, views, earning power, etc.

    7.Doesn’t give in to peers’ pressure.

    8.Is honest and can hold on to their beliefs and values.

    **Disclaimer**
    This is my personal views and can apply to men as well.
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  27. FredSr2009
    10/15/09
    FredSr2009
    I think it is about behavior and how well she takes on responsibility.
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  28. harveyavatar
    10/15/09
    harveyavatar
    Someone who lives according to her finality, or at least endeavours to. This applies for men too.
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